Best Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick | Dating & Relationship Podcast hosts Podcasts (2025)

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S21E9: The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships) 57:11

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Who carries the weight in your relationship or early dates—the calendar, the check-ins, the emotional temperature checks? We're diving into the mental load that happens in modern relationship – and what brings you closer versus take on unnecessary hardship. We're discussing the difference between emotional support, labor and load, the behind-the-sc…

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#brunchtalk: How To Get Asked Out On Dating Apps 31:12

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In the world of dating apps, it's easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of messaging without ever meeting in person. Join us as we explore the art of the ask-out – or hinting at an ask-out if you're reluctant to make the first move. We discuss how to make sure your conversation doesn't go into that dreaded messaging graveyard, the balance betw…

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S21E8: Dating Apps, D*ck Pics, and Sexts: Why We Need Digital Sexual Consent 1:06:33

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Have you ever gotten that unwanted sexual message or pic on a dating app? You're certainly not alone, which is why we need to talk about digital sexual consent and what dating apps are doing about it. We're joined by Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a sexologist and advisor for the dating app Hily, to talk about the shocking types of messages that are sent withou…

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#brunchtalk: The Difference Between Being Picky & Having Standards 30:14

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What's the difference between having standards and not being so picky that there's no one that's good enough to date? Join us as dive into a nuanced look of the fine line that allows you to meet people at your level – while also having an abundance mindset that many good people are out there. We discuss the most picky criteria we've ever heard, how…

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S21E7: Breaking The Cycle Of Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men w/ Drea Renee 1:23:28

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Do you ever feel like you are unconsciously seeking the unavailable type and you don't know how to break the pattern? We're chatting with Drea who had a history of dating emotionally unavailable partners about how she started dating differently – by recognizing the real red flags to look for and also taking accountability for her choices. We discus…

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#brunchtalk: The Biggest Lies About Falling in Love and Finding the One 30:23

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With so much focus on the early stages of dating, we're often so focused on the lies we've been told about falling in love that we miss the bigger picture. Join us as we decipher fantasy from reality as we explore the idea of finding the ideal type of partner and what it takes to build an actual relationship. We discuss why the whole concept of "fi…

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S21E6: The Real Reason Dating Makes Us So Angry (That No One Talks About) w/ Jordana Abraham & Jared Freid from U Up? 1:09:43

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Is the biggest change in 2025 in dating...the anger? It certainly feels like it! We're chatting with Jared and Jordana, the hosts of the U Up? podcast about the shifts they've noticed in dating over the last decade – and also the big changes in their own love lives. We're discussing the influences around dating that are adding to the negativity, wh…

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#brunchtalk: How To Interpret Mixed Signals (Without Losing Your Mind) 26:21

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Are mixed signals a sign of disinterest or just poor communication? We're diving into the confusing world of hot and cold behavior in dating – and what it really means. Join us as we explore why mixed signals might not mean what you think, how to address them directly, and why clarity is key in any relationship. Plus, we're sharing personal stories…

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S21E5: Is Your Independence Empowering Or Keeping You Single? 1:00:06

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We're told to be independent but not too independent...so what's the line between what helps us preserve our autonomy versus what keeps us out of partnership? We're diving into this topic that's near and dear to our hearts as two people who have built our own lives, boundaries and identities...yet still want to open ourselves up fully to another hu…

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#brunchtalk: Date Them Til You Hate Them 28:06

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Date them til you hate them. Is this a brilliant strategy or a complete cop out? We're discussing the latest viral TikTok dating trend and why it may or may not help you move on from someone faster. Join us as we chat about why this actually prolongs pain for both parties involved the counter strategy that actually could help you decide if someone …

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S21E4: The Dating Plan 1:13:36

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What happens when you want to shift the way you date completely? You come up with a plan that's so counter to the way we date today that it may be construed as controversial to some (true story!). We're joined with our guest Raymond who is sharing his new dating plan – and why he got to the place of making one in the first place. We're discussing h…

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#brunchtalk: Monogamy ISN'T Dead 28:25

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It may feel like everyone is looking for something casual or non-committal but the reality is that there are people looking for exactly what you are. We're diving into why it's a myth that no one wants monogamous relationships anymore and how you can stay true to your own needs/ desires, sift out the people who are not on the same page, and focus o…

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S21E3: Chaotic Singles Party: Inside Edition w/ Cassidy Davis 1:10:16

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What happens when you can't seem to find any good people to date? Your app dates are blah and it feels like you just aren't meeting the right people IRL. We're talking to Cassidy Davis, the creator of Chaotic Singles Party, of how she went from tragically single (her words!) to meeting her finance by taking matters into her own hands by inviting 65…

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#brunchtalk: Dating Isn't As Personal As We Make It 25:04

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It's hard not to take dating personally. But the reality is that most people WON'T be matches – and if they don't text back, don't want to go on another date, or don't want to enter a serious committed relationship, most times it has nothing to do with you. So join us in this #brunchtalk to discuss why can shift our mindset to approach dating with …

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S21E2: The Compatibility Myth w/ Eli Finkel 1:06:03

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How do you choose a partner that's a good match for you? We're joined with Eli Finkel, social psychologist and the Director of the Relationship & Motivation Lab at Northwestern University to debunk what matters and what doesn't when it comes to compatibility in relationships. We're discussing why initial shared interests and similar personalities m…

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#brunchtalk: You Don't Need To Be Good At Dating 26:20

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Yup, you heard us right. You don't need to be good at dating – at least the way we're dating today. We're back for all new brunch talk to dive into why after 10 years of doing a dating podcast, we believe that we're actually doing more that fosters disconnection than actual connection in today's dating world. Sure you can't be an utter train wreck,…

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S21E1: The Shift To Conscious Dating 57:41

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We're back for SEASON 21 and we're reporting on the next biggest shift in dating, that takes dating intentionally one step further – and also removes the challenges that more 'purpose-driven' dating has caused in the last couple of years. So it's time to wake the f up as we shift into a world of conscious dating that in turn lead to relationships t…

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#brunchtalk: Is Being Too Interested A Turn Off? 15:26

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Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based o…

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What It Means To Be Dateable w/ John Kim 1:08:30

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We're one week away from Season 21....so what else would we do but reminisce about our 21st birthdays as we usher in a new season of Dateable! But before the season begins, we're airing an episode we did with John Kim that talks about the complexities of modern dating, how cultural differences come into play, and the evolution of relationships in t…

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#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're Relationship Ends Out of Nowhere 16:32

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You finally found someone you're into who is also into you. Until out of nowhere – it all blows up. If you've been here before, you know how painful it feels when it seems like the the rug was just pulled from under you unexpectedly We're breaking down the reasons this may happen and how to handle the emotional turmoil that comes from this. We disc…

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The Surprising Things That Seduce Us Away From Authentic Relationships w/ Ken Page 1:13:24

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What if when dating there are certain things getting in your way that are tempting in ways you may not expect? We're talking with our dear friend psychotherapist Ken Page about how our current dating culture sets people up to fail - and what to do about it. We're talking about the 5 dating archetypes, how to avoid the validation trap when dating, a…

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#brunchtalk: What To Do When They Won't Commit 15:38

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So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold back sex or other intimacy? We're diving into how to handle one of the biggest challenges in dating – when one person is ready to have a relationship and the other isn't quite there We're discussing why i…

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Finding Love After Heartbreak w/ Heather McG 1:01:16

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If you're in the thick of heartbreak (or have been before) know that there is hope! Yes, you absolutely can come back stronger after this period of grief – even if it doesn't feel like it right now. We're sharing an interview we did with Heather McG about our personal stories of heartbreak and the lessons learned from past relationships. Join us as…

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#brunchtalk: The Difference of First Dates in Your 30s 15:18

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Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pr…

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How To Be Dateable & Rarely Into Anyone w/ Damona Hoffman 1:17:57

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What happens when you're trying to be Dateable....yet not finding anyone of interest? We're re-airing one of our fave interviews with the fabulous Damona Hoffman as we go into getting out of that dating rut, finding the necessary clarity to move forward in your love life, and how to start connecting deeper on dates. Plus, Damona answers the questio…