Best Dom Sub Living Podcasts (2025)

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Slave Training 101: The One Thing Most Doms Skip 7:53

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#115 Slave training doesn’t fall apart because the sub fails — it falls apart because the Dom can’t stay consistent. In this episode, Jay shares how our Master/slave training began, why most structures collapse, and the one thing Doms must master to keep their dynamic strong, sustainable, and consensual. Tap play to learn the simple shift that make…

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Can a Submissive Still Be Feminist? 24:53

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#114 Can you kneel for your partner and still stand for equality? ❤️ Download your free cheat sheet, 'How to Be a Good Sub': https://domsubliving.com/sub In this episode, we're exploring how feminism and submission actually complete each other. Learn why power exchange isn’t powerless, how shame transforms into choice, and what true consent means i…

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Bruises, Branding, and the Big Questions Around Marks in BDSM 35:15

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#113 Why do some scenes leave deep bruises and others nothing at all? In this episode we're unpacking bruises, branding, and marks in BDSM – what they mean emotionally, the science of bruising, how to explain them to vanilla people, and when branding goes too far. Listen now to feel safer and more seen. ➡️ Access the free BDSM Resource Library: htt…

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10 Hidden Power Plays Only Experienced Doms Use 24:54

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#112 Ever met a Dom who can control a room without saying a word? In this episode, we're revealing the 10 hidden power plays only experienced Dominants use – how silence, attention, and anticipation build real obedience and trust. Learn the quiet secrets that make submission magnetic. Which power play will you try first? ➡️ Free Dominant Quick Star…

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The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About BDSM & Kink 18:04

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#111 What if everything you’ve heard about BDSM and kink is wrong? In this episode, we're busting the biggest Dom/sub myths holding people back—from feeling too inexperienced to thinking BDSM is immoral. Learn the truth about who really belongs in kink. Listen now and start unlearning the lies about BDSM. ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https:…

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What No One Admits About BDSM—But We Just Did 45:40

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#110 BDSM isn’t just fantasy—it’s how real people grow. Alesandra and Deborah Kat get honest about living a D/s lifestyle: consent, safewords, limits, protocols, weekly check-ins, 24/7 dynamics, parenting, money, safety, community—plus the fun, kinky parts. Loved it? Follow Deborah’s 'Better Sex Podcast' and subscribe for more real talk. ➡️ Deborah…

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My 3 Must-Haves for Every BDSM Scene (True Story) 18:47

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#109 What makes a BDSM scene truly work? We talk about limits all the time—but rarely about the things we actually need to feel connected, grounded, and fulfilled. In this episode, Alesandra opens up about her real must-haves for every scene and why yours matter just as much. Reflect on your own and share them with us after listening. ➡️ Free Yes/N…

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Spirituality and BDSM: What No One Talks About 19:41

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#108 Can BDSM be spiritual? In this episode, we're exploring the meditative and transformative side of power exchange — from subspace and Domspace to mindful rituals, breathwork, and spiritual aftercare. Learn how intention and awareness can turn any scene into a sacred experience. ➡️ Discover 20 rituals to make your dynamic sacred: https://domsubl…

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How Doms Build Confidence Before and During a Scene 9:35

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#107 Worried your sub will see right through your nerves? In this coaching call replay, Alesandra and her Dom, Jay, share real-world advice on how Dominants build confidence before and during a scene—through communication, self-awareness, and practice that makes play feel natural and fun. Listen now to learn how real Doms grow confident in every sc…

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Chastity and Locktober: Everything You Need to Know 18:45

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#106 Locktober isn’t just denial—it’s connection, power, and play. 🔒 Free Cheat Sheet to level up your submission: https://domsubliving.com/sub Learn what Locktober is, its meme roots, how to prep and size devices, keyholder dynamics, solo play, the Chaster app, real student stories, and pitfalls to avoid. Subscribe for more kink-positive conversat…

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Why I Have a Hard Limit on Electroplay — True Story 14:13

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#105 People think masochists will try anything… but I’ve got hard limits too. In this episode, I share the story of why electroplay makes me cringe, what happened when my teen mistook a new gadget for a toy, and how true trust in TPE means respecting boundaries. Tune in now and follow the show for more Dom/sub stories. ➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks…

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Your First Dungeon Night or Munch? What to Expect 17:49

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#104 What actually happens your first time at a dungeon or munch? Do people really play in front of strangers? Or do you just stand there and watch?” In this episode, we're sharing what to expect, what to wear, how to talk to people, and spot red flags so you feel confident. Don’t risk looking awkward or creepy – tune in to learn how to make your f…

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The Real Cost of Waiting to Start Your BDSM Journey 20:37

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#103 Why is now the best time to start living the BDSM lifestyle? Find out on this episode of Dom Sub Living! We're addressing common excuses for delaying and sharing three factors that make this the ideal moment to start. Discover the potential risks you may not have thought about that could change the future landscape. Don't wait any longer to ex…

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Inside Our BDSM Contract – What We Really Agreed To 26:48

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#102 If your idea of a BDSM contract comes from 50 Shades, we need to talk. 👉 Grab your free template at https://domsubliving.com/contract In this episode, I take you inside my real-life BDSM contract—what’s in it, what’s not, and the surprising clause that saved our relationship. Tune in to learn how to write a Dom/sub contract that’s safe, hot, a…

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The Future of Dom Sub Living and What’s Next for You 17:27

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#101 The podcast is changing! Does that mean less content? Nope. It means more real talk, raw stories, and deeper insights than ever. In this episode, we're sharing why the format is shifting, what’s ahead for the YouTube and audio versions, and exciting updates like the Kink Bundle and my upcoming book. Don’t miss it—subscribe and share! ➡️ Sign u…

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100 Episodes of Kink: What I Learned the Hard Way 32:55

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#100 Think kink is simple? After 100 episodes, we're revealing 10 hard-earned lessons that go beyond floggers and fantasy. ✅ Subscribe and grab your free BDSM Lifestyle roadmap at https://domsubliving.com/follow From tackling judgment to finding community, discover truths that shape real D/s dynamics and mental health. Don’t miss this milestone epi…

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DDLG 101: The Truth About Being a Babygirl 15:24

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#099 DDLG isn’t just cute outfits and bedtime routines—it’s a deep, powerful dynamic that blends nurture, structure, and trust. 💕 Grab your free DDLG starter list at https://domsubliving.com/ddlg In this episode, we're breaking down what being a babygirl, little, or middle really looks like, plus the differences between DDLG and DDBG. Listen now an…

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5 Dom/sub Punishment Ideas I Love (and Hate) 18:21

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#098 Spankings aren’t cutting it anymore. 👉 Grab the free punishment list at https://domsubliving.com/punish In this episode, we're sharing 5 Dom/sub punishment ideas that actually work—yes, even for masochists. From writing lines to orgasm denial, we're breaking down what to use, when to use it, and why some punishments backfire. Don’t miss #3—it …

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Dom/Sub Secrets No One Talks About (But We Will) 46:10

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#097 Is kink your secret superpower? In this fun and fearless interview, Alesandra joins actress and comedian Amy Vorpahl to talk BDSM 101, living unapologetically kinky, and what it really means to be a Dom or sub in everyday life. Listen now! ➡️ Amy's website: https://www.amyvorpahl.com ➡️ Join Amy's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/amyvorpahl ➡️…

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Every fake dom does this. 33:04

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#096 If you're a Dom—or trying to be one—don't screw this up. 🎯 Take the free quiz: https://domsubliving.com/fakedom We're revealing the top 5 signs of fake Dominants, from skipping consent to using fear instead of leadership. You'll learn how to spot red flags and what real D/s dynamic should look like. Doms (and subs), listen up! ➡️ Fake Dom quiz…

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7 Hidden Habits That Keep D/s Relationships Strong 18:31

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#095 Does your dynamic feel off? If your Dom/sub relationship feels stuck or stale, this episode breaks down the 7 hidden habits that keep real D/s dynamics strong — for years. From rituals and contracts to community and mindset, this is what no one tells you. ➡️ Join the All-Access Pass: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess ➡️ Show notes and more: h…

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Most BDSM Teachers Get This Completely Wrong 27:24

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#094 Are BDSM teachers getting it wrong? ✅ Join the All Access Pass at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're exposing 10 harmful myths most BDSM educators still teach — from punishment-first training to ignoring a Dom's emotional needs. If you've ever felt like you're doing BDSM “wrong,” this is the truth you’ve been waiting for. ➡️ Join the All…

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Not Sure You’re a “Real” Dom or Sub? Listen to This 14:24

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#093 “Am I too new? Too awkward? Not ‘dominant’ enough?” If you've ever felt like a fake or imposter in BDSM, you’re not alone. We're sharing how to build confidence, stop self-doubt, and finally feel like a “real” Dom or sub — even without a partner. Tune in now to start owning your role with confidence. ➡️ Join the free bootcamp: https://domsubli…

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How to Explore BDSM WITHOUT a Partner 17:25

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#092 Think you need a partner to explore BDSM? Think again. Learn how to build skills, rituals, and confidence as a Dom or sub—solo. Avoid beginner mistakes and prep for your ideal dynamic. Ready to start your journey? Join our free Bootcamp! ➡️ Free Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey Bootcamp: https://domsubliving.com/bootcamp ➡️ Show notes and more: htt…

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Is Fifty Shades of Grey Really that Bad? 19:08

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#091 “I don’t make love—I f*ck. Hard.” 📝 Get your free BDSM contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Is Fifty Shades of Grey really that bad… or are we just mad it opened the door for millions? In this deep dive, we're breaking down what it got wrong (and very wrong), what it got right, and why it still matters. Hit play and get ready to move …

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How to Train Your Sub 20:50

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#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands? 👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthe…

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A Look Inside Our Total Power Exchange Relationship 17:34

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#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.” 🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriv…

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What People Get Wrong About Total Power Exchange 24:49

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#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention? ✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show no…

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10 Taboo Kinks: Which Are Normal vs. Truly Dangerous? 20:03

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#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous? 👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong. …

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Raw, Real, and Kinky: Life Behind the Power Exchange 59:37

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#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes. ➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com ➡️ Explore our online cours…

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BDSM for ADHD and Autism: Build a Dynamic That Fits 20:20

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#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again. 🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/free We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! ➡️ Access the free Resou…

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Soft Doms Are In—What Gentle Domination Looks Like 13:28

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#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle? 🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominant Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the B…

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Why BDSM Works Better Than Therapy (For Some People) 22:58

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#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way? 👉 Grab free resources at https://domsubliving.com/free. In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy,…

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5 BDSM Scene Ideas You’ll Want To Try Tonight 32:45

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#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? 🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you c…

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BDSM & Polyamory: Master Multiple Power Dynamics Without Drama 11:14

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#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think. ❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guide We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s rol…

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AI in BDSM: Can a Robot Really Be Your Sub? 15:15

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#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub? 🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM Scene Template at domsubliving.com/scene! It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—…

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Dominants vs. Submissives: Who Really Has It Harder? 16:31

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#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives? 🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out https://domsubtraining.com We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and menta…

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How to Be a More Confident Dominant 19:44

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#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either. 🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at https://domsubliving.com/dom Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language…

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50 Game-Changing BDSM Tips in 15 Minutes 14:15

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#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes! Want to go deeper with me on BDSM and D/s dynamics? Check out my free resources to enhance your journey: https://domsubliving.com/free Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these in…

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Bondage for Beginners & Beyond: Ideas, Tips & Mistakes 15:17

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#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new. 👉 Snag a free ticket to the next summit at https://domsubdynamics.com/ Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological s…

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10 Most Popular Kinks (Are Yours on the List?) 28:47

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#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think! ✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 different kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist today! We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into wha…

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5 Sensation Play Tips for an Unforgettable Experience 20:25

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#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques! 🔥 Read a real-life sensation play scene in action: https://domsubliving.com/scene Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experien…

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3 BDSM Mistakes I Made (That Almost Ruined My Journey!) 16:33

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#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone! 💪 Master the Dom/sub lifesyle: https://domsubliving.com/free We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic…

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Kink Beyond the Bedroom: What No One Tells You 45:56

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#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship? 🔥 Grab our free BDSM resources at https://domsubliving.com/free In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink…

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Why BDSM Turns You On: The Psychology of Kink 21:34

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#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology. ✅ Get your FREE BDSM checklist with 50+ kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve i…

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Our 24/7 Total Power Exchange Relationship: How We Built It 26:53

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#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom. 📝 Download your free customizable contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Join us as we debunk myths surrounding 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) and share our journey into this fulfilling dynamic. Explore the foundationa…

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Wearing a Collar 24/7 in My D/s Marriage: What It’s Really Like 19:07

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#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before." ❤️ Visit https://domsubliving.com/eternity to get $20 off your own collar with code DOMSUBLIVING In this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotion…

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How to Reignite the Fire in Your Dom/sub Relationship 12:21

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#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back! 👉 Ready to reconnect and thrive in your dynamic? Explore more at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're sharing why losing the spark is so common and the key reasons it happens—like routine overload, lack of communication, and external stress.…

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BDSM in Real Life: A Dom/sub Married Couple Shares Their Journey 36:00

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#067 Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic? 👉 Ready to dive deeper? Join our All-Access Pass community at domsubliving.com/allaccess In this episode, we chat with Harlo and Adira, a Dom/sub married couple navigating parenthood, health challenges, and everyday life—all while deepening their 24/7 D/s connection. They share the…

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What Most People Get Wrong About BDSM Negotiation 15:08

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#066 Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic. 🌟 Exclusive Offer: Are you ready to elevate your negotiation skills? Check out our All Access Pass now: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess In this episode, we're exploring the must-know steps for negotiating your BDSM relationship. From prepping your thoughts to choosing the ri…