Best Desire Discrepancy Podcasts (2025)

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S3E11: The Male Low Sex Drive: Americas Biggest Sex Secret 38:13

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2h ago38:13

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Jenni and Daniel read 3 listener questions from women who have male partners with low sex drive. Learn what depletes the male drive, even when testosterone is healthy or high. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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Why obligation sex destroys desire (and what works better) 28:49

4d ago28:49

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You think having sex when you don't really want to will keep your partner happy. But obligation sex actually destroys desire—and doesn't help either of you in the long run. Research shows that when you cross your own boundaries repeatedly this way, your desire drops even further. Resentment builds. And your partner can wind up feeling even more unw…

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The PGspot - Top 10 Ways to Keep Sex Spicy 35:05

5d ago35:05

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Is your sex life feeling a little routine or predictable? In this episode, we dive into the top 10 ways to reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring excitement back into the bedroom. From playful communication and exploring novelty to building emotional connection and prioritizing pleasure, you’ll learn simple, research-backed strategies to help…

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S3NeuroSexy Bonus: Resentment Only Hurts Yourself 27:39

6d ago27:39

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Jenni and Daniel continue the conversation with colleague and friend, Michelle Miscione. They dive deeper into how resentment erodes relationships, and how laughter and personal responsibility are essential antidotes. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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274: The Challenge to Grow Up with Dr. Corey Allan 30:00

7d ago30:00

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In today's episode, Dr. Corey Allen joins us for a deep dive into fictional, but incredibly common, marriage scenarios that reveal surprising truths about desire, conflict, and emotional maturity. We explore how sexual and relational struggles aren't mistakes—they are intentional invitations to grow up, become more courageous, and see our spouse mo…

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S3E10: NeuroSexy & the Art of Explicitness 33:32

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Jenni and Daniel sit down with couples therapist colleague, Michelle Miscione, to discuss a case study on sexuality and neurodivergence. Michelle talks about "Eli and Marcus", who navigate ADHD and autism traits and how they successfully have made sex and intimacy work for them. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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S3E9: Delayed Ejaculation Bonus: Jenni and Daniel Find Common Ground 19:35

9d ago19:35

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel resolve their marital tension on this bonus episode that follows Delayed Ejaculation: Jenni vs Daniel. They explore differences in their styles of thinking, and differences in how they approach sex therapy. Listen as they find common ground- as a couple and as colleagues. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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Your brain is keeping you stuck in a desire gap (here's how to override it) 44:19

11d ago44:19

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You know your desire discrepancy is a problem. You've known for months, maybe years. So why haven't you done anything about it? It's not laziness or lack of care—it's your brain doing exactly what evolution designed it to do. Here's how to override it. This episode helps you understand the neuroscience of "the comfortable pain trap," the real cost …

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273: Financial Foreplay: The Unexpected Way to Build Trust and Turn On Intimacy, featuring Dan Ockey 34:19

14d ago34:19

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Money and intimacy have more in common than most couples realize. In this episode, we sit down with financial coach Dan Ockey to talk about financial intimacy — how the way you manage money together reflects the way you handle trust, communication, and teamwork in every other area of your marriage (yes, even the bedroom). You'll hear Dan Ockey's in…

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S3E9: Delayed Ejaculation: Jenni VS Daniel 34:44

14d ago34:44

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel explore delayed ejaculation, teasing out their different approaches to this topic. Listeners get to peek into real-time conversations between Jenni and Daniel, witnessing their marital conversations and disagreements around sex therapy. They define the Arousal Spectrum and why it's so important to work with this in your body to…

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ADHD & Desire Gaps, Part 1: High libido, low libido, or sometimes both 33:11

18d ago33:11

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If you have ADHD and your sex life feels challenging, you're not broken - your brain just works differently. Maybe you have super high libido and use sex or masturbation to feel at home in your body. Or maybe your libido is low because sex hasn't been working for your body or you're stuck in your head and you don't know why or how to fix it. Or may…

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The PGspot - Top Five Hormone Misconceptions Debunked 21:38

19d ago21:38

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Hormones play a vital role in how we feel, think, and function, but misinformation about them is everywhere. In this episode, we’re cutting through the confusion and tackling the top five hormone misconceptions I hear most often from patients. From the truth about hormone therapy and breast cancer risk to why vaginal estrogen isn’t just for people …

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272: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 2 17:07

21d ago17:07

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Welcome to Part 2 of this special series on keeping your penis — and your marriage — healthy and happy. In this follow-up episode, we the practical side of sexual health: testosterone, nutrition, porn use, sleep, and yes… penis size. (Spoiler: your wife does care about your size, but it might not be in the area that you think.) You'll learn: The tr…

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271: Firm Erections and Keeping Mr. Happy Happy, Part 1 24:28

21d ago24:28

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Let's talk about one of God's most incredible and misunderstood designs — the penis. In this episode (part one of two) we dive into the fascinating science behind erections — what makes them work, what shuts them down, and what you can do to keep things running at full power. From brain chemistry to heart health, this episode will change how you th…

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S3E8: The New Rules of Dating: Let's Be picky Together 25:42

21d ago25:42

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel chat with sexuality journalist, and Lifestyle editor for the New York Post, Fabiana Buontempo about her experiences in the dating world professionally and personally. The stakes are higher for men as women create autonomous and lucrative careers; while other women are taking a "pseudo"-celibacy approach to their dating game. Je…

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Getting on the Same Team, Part 2: How to talk about sex without fighting 42:23

25d ago42:23

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You know you need to talk about your desire gap, but every time you try, it devolves into a fight. Someone gets defensive or spirals into shame, and you're right back where you started – or worse. In this episode, you get the exact framework for having the conversation that actually works to get you started on the road to solving your issues togeth…

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270: Mixed-orientation and Impossible Marriages with Laurie Krieg 44:34

28d ago44:34

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What happens when your marriage feels impossible to sustain—but you believe God still has a plan? In this powerful episode, we sit down with author and speaker Laurie Krieg, who shares her story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, wrestling with faith, desire, trauma, and the transformation that followed. In this episode, we cover: Laurie's…

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S3E7: Tactics For Bedroom Feedback 30:49

28d ago30:49

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Listener Question from a 45 year old male in the dating scene asks about how to name his desires in the bedroom without it coming off as criticism. Daniel and Jenni discuss the difference between criticism and feedback; why he might be blocked, and how to feel permission and space to name what he wants. It's validating to pleasure your partner for …

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Getting on the Same Team, Part 1: Stop venting to friends and start solving the problem together 30:22

1M ago30:22

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You're both in pain about your desire gap, but you're processing it separately – venting to friends, talking to therapists, building separate narratives about what's wrong. Meanwhile, the gap between you keeps widening. Sound familiar? Most couples approach mismatched libidos like adversaries: one person wants more sex, one wants less, and now you'…

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269: Q&A: Porn Alternative, Oral Sex, Sex & Spirituality, Low Desire & Discrepancies 28:10

1M ago28:10

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In this special Q&A episode, we answer five anonymous listener questions about the most common struggles couples face in their intimate lives. Topics we cover: Healthy, uplifting alternatives to pornography for erotic inspiration Why some men struggle to orgasm from oral sex — and what helps Balancing strong sexual desire with your relationship wit…

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S3E6: Postpartum Pampering 28:04

1M ago28:04

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel talk with new mom, Suzie, and discuss the challenges in how to reclaim her sexual identity after postpartum with a toddler and a baby. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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The PGspot - Rethinking Menopausal Hormone Therapy: Insights from the FDA Roundtable 34:08

1M ago34:08

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In this episode, we break down the key takeaways from the recent FDA roundtable where leading physician experts presented compelling data on the safety and efficacy of menopausal hormone therapy (MHT). Tune in as we explore how decades of research are challenging outdated perceptions, what the latest evidence means for patients and providers, and w…

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What your body learned about love before you could talk: Healing attachment wounds with Dr. Aline LaPierre 51:47

1M ago51:47

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Why does your body shut down during intimacy even when your mind wants connection? Why does rejection trigger panic that feels way bigger than the situation? The answer might have nothing to do with your current relationship—and everything to do with attachment wounds living in your nervous system. In this episode, Laura talks with Dr. Aline LaPier…

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268: How to Love Through Your Sexuality, with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife 37:01

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For so many Christian couples, sexuality and spirituality can feel like they're at odds. We've been taught that to be holy means to suppress desire—but what if our sexuality is actually one of the most powerful ways to love? In this deeply insightful episode, we talk with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to integrate faith, desire, and embodim…

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S3E5: The Irony Of Sexual Selfishness 27:57

1M ago27:57

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Dr. Jenni and Daniel have a conversation with their guest Andy, who asks how to transition from being a silent sexual partner to creating a strong masculine presence in the bedroom. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.By Kim Kaplan Productions

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Desire Solutions: Signs that you're rushing penetration & what to do instead 28:20

2M ago28:20

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Why does penetration feel painful, numb, or just... meh? And why does rushing to it kill desire over time? If you're experiencing pain or numbness during sex, struggling with low libido, or wondering why your partner seems less and less interested, this episode is for you. It reveals one of the most common desire killers: penetration before the bod…

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267: Bad Marriage & Sex Advice, with Monica Tanner 40:14

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Have you every received bad marriage advice? We sure have! In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend and returning guest, Monica Tanner. She recently released her book Bad Marriage Advice, and together we unpack some of the most common (and harmful) myths about marriage and sex and what the real advice should be. If you've ever wondered whether t…

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S3E4: Sex In The Sandwich Generaton 44:43

2M ago44:43

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Guests, Rocky and Monica, discuss long-term marriage (35 years +) and navigating waning desire and grief/loss. Both guests have been married over 35 years, and struggle with being the sandwich generation and feeling very full taking care of their own children as well as elder parents. Jenni and Daniel discuss key aphrodisiacs for long-term relation…

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The PGspot - Redefining Porn: Consent, Ethics, and Pleasure 24:51

2M ago24:51

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What is ethical porn, and how is it different from the mainstream adult industry? In this episode, we explore the world of ethical porn; a movement that prioritizes consent, fair pay, diversity, and respect for performers both on and off camera. We break down the key differences between ethical and mainstream porn, discuss why it matters for viewer…

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Desire Killers & What To Do Instead: Pouting When You Don't Get Sex 35:45

2M ago35:45

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Tired of the cycle where you don't get sex, so you sulk, which makes your partner want sex even less? You're not alone – and you're definitely not getting the results you want. In this episode, we break down why pouting, withdrawal, and passive aggression after sexual rejection literally kills desire and pushes your partner further away. If you're …

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266: When Your Spouse's Fantasy Pushes You Too Far (and When Yours Gets Rejected) 27:10

2M ago27:10

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In this episode of Get Your Marriage On!, we're diving into gridlock—the moments in marriage where no matter what you choose, it feels like you lose. These conflicts can leave you wondering if you married the right person or why your spouse can't see things your way. But conflict itself isn't the problem—how you handle it is. And since sex is often…

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S3E2: When Sex Feels Like A Quota 36:04

2M ago36:04

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Guest, Liz, mid 40s female, asks about how to navigate a desire discrepancy with her husband, so it feels fulfilling versus filling a quota. Dr. Jenni and Daniel explain asynchronous arousal; and offer tips on how lower desire partners could be invited with more space and intention; while Daniel offers insight into the higher desire partner's think…

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S3E3: Vulnerability Is Sexy 41:29

2M ago41:29

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Today's guest, Kim Kaplan, Producer of SATP, asks her own listener question about what makes good sex. After after experiencing a surprising, spontaneous afternoon delight with her husband, Dr. Jenni and Daniel discuss the ingredients that make up good sex, how lingerie is so subjective, and XXX. Kim learns how her secret to success is not to take …

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S3E1: Modern Pleasure Becomes Sex And The Psyche 22:50

2M ago22:50

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Co-host Kim Kaplan transitions to Producer of the Year as Dr. Jenni and husband Daniel take off with season one of Sex and the Psyche. Daniel and Jenni are not just clinical sex therapists, they are married. They take listeners behind the scenes of sex and relationship therapy- diving deeper than just the mechanics of sex, but also exploring why we…

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Sex Help for Smart People Evolves to The Desire Gap Podcast: Unpacking The #1 Issue I See 19:45

2M ago19:45

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This episode is all about why I'm making a change in this podcast, including why that is going to be extra great for you as a listener. In fact, you're going to get even more of my focused expertise, aimed at the issue that affects 80% of people in relationships at some point: libido mismatch. I'm keeping all the no-nonsense, research-based, caring…

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265: Planning a Bedroom Party Worth Going To, with Tammy Camp 37:51

2M ago37:51

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Ever said yes to a party you didn't feel up for—then drove home glowing because it was totally worth it? In this episode, we've invited fellow Get Your Marriage On Program coach, Tammy Camp, to use this metaphor to talk all about creating an intimate relationship both spouses want to show up for! In this episode you'll learn about . . . Spontaneous…

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The PGspot - In Your Head, Not in Your Bed: Understanding Sexual Performance Anxiety 21:12

2M ago21:12

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In this episode, we dive into the physical and psychological factors that can impact male sexual performance, from medical conditions and stress to unrealistic expectations and complex relationship dynamics. Whether you're personally navigating these concerns or supporting someone who is, we’ll share practical strategies to help. We’re also busting…

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What is Embodiment? Why Somatics Are Key to Better Sex and Relationships 31:55

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Your body remembers every touch, every rejection, every moment of connection—even when your mind has forgotten. But most of us are living from the neck up, disconnected from our bodies and the wisdom they hold about our desires, boundaries, and authentic selves. In this episode, I'm demystifying embodiment and somatic (body-based) approaches for in…

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S3E1: Sex and the Psyche Trailer 2:42

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Sex and the Psyche is hosted by clinical sex therapists, Dr. Jenni Skyler and Daniel Lebowitz. Married with two children, Jenni and Daniel, take listeners behind the scenes on how they talk shop on a deeper level as they conceptualize the intersection of relationships, sex, and psychology. With over 16 years of helping couples and individuals enhan…

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264: Sexual Arousal and Sexual Confidence 21:04

2M ago21:04

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Do you know what arouses you? Knowing that could completely change the way you show up in the bedroom. In this episode, we dive into the difference between desire and arousal, and why understanding your own arousal triggers is the missing link to greater confidence, deeper intimacy, and more passionate sex in marriage. We cover the history of our s…

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Is It Okay to Fantasize During Sex? A Guide to Helpful vs. Unhelpful Mental Erotica 26:31

2M ago26:31

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Many people worry that fantasizing during intimacy means something is wrong with their relationship or attraction to their partner. In this episode, we explore why mental wandering during sex is completely normal and can actually enhance your experience. Learn the difference between healthy fantasy that keeps you present and embodied… versus proble…

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263: Mindset Shifts for Better Than Happy Intimacy, with Jody Moore 43:06

3M ago43:06

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What if the biggest blocker to a thriving sex life isn't desire, kids, or schedules—but your mindset? In this episode, master coach Jody Moore joins me to show how small shifts in thinking can create big changes in intimacy. We cover: Why "keeping your spouse happy" quietly destroys connection The surprising reason lower-desire partners stay stuck …

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The PGspot: Mix Masters: What Compounding Pharmacists Really Do (with pharmacist Justin Clark) 48:37

3M ago48:37

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Ever wondered what a compounding pharmacist actually does, and why it matters? In this episode, we sit down with pharmacist Justin Clark, the owner of Val Vista compounding pharmacy to explore the world of personalized medicine. From tailoring medications for individual needs to creating solutions when commercial drugs fall short, we dive into how …

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Situationships and Friends with Benefits - What Works and What Doesn't 24:13

3M ago24:13

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Are casual-sex relationships always problematic, or can they actually work for some people? In this episode, we break down the key differences between "friends with benefits" (clear boundaries) and situationships (confusing lack of clarity). Learn why catching feelings during casual sex is completely normal and healthy, when these arrangements can …

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262: Masturbation: Connection or Division? A Perspective You Haven't Heard 28:28

3M ago28:28

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Masturbation is one of the most controversial topics in marriage—especially in conservative or religious circles. In this episode, we're not going to tell you what to believe, but we will offer a new perspective and framework for thinking about it. Here's what you'll discover: The surprising cultural history that shaped Christian attitudes toward m…

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261: Bonus: 30 Days to a New You and a More Intimate Marriage 13:16

3M ago13:16

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What if you and your spouse chose one area of your relationship to focus on—and committed to it for 30 days straight? That's the heart behind our tradition at Get Your Marriage On called Sextember—a month dedicated to intimacy, playfulness, and connection in marriage. In this episode, I share the surprising backstory that inspired Sextember, includ…

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Should I Tell My Partner What Turns Me OFF? 29:05

3M ago29:05

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We're going to get really nitty-gritty here today and give you the full details on why, when and how to tell your partner what turns you off. I'll also give you the important exceptions -- that is, when NOT to frame something as a turn-off. Plus you'll get a step-by-step guide on how to have these conversations -- and my Golden Rule for how to make…

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260: When the Higher Desire Spouse Stops Initiating - What to Do in Four Steps 23:24

3M ago23:24

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What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful "sexual standoff" can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected. In this episode, I'll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple's story, and give you four practical steps to break out of …

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259: Squirting, Female Ejaculation, and The Foundation for Sexual Adventure & Novelty 26:32

3M ago26:32

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In this episode, I'll walk you through a complete how-to guide for female ejaculation: What it is and how it works Why it can be such an incredible and bonding experience A step-by-step process to help you and your spouse experience it together Common challenges and how to troubleshoot them We'll also dive into the relationship side—why novelty can…

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Can You Really Learn Relationship Skills Through Pleasure? The Science Says Yes 26:23

3M ago26:23

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What if getting better at relationships and intimacy could actually feel amazing? In this episode, we look at the evidence to challenge the assumption that learning relationship skills has to involve painful, difficult conversations or years of heavy therapy. Drawing on science about how our brains learn best, we talk about why pleasure and play ar…