We go back into the archives to one of the Best of SMR episodes. An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband. What’s the difference between sexual thoughts and lust? A husband wanting to know what to do when he’s tried to live in a way that ignites his wife’s passion …

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning. We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awar…

In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness. The discuss…

In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire. What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection? Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play …

In this call-in episode, Anne discusses her experiences with her husband's lack of interest in her pleasure, she's guessing it is stemming from his background with pornography. Our conversation explores the dynamics of intimacy, expectations, and communication in their marriage, highlighting the challenges and growth they face together. We emphasiz…

In this conversation, J. Parker joins me as we talk through the dynamics of desire within relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of higher desire wives. We discuss the societal perceptions of sexual desire, the complexities of male sexuality, and the various factors that can influence sexual interest in relationships. The conversat…

In this call-in conversation, Ashley from North Carolina discusses her experiences with desire dynamics in her marriage, particularly as a higher desire wife. We explore the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, the importance of communication, and the challenges of navigating life changes such as parenthood. Our conversation emphasizes …

In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for …

In this conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and s…

In this conversation, Dr Joel Salinas and Bob Bordone join me as we explore the often misunderstood nature of conflict in relationships. They discuss the importance of engaging with conflict rather than avoiding it, emphasizing that conflict can be a sign of love and authenticity. We also dive into the neuroscience behind conflict, the personal thr…

In this call in show, Kyla and Adam discuss the challenges they face in their marriage regarding intimacy and sexual desire. They explore how their relationship dynamics have shifted over the years, particularly after having children, leading to mismatched desires and feelings of rejection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional inti…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in …

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Julian Johnsrud, a coach and expert in intentional living and mini retirements, shares her journey of discovering the concept of mini retirements and how it has transformed her life and the lives of others. She explains that mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but intentional breaks that allow i…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complex topic of masturbation within marriage. Our conversation explores initial reactions, societal misinformation, the benefits of self-discovery, as well as a biblical perspectives on the subject. Dr. Corey emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding the dynami…

The 2025 Sexy Marriage Married Getaway is June 19-21, 2025. Register now. On the Regular version … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage. We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuin…

In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise. We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the …

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex. What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him? How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma? Our conversation highlights the need fo…

In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest …

This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy. We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire. Our conversation…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma. A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the signi…

In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift. We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction. Our conversation encourages listeners to consider the…

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration. We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics. Our conversation emphas…

In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography. We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and …

In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame. We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on t…

This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it o…

This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope…

In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates. We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples wit…

Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with i…

In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth. Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show. Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual? Enjoy the…

In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustra…

In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marria…

In this episode, we get a little personal and discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures. Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it. We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's …

In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, unde…

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective …

Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need …

Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And wha…

Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our con…

This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensit…

Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now wh…

This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the…

Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexu…

Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language. We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no. Our conversation conclu…

This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and diffi…

This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and hon…

On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR. Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage. We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of…

On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex. We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis. What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importanc…

This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A. We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she…

This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway. We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame. We emphasize t…

Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to dr…

In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need…