Best M. Bruce Abbott Podcasts (2025)

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Why Does My Wife Shut Down When I Share My Feelings? 12:08

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23h ago12:08

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Have you ever tried to share something real with your wife — your loneliness, stress, or sadness — and she just shuts down? Maybe she goes quiet, gets defensive, or seems to disappear emotionally. You’re left standing there, wondering what just happened — and why you feel worse for even trying. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce A…

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Can I Be Happy In A Sexless Marriage? 12:13

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Can a man really be happy in a marriage without sex? Most husbands facing this question feel torn — wanting to stay faithful and kind, but also feeling unseen, rejected, and empty. You’re not broken for wanting intimacy. You’re not selfish for craving connection. You’re human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the s…

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Why Do I Self-Sabotage Right Before Success? 14:24

2d ago14:24

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Do you ever pull away when things finally start to go right? Maybe your marriage starts improving, your business gains traction, or you feel more confident than ever — and then you suddenly check out, pick a fight, or quit. That’s self-sabotage. And it’s more common than you think. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explain…

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What Does It Really Mean If My Wife Never Wants Intimacy? 15:06

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By M. Bruce Abbott, M.A, CPC

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How Do I Stop Resenting My Wife For No Sex? 14:52

9d ago14:52

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Do you feel resentful toward your wife because of a lack of sex in your marriage? You’re not alone. Many men in sexless or low-sex marriages feel lonely, rejected, and ashamed. Resentment builds — not because you’re bad or broken, but because your deeper pain has gone unspoken. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares the …

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Using Alcohol to Numb the Pain: How Self-Abandonment Keeps You Stuck 15:56

11d ago15:56

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Do you reach for a drink to take the edge off? Do you tell yourself it’s “just to relax” — but deep down you know it’s about numbing? Many men use alcohol to escape feelings of shame, stress, and loneliness. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explores how alcohol becomes less about celebration and more about self-abandonmen…

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Am I In A Toxic Relationship? 15:48

13d ago15:48

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Are you walking on eggshells in your marriage? Do you feel like nothing you do is ever enough, or that your needs are always dismissed? Many men wonder if they’re simply in a hard season… or if what they’re in has crossed the line into toxic. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares what it means to face the truth about yo…

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Putting Yourself First: You Can Do It With Love and Empathy — It Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Jerk 15:24

15d ago15:24

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Many men lose themselves in marriage by always saying yes, avoiding conflict, and ignoring their own needs. They believe self-sacrifice equals love. But over time, this leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection. The truth? Putting yourself first does not make you selfish — it makes you honest, present, and stronger for your family. In this ep…

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Am I Sacrificing Authenticity for Attachment? 11:56

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Many husbands silence their truth to keep the peace. They say yes when they mean no. They laugh off painful comments. They hold back needs to avoid conflict. Over time, this quiet self-betrayal leaves them empty, resentful, and unsure of who they really are. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott unpacks why men trade authentic…

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Financial Stress Is Affecting My Marriage 16:27

19d ago16:27

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Financial stress can shake more than your bank account — it can shake the foundation of your marriage. When money feels tight, many men stop feeling like husbands and start feeling like failures. But the truth is, financial stress is about more than numbers. It touches safety, control, shame, and identity. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podc…

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How Do I Stop Questioning if I Am Man Enough? 17:38

21d ago17:38

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Do you ever catch yourself asking, “Am I man enough?” Maybe your wife is distant, critical, or cold, and every interaction leaves you doubting yourself. Maybe you’re working hard to provide, lead, and love your family, but no matter what you do — you still feel like you’re failing. That weight eats at your confidence and leaves you wondering if you…

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Why Do I Always Second-Guess Myself? 13:49

23d ago13:49

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Do you feel like you’re always second-guessing yourself in your marriage? You walk away from conversations wondering if you said the wrong thing, set the wrong boundary, or made the wrong choice. Over time, that constant doubt makes you feel smaller, weaker, and disconnected from the man you want to be. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast…

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I Feel Broken In My Marriage 15:32

25d ago15:32

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If you’ve ever said, “I feel broken in my marriage,” you’re not alone. Many men carry the weight of providing, protecting, and holding the family together — all while quietly falling apart inside. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shares why this happens, how one of his coaching clients rebuilt from rock bottom, and how yo…

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My Wife Doesn't Understand Me - What Now? 14:24

27d ago14:24

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Many husbands feel like their wives don’t understand them — and the pain runs deep. You try to explain yourself, but she misreads your tone, gets defensive, or shuts down. You feel invisible, frustrated, and alone. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why this happens, what’s really going on beneath the surface, and …

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I Had No idea I Struggled With Self-Worth 17:13

29d ago17:13

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Most men don’t realize they struggle with self-worth — until their marriage starts falling apart. You might not feel unworthy, but the patterns give it away: people-pleasing, shutting down, overreacting, craving validation, or collapsing when your wife pulls away. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott breaks down how hidden be…

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Don't Make Your Wife Your Therapist 17:43

1M ago17:43

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Your wife is your partner — not your therapist. Too many men put the weight of their healing on their wives, expecting comfort, validation, or emotional guidance. This creates pressure, kills attraction, and leads to distance instead of connection. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why making your wife your therap…

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Real Change Requires Action, Not Just Information 15:14

1M ago15:14

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You know the language of healing — triggers, emotional safety, nervous system. But here’s the truth: if you’re still stuck, it’s not because you don’t know enough. It’s because knowledge alone doesn’t change your life. Action does. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott ex…

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Stop Doing Things In Secret (Practicing Integrity) 12:32

1M ago12:32

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Many men hide small things in their marriage — a deleted message, a hidden receipt, or avoiding a hard truth. You tell yourself, “It’s harmless” or “She’d overreact.” But here’s the truth: secrecy is not safety. It’s a prison. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why secrecy destroys self-respect, damages trust, and …

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Stop Beating Yourself Up 12:48

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So many good men punish themselves with self-blame. You think being hard on yourself makes you stronger. But the truth is, beating yourself up keeps you stuck in shame, fear, and disconnection. Healing doesn’t come from self-punishment. It comes from self-compassion, truth, and grounded leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bru…

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Practice Gratitude as A Pathway To Strength and Healing 13:18

1M ago13:18

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Gratitude is more than a cliché—it’s a lifeline for men who feel unseen, disconnected, or stuck in their marriage. You don’t heal by ignoring your pain. You heal by grounding yourself in truth. Gratitude isn’t about pretending things are fine. It’s about learning to see what is good while still being honest about what hurts. In this episode of The …

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Letting People Help You (A Response to the Previous Podcast About Asking for Help) 10:57

1M ago10:57

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Most men are good at giving—but freeze when it comes to receiving. You’ll support others, carry the load, and stay strong for everyone else… but when someone tries to help you? You brush it off, deflect, or say, “I’m fine.” Even when you’re not. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why letting people help you is not …

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Reaching Out For Help Is Not Weakness 9:56

1M ago9:56

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Most men were never taught how to ask for help. Instead, you were told to “man up,” push through, and figure it out on your own. But carrying pain in silence doesn’t make you strong—it makes you isolated. And isolation slowly destroys your marriage, your peace, and your sense of self. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott brea…

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It's OK To Say No 13:07

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Most good men struggle to say “no” in their marriage. You want to keep the peace. You don’t want to be seen as selfish, cold, or unloving. But every time you say “yes” when your gut is screaming “no,” you abandon yourself—and that kills intimacy. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why saying “no” is not rejection, …

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Speak Up For Your Needs 12:42

2M ago12:42

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Do you struggle to ask for what you really want in your marriage? Maybe you stay silent, hint, or hope your wife will notice—but it only leads to resentment and disconnection. Speaking your needs calmly and clearly is not weakness. It’s leadership. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott shows you how to break free from silence,…

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Action Leads To Courage 13:00

2M ago13:00

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Do you wait to feel “ready” before you take action in your marriage? Do you hold back, hoping the fear will go away first? The truth is, courage doesn’t come before action—it’s built by taking action, even when you’re afraid. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why waiting for fear to leave keeps you stuck, and how …

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Being Present In Your Marriage 15:50

2M ago15:50

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Do you feel like you check out when things get hard in your marriage? Maybe you zone out, distract yourself, or shut down when your wife pulls away. You’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means your body and mind are trying to protect you. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce Abbott explains why presence—not control…

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Healing in A Sexless Marriage 15:53

2M ago15:53

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A sexless marriage is one of the deepest wounds a man can carry. It leaves you feeling unwanted, unseen, and rejected. But you are not broken for wanting sex. You are not wrong for craving connection. You are human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we walk step by step through The Secure Husband Process to help you heal, reclaim your …

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Understanding False Core Beliefs and Where They Come From 12:59

2M ago12:59

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False core beliefs are the silent drivers that shape how you think, feel, and respond in marriage. They were formed in childhood, often from painful experiences, and they still influence your relationships today. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we uncover what false core beliefs are, where they come from, and how to break free from t…

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Men Need Connection Too 15:12

2M ago15:12

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Many men are starving for connection in their marriage but feel they can’t ask for it without being called needy or weak. The truth is simple: men need connection too. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to honor your need for love and closeness without losing your strength or self-respect. You’ll learn how to stop hidi…

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When She Has Time for Her Phone, But Not for You 12:22

2M ago12:22

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It’s one of the most frustrating moments in marriage — you walk into the room, and your wife doesn’t look up from her phone. You try to talk, but she’s still scrolling. You want connection, but instead you feel invisible. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, I’ll show you how to handle this without anger, guilt, or shutting down. You’ll l…

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Not Every Healing Journey Has A Fairy Tale Ending 11:49

2M ago11:49

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You can do all the work — heal childhood wounds, stay calm, lead with love — and your marriage still might not survive. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is about facing that truth without losing yourself. We talk about what to do when you’ve grown as a man, but your wife remains distant or checked out. It’s about detaching from the “fairy…

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Do You Struggle With Male Friendships? 12:28

2M ago12:28

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Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

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Healing For The Right Reasons 16:05

2M ago16:05

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Many men start healing with one goal — to win back their wife’s affection. They work on themselves, stay calm, and show up differently… but inside, they’re still performing for approval. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why that approach keeps you stuck — and how to shift into real growth that lasts. What you’ll learn in …

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How Do I Know When I’m Healed? 14:01

2M ago14:01

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You’ve done the work. You’ve stayed calm during fights. You’ve stopped yelling. You’ve started listening. But now you wonder… “How do I know if I’m really healed?” In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we break it down in plain, simple steps. You’ll learn what real healing looks like — not perfection, but presence. Not control, but calm. H…

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Wounded Men Are Extremely Loyal — To a Fault 14:13

2M ago14:13

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Do you feel proud of your loyalty… but broken inside? In this video, we talk about how wounded men stay loyal — even when it’s hurting them. You’ll learn how to stop bleeding for approval and start living from truth and strength. Some men stay loyal to pain. To women who don’t care. To marriages that feel one-sided and cold. To roles where they car…

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You Are Worthy of Affection 16:47

2M ago16:47

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If your wife avoids touch, hugs, or affection, this episode is for you. It’s painful to feel unwanted. You might feel like something is wrong with you. But that thought is a lie. You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not unlovable. This video will help you stop blaming yourself. You’ll learn how to care for your heart, meet your own emo…

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When Your Wife Withholds Sex As Punishment 13:18

2M ago13:18

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If your wife withholds sex, it can feel like pain, punishment, or rejection. It hurts. It’s confusing. And it can make you feel small, angry, or lost. This episode helps you stop reacting and start healing. It shows you how to lead yourself with strength — even when your wife pulls away. What You Will Learn: ✅ Why some wives withhold sex ✅ What thi…

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Healing While In The Midst of Rejection In Your Marriage 12:21

2M ago12:21

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Are you trying to heal while still feeling unwanted, unseen, or unloved by your wife? This episode is for the man who feels rejected in real time — not from the past, but right now. You may be listening to podcasts, doing the work, and trying to grow… but nothing at home is changing. You’re not weak. You’re not crazy. And you’re not alone. What You…

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You Always Have Two Wounded People In A Dysfunctional Marriage 12:28

3M ago12:28

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If your marriage feels one-sided, cold, or full of blame — you’re not alone. Many men ask, “Why am I the only one doing the work?” “She never opens up. She never wants sex. She avoids everything — but I’m the one who has to change?” This video explains why that feeling is valid… but also why healing still starts with you. What You’ll Learn in This …

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No Marriage Is Perfect (It's A System) 10:10

3M ago10:10

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If your marriage feels stuck, cold, or disconnected — this video is for you. Many men believe their wife is the main problem in the relationship. But most of the time, the marriage is broken because both partners are reacting from pain. This creates a pattern that keeps repeating until one person chooses to lead the change. This episode explains ho…

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She Won't Have Sex With Her Husband She Can't Emotionally Trust 15:13

3M ago15:13

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If your wife has stopped wanting sex, this episode will explain why. It’s not about attraction. It’s not about being nice. It’s not about what you do around the house. It’s about trust. Emotional trust. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn why emotional safety is the key to physical closeness — and how your wife’s lack of des…

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You Must Heal the Relationship With Yourself Before You Can Heal the Marriage 11:21

3M ago11:21

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You can’t fix your marriage by changing your wife. You fix your marriage by healing yourself first. Most men try to lead their marriage without leading themselves. They feel disconnected, unloved, and invisible — and they blame their wife. But deep down, they’ve lost connection with the one person they can change: themselves. In this episode of The…

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The Need For Connection Versus Neediness 12:52

3M ago12:52

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Many men feel shame for wanting love. You’re told to be strong, stay independent, and never show emotion. But here’s the truth: You are made for connection. Your body and brain need closeness. That doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn the clear difference between healthy connection a…

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You Can't Avoid Your Feelings - Lead Through Them 11:12

3M ago11:12

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You are a man. You feel things. But you were taught to push it all down. To stay calm. Stay quiet. Stay tough. You were told: “Don’t cry.” “Don’t be weak.” “Control your emotions.” But hiding your feelings isn’t helping you. It’s hurting your marriage. It’s blocking your growth. It’s making you feel numb, angry, or alone. In this episode of The Sec…

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I Had A Good Childhood, So Why Am I Struggling? 11:55

3M ago11:55

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You had a good childhood. No abuse. No trauma. Your parents loved you. So why do you still feel stuck in your marriage? Why do you react in ways you don’t like? Why do you shut down, avoid, or panic when things get hard? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how childhood coping strategies — even from loving families — can b…

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The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic 12:10

3M ago12:10

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Do you feel like you're the only one trying? Are you always the one who reaches out, starts the hard talks, and keeps the marriage going? Does it feel like your wife just shuts down, pulls away, or avoids connection? This is called the pursuer-distancer dynamic, and it’s common in struggling marriages. One person chases. The other runs. And both fe…

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Why It's Hard To Communicate Your Needs 10:25

3M ago10:25

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You want to feel close. You want to speak your needs. But every time you try, it backfires. Maybe she pulls away. Maybe you shut down. Maybe you explode or say nothing at all. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains why you keep losing your voice — and how the wounded boy inside you might be in charge of your marriage. What Yo…

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More About Hidden Resistance That’s Blocking Your Healing 9:24

3M ago9:24

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You’ve been doing the work. You’re reading. You’re journaling. You’re trying to stay calm. But deep down… you still feel stuck. You still feel alone. You still feel like nothing is changing. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast explains why. It’s something called hidden resistance — and it may be blocking your healing. In This Episode, You’ll…

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Is Hidden Resistance Keeping You Stuck? 14:17

3M ago14:17

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You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. You’ve stopped reacting. You’ve started healing. So why does your marriage still feel cold and stuck? In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how hidden resistance might be the real reason you feel frustrated — even after making real progress. You’re not lazy. You’re not doing it wr…

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Are You Frustrated With The Progress? 13:04

3M ago13:04

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You’ve done the work. You’ve healed. You’ve changed. Or have you? But your marriage still feels cold, distant, or disconnected. This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is for the man who feels stuck. You’ve become more emotionally strong. You’ve stopped chasing or begging. You’ve worked on yourself. But your wife still shows no interest in close…