Best Disorganized Attachment Podcasts (2025)

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EP 605: Disorganized Attachment Explained: Nervous System Chaos, Identity Fragmentation & Healing (Attachment Style SOS Series – Part 3) 54:12

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Welcome back to the Attachment Style SOS Series! In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into disorganized attachment. The style that feels like craving closeness one moment and wanting to run for the hills the next. If relationships feel like emotional whiplash, if you’ve ever felt “too much,” “too complicated,” or like you become a different person w…

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E23: (Part 2) Working with Love Addiction, Limerence, Guilt, Shame & Disorganized Attachment using IFS Therapy & Parts Work - Akiva's Session 55:40

25d ago55:40

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Akiva joins me for a follow-up session after our first one, where we talked about her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment, & Relationship OCD, which you can find here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701/episodes/18065421 In this session, we continue her work with a vulnerable inner child (exile) in which we o…

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EP 609: Hard Truth Series: The No-BS Truths About Attachment, Healing, and Why You’re Still Repeating Relationship Patterns 44:46

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If you’ve done all the work, read the books, saved the posts, listened to the podcasts, and yet you’re still ending up in the same relationship patterns, this episode is for you. I’m sharing the truths about attachment, dating, and healing that are often avoided because they’re uncomfortable… but they’re also the ones that actually create change. T…

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The Therapy Wars: Science, Self-Help, and that IFS Article 1:41:18

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Dr. Rick and Forrest explore one of the major topics in psychology today: the tension between "mainstream" and "alternative" approaches, and how to understand evidence-based care. Using the recent IFS controversy as a backdrop, they discuss what it means for an approach to be evidence-based, the real-world dangers of inflated claims, and therapy’s …

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How Stress from Relationships Destroys Your Body | Adam Lane Smith 59:03

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Can relationship stress literally make someone sick? From cortisol spikes to blood sugar dysregulation, this discussion reveals how emotional conflict is processed by the body as a survival threat. Topics Covered: 👉 How chronic relationship stress creates a cortisol association with a partner 👉 Why psychological stress alone can spike blood sugar 👉…

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What We Need to Know About Millennials and Gen Z 15:46

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode, we’re unpacking What We Need to Know About Millennials and Gen Z, the beliefs, pressures, and cultural shifts shaping how these generations think, work, relate, and cope. If you’ve ever wondered why younger adults communicate the way they do, value what they value, or struggle in ways that mi…

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EP 608: 5 Signs You’re Dating Someone with Avoidant Attachment (And What To Do About It) 42:40

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If you’ve ever felt incredible chemistry with someone… only for them to suddenly pull away, go cold, or confuse the heck out of your nervous system, this episode is for you. We break down the real signs of avoidant attachment (without shame, without villainizing, and with so much nuance), so you can finally understand what’s happening in your relat…

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EP 607: How to Make an Avoidant Love You (The Answer You’re Not Going to Like) 33:45

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If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “How do I get an avoidant to choose me?” or “How do I make an emotionally unavailable person love me?” This episode is your wake-up call. I’m giving you the truth no one online seems to want to say out loud. You cannot “make” anyone love you… but you can understand the deeper wounds that keep pulling you towar…

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Borderline Personality: DBT and Working with Self-Hatred with Dr. Blaise Aguirre 1:12:01

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Forrest is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Blaise Aguirre to discuss Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). They explore how extreme emotional sensitivity can lead to despair, self-hatred, suicidality, and an intense fear of abandonment, and how DBT can teach the skills needed to regulate those feelings. They dis…

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Parenting and Intergenerational Repair 42:18

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How repairing your own attachment affects the way you show up for children or those you nurture. 👉🏼 Join us LIVE for our Family Archaeology Half-Day retreat ⁠Home for the Holidays from the Attachment Perspective⁠When: Saturday, Nov. 15th | 9AM-1PM PT / 12PM-4PM ET⁠⁠https://www.mettagroup.org/retreat-family-archaeology⁠ Try our free video resource "…

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The #NoContact Trend, Why It Happens and What It Costs 32:38

10d ago32:38

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we break down the emotional and psychological reasons people choose to go no-contact, how trauma and survival patterns influence that decision, and the often unseen costs that come with cutting ties. If you’re a therapist or someone looking to understand this behavior with more compassion,…

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What a 45-Year Marriage Taught Her About Masculine Leadership 50:02

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What does a truly masculine role look like in a healthy marriage? Danielle explains how masculine presence, emotional safety, and respect create trust, connection, and long-term stability Topics Covered: 👉 emotional safety as a core masculine responsibility in marriage 👉 why women need security to bring their best selves 👉 masculine listening and h…

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EP 606: What Secure Attachment Actually Feels Like ( Attachment Style SOS Series - Part 4) 42:16

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If you’ve ever wondered what real secure attachment feels like, not the Instagram version, not the watered-down definition, but the lived, embodied, grounded experience, this episode is for you. In this final installment of the Attachment Style SOS Series, I’m walking you through what secure attachment looks like in your nervous system, your identi…

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E24: Healing Relationship Anxiety (ROCD), Disappointment, Failure & Shame with IFS Therapy - Karena's Session 42:07

13d ago42:07

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Right before Karena's engagement with her soon-to-be fiancé, we do this transformational session where we explore her fears and obsessions around commitment and potentially making a mistake. Karena's honest recount of her experience with Relationship Anxiety (ROCD) and a piece of deep inner work allow us to find that her fears were rooted in feelin…

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Redirecting Rage into Roles When Gratitude Feels Toxic 9:47

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In this episode, you and I are going to experiment with two actions to metabolize our rage so we can get to a headspace and heart space to practice genuine (not performative) gratitude as a family. We’ll connect the dots between Audre Lorde’s teaching and applied neuroscience. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information at:…

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Toxic Relationships: Why We Stay and How to Leave 1:24:24

15d ago1:24:24

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Dr. Rick and Forrest explore toxic relationships, focusing on how to identify and exit them. Rick talks about how positive traits like empathy, loyalty, and a sense of duty can keep us stuck. They then discuss common relationship red flags like lovebombing, cycles of idealization and devaluation, power imbalances, and what Forrest calls “the fuzz.”…

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Making Friendships in Adulthood 14:00

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we explore Making Friendships in Adulthood, why it can feel harder as we get older, what gets in the way, and the key shifts that help us build meaningful connections beyond small talk. If you’re craving real friendship, this conversation will show you how to step into the arena and find i…

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Why Anxious Guys Struggle in Love (And How to Fix It) 1:13:47

17d ago1:13:47

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Are anxious men unknowingly sabotaging their love life? This video breaks down how anxious attachment affects dating, relationships, and self-worth and how to shift toward secure, confident patterns. Topics Covered: 👉 Anxious Attachment & Perceived Lack of Leverage 👉 Using Humor in Attachment Work 👉 Dating Struggles: Lack of Safety Cues 👉 Anxious D…

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EP 604: Avoidant Attachment: Why You Pull Away (Attachment Style SOS Series Part 2) 38:05

20d ago38:05

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Welcome back to Part 2 of the Attachment Style SOS Series! Today I’m breaking down avoidant attachment in a way that finally makes sense through the lens of the nervous system, your early experiences, and the cultural messages that reward emotional distance. If you’ve ever craved connection but shut down the moment it gets close, this episode is go…

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Attachment & Spiritual Bypassing 49:01

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How people sometimes use meditation to avoid intimacy, and how to re-engage relationally while maintaining practice. Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/st…

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EP 603: HELP — I Have Anxious Attachment (Attachment Style SOS Series Part 1) 48:00

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If you’ve ever felt like your emotions take over the moment a connection feels uncertain… or you find yourself spiraling, overthinking, and craving reassurance even when you know it’s “too much,” this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale. Today, we’re diving into anxious attachment through a compassionate, science-backed lens, exploring your…

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Dr. Becky on Becoming the Person (and Parent) You Needed 1:30:51

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Dr. Becky Kennedy joins Forrest for a conversation about building better relationships, with ourselves, our partners, and our children. They talk about Dr. Becky’s framework of “good inside,” and how we can apply it to ourselves. Dr. Becky explains how many of the struggles parents face trace back to their own childhood experiences, and suggests ho…

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Caretaking Declining or Aging Parents 18:25

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we dive into Caretaking Declining or Aging Parents, exploring the emotional and practical challenges of supporting the ones who once cared for us. Learn how to balance compassion with boundaries, manage guilt, and create a care plan that honors both your parents’ needs and your own well-be…

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S2 E29: Tired of these dark sunglasses 22:50

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Confession: I am currently climbing out of an almost three month-long deep depression that really threw me for a loop. As the clouds are finally beginning to part, and I’m feeling more myself, I’m ready to get back into creating content for this podcast and I’d like to share what depression looks like for me. Included in this episode: *why my two m…

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Bonus Episode: From Disorganized Attachment to Secure Love: Carlina’s Powerful Healing Journey (Real Client Transformation) 1:00:38

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Today’s episode is such a special one. I’m sitting down with one of our incredible ESL graduates, Carlina, whose story of healing, sobriety, self-discovery, and stepping into secure, emotionally available love will move you to your core. If you’ve ever struggled with repeating relationship patterns, feeling “too much,” navigating disorganized attac…

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The Real Reason Wives Stop Wanting Sex | Adam Lane Smith 43:55

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Wondering why your wife stopped wanting sex? Discover the real reasons sexual desire fades in marriage and how emotional connection, hormones, and communication play a role. Topics Covered: 👉 How emotional connection impacts sexual desire 👉 The role of hormones in reigniting libido 👉 Oxytocin and the bonding process in marriage 👉 Repairing conflict…

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EP 602: Attachment Styles Are Shifting in 2025: What the Latest Research Really Means for Your Healing 42:23

27d ago42:23

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Oh my gosh… this episode is SUCH an important one. I’m breaking down the brand-new research on attachment trends for 2025, and I’m giving you a full masterclass on the four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized (fearful avoidant), and secure. Whether you’re brand new here or you’ve been with me since the early days, this is a must-list…

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One Question to Turn Arguments into Aligned Actions at Family Gatherings 15:00

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In this episode, we’ll cover one question from my Classical Chinese Medicine teacher that you can play with during family gatherings when you want to stay on purpose and stay politically spicy. --------------------------- Get full show notes and more information at: comebacktocare.com/podcast For more BTS of this podcast, follow @comebacktocare on …

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EP 601: Feeling Stuck? Your Essential Guide to “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” 39:40

29d ago39:40

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If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in that uncomfortable “in-between” space, wondering whether to stay or walk away from your relationship, this episode is for you. I’m giving you the clearest framework I’ve ever taught to help you regulate your emotions, reconnect with your self-trust, and make decisions from a grounded place instead of fear or o…

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Dealing with Guilt Trips, Boundaries, and Non-Monogamy: November Mailbag 1:15:40

29d ago1:15:40

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Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about effective communication, healthy relationships, and contentment. They explore how defining boundaries, taking maximum reasonable responsibility, and extending an olive branch can help manage ongoing conflict without sacrificing your own needs. They then discuss the power dy…

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Anxious Preoccupied Attachment: Play As the Portal for Attachment Repair 42:18

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What qualities define this attachment style (helplessness, etc) and how does this impede on your ability to play and have fun? What's the greater impact on your life? What's the path for healing, and how does play factor into this? 👉🏼 Join us LIVE for our Family Archaeology Half-Day retreat ⁠ Home for the Holidays from the Attachment Perspective⁠ W…

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Parenting Little Kids with Big Emotions 15:34

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! This episode goes over Parenting Little Kids with Big Emotions, why children’s feelings can feel so big, how to stay grounded when they’re overwhelmed, and what it takes to turn chaos into connection. Because when we understand the emotions beneath the behavior, we can respond with calm instead of control …

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EP 600: How to Open Your Heart Again with Morgan Huelsman: Healing, Secure Love & Becoming the Version of You Who Attracts Healthy Relationships 1:03:22

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In today’s episode, I sat down with my dear friend Morgan Huelsman, you know her on instagram asWeb Girl Morgan, for an honest, vulnerable conversation about healing after toxic relationships, rebuilding self-trust, and opening yourself up to emotionally available, secure love. We dive into what it really takes to become ready for the kind of relat…

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What Porn Really Does to Your Brain (Neurologist Explains) | Adam Lane Smith 1:07:09

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Ever wonder what Porn really does to your brain? Dr. Trish Leigh explains how it hijacks dopamine, damages intimacy, and undermines trust and emotional safety in relationships. Topics Covered: 👉 Porn as a dopamine-driven addiction 👉 How Porn disconnects men from real partners during intimacy 👉 Why betrayal trauma becomes a nervous system crisis 👉 W…

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E22: Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, Highly Sensitive People, Co-dependency, Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Issues with Michelle Roehab 1:03:00

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In this episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach Michelle Roehab on the impact that narcissistic parents have, particularly on highly sensitive and highly empathic children & adults, and how that shapes we way we navigate our relationships in the present. We speak about how it erodes our sense of self, contributes to guilt, shame, and self-blame…

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EP 599: The Truth About Disorganized Attachment (And How to Finally Heal for Good) 41:40

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You absolutely can heal from disorganized attachment and I’m living proof of it. For over a decade, I was stuck in chaos, emotional highs and lows, and constant self-doubt. My relationships were a reflection of the deep wounds I hadn’t yet faced. In this episode, I’m opening up about my own journey with disorganized attachment, the rock-bottom mome…

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E21: The Invisible Trauma of Parentification, Boundaries & Sacred Anger with Grace McQueeny 1:21:31

1M ago1:21:31

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In this episode, Grace and I candidly discuss our personal journeys with parentification, a hidden trauma and role reversal where children take on inappropriate adult responsibilities. We share how this experience shaped our roles as the family comedian and planner, and the emotional toll it takes, leading to things like people-pleasing, anxiety, d…

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Where Metta practice and Attachment Repair meet 59:47

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How does Metta practice support attachment repair? How does this fit within the greater Mettagroup Method approach? Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start…

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E20: Working through Relationship OCD (ROCD), Perfectionism, Co-dependency & Anxious Attachment with IFS Therapy- Erin's Session 36:58

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In this session, Erin shares her journey of dealing with Relationship OCD (ROCD), attachment insecurities, and the challenges of seeking external validation in her relationships due to co-dependent patterns. She discusses her pattern of anxious attachment, the pursuit of unavailable partners, and the impact of these behaviors on her mental health. …

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EP 598: The Real Reason Modern Dating Feels So Hard (And How to Fix It) 35:33

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Let’s be honest… modern dating feels hard. Between viral TikToks saying “having a boyfriend is cringe,” the rise of avoidant attachment, and an entire culture that glorifies hyper-independence. It can start to feel like relationships just aren’t worth it anymore. But what if I told you this collective cynicism isn’t the truth… Is it a trauma respon…

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How to Be Yourself: Authenticity in Relationships with Elizabeth Ferreira 1:12:58

1M ago1:12:58

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In this very fun episode, Forrest and Elizabeth discuss how to get on the same team in a relationship. They explore how conditions of worth, masking, and developmental trauma can get in the way of showing up authentically, and how falling into common relationship roles can reinforce this. Elizabeth talks about how healthy anger can actually be a pr…

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The Next Chapter-Life with your Adult Children 18:00

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Welcome to Adaptable | Behavior Explained! In this episode, we’re diving into The Next Chapter: Life with Your Adult Children, how to navigate the shift from parenting to partnering, maintain connection without overstepping, and find meaning in letting go. We’ll explore what it looks like to support independence, honor new boundaries, and celebrate…

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EP 597: From Abuse to Abundance: Tiffany Carter on Healing Trauma, Reclaiming Power, and Living in Purpose 1:01:07

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This episode is truly one of the most powerful conversations I’ve ever shared on the podcast. I’m joined by my dear friend and mentor, Tiffany Carter, whose story will move you to your core. Tiffany opens up about her journey from surviving deep abuse and trauma to finding real healing, peace, and purpose. Her honesty and courage are such a reminde…

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High-Performing Moms and the Pain No One Sees | Adam Lane Smith 1:15:13

1M ago1:15:13

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What happens when high-performing moms carry hidden pain no one sees? This episode exposes the emotional cost of perfection, attachment wounds, and the struggle to feel safe in love and motherhood. Topics Covered 👉 The unseen emotional pain behind high-performing motherhood 👉 How childhood instability shapes attachment and coping 👉 The “quiet disor…

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Fighting the Loneliness Epidemic and the Power of Intergenerational Friendships: Feed Drop 34:34

1M ago34:34

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Today we’re featuring an episode from another show I think you’re really going to connect with: Turning Points: Navigating Mental Health. Can a meaningful friendship bridge a 51-year age gap and help combat social isolation? Meet Peter and Pooja; two unlikely companions whose intergenerational bond proves that friendships can flourish when we break…

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EP 596: Love Is Blind Season 9 Breakdown (Pt. 2): Attachment Styles, Compatibility & Real-World Lessons 43:31

1M ago43:31

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In this episode, we dive into Part 2 of the Love Is Blind Season 9 recap and let me tell you, it’s a juicy one. This isn’t just reality TV talk. It's about self-awareness, emotional regulation, and real relationship growth. We’re unpacking what Love Is Blind teaches us about attachment styles, boundaries, and what truly creates lasting love. Inside…