Best Brad And Lisa Valencia Podcasts (2025)

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184. The Holiday Yes/No: How Couples Can Guard Peace Together 53:24

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The holidays can bring joy—and they can bring pressure. In this episode, we talk about how to create a healthy dynamic for your marriage and your family by paying attention to what actually matters. It all begins with clarity and unity between you and your spouse, especially when it comes to calendars, commitments, and expectations. Because every y…

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183. The Weight of Insecurity: What’s Robbing Your Intimacy 1:01:17

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Insecurity quietly steals what God meant for connection. When we fixate on our flaws, we shift our eyes off of God and onto ourselves—placing a weight on our spouse and those closest to us that they were never meant to carry. In this episode, we’re talking about how insecurity robs us of intimacy, why it distorts our view of God and others, and how…

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182. Consistency Over Intensity | How Showing Up Strengthens Your Faith, Marriage, and Parenting 52:03

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about why consistency trumps intensity in your faith, marriage, and parenting. You can’t build a strong spiritual foundation by chasing emotional highs or trying to make up for inconsistency with one big moment. True growth comes from faithfully showing up every day, even when you don’t feel like it. When you choos…

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181. Courageous Faith: What Does It Look Like to Live Your Faith Out Loud? | Missionary Stories with Gage 1:09:01

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What does it look like to truly live your faith out loud? In this powerful and personal episode, we sit down with our son, Gage, to talk about his incredible missionary adventures and the boldness it takes to share Christ in everyday life. Gage opens up about how God called him into missions, the moments that stretched his faith, and the ways he’s …

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180. Gratitude Changes Everything: Seeing God’s Goodness Through it All 56:39

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In this episode, we’re talking about the power of gratitude in marriage — how shifting your focus from what’s missing to what God is doing can bring hope, healing, and deeper connection. Gratitude doesn’t deny the hard seasons; it reminds you that God is working all things for good. Verse: “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will f…

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179. Disconnected in a Connected World: How to Truly Be Present 1:04:27

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We’re more “connected” than ever—but many of us feel more disconnected than ever. Phones, endless scrolling, constant noise, and the pressure to always be “in the know” are leaving us unable to fully sit with ourselves or the people we love. In this episode, we talk about: • Why silence and stillness feel so uncomfortable—and why that’s exactly whe…

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178. Built for Hard Things: Why Struggle Makes Us Strong 51:58

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We weren’t created for comfort—we were created for strength. In this episode, we explore why challenges are not meant to break us but to build us, how capacity is developed through resistance, and what it really means that God’s power is made perfect in our weakness. You wee made for hard things- things that are impossible without God, and so much …

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177. The Father Effect: How Dads Shape Faith, Strength & Identity 49:39

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A mother’s love offers comfort and safety. A father’s love calls a child into courage and resilience. In this episode, we unpack the powerful role of fathers—how their presence (or absence) shapes the way children view God, handle life’s pressures, and walk out their faith as adults. Blending research, biblical wisdom, and real-life insight, we’ll …

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176. When It Stings: Investing in Your Marriage 56:31

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Let’s be real—what you invest in is what you truly value. In this episode, we share our own resources and dreams, and the faith it takes to speak them out loud. We also want to challenge you: are you pouring more into your lifestyle, hobbies, or comfort than into your marriage? The truth is, God designed marriage to reflect His covenant love, and t…

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175. Why Do We Stop Short? Faith, Marriage, and a 2 Degree Shift 53:41

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Join us as we get a chance to share about our son, and what God is doing right now. We serve the same God of power and might who answers prayers and moves TODAY We also dig into the question: why do we stop short? Whether it’s in our marriage, our faith, our relationships, or boldly sharing Christ—what could happen if we went all in and truly belie…

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174. Built to Last: Foundation and Pivots inMarriage 58:18

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In this episode, we’re sharing some powerful lessons God taught us while building a home in Guatemala with Casas por Cristo—and how those same truths apply directly to marriage. From the importance of a firm foundation to learning how to pivot when plans change, we saw firsthand how trust in God transforms everything. We talk about how the Body of …

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173. 24 for 24 – Part 2: The Grit, Grace, and Growth of Marriage 52:07

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In Part 2 of our anniversary special, we’re diving into the second half of the 24 pieces of marriage advice we’ve learned over 24 years together. These are the deeper lessons—about forgiveness, fun, intimacy, and fighting for each other instead of against. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay connected through chaos, how to rebuild trust, or how to …

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172. 24 Years, 24 Lessons: Part 1 – Marriage Advice You Don’t Want to Miss 1:00:42

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After 24 years of marriage, we’ve gathered a list of 24 pieces of advice that have shaped, challenged, and strengthened our relationship—and in this two-part series, we’re sharing them with you. In this episode, we dive into the first 12 lessons, from the practical to the deeply personal. Whether you’re newly married or decades in, there’s somethin…

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171. Living Offended: The Silent Sabotage 54:15

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Let’s be honest—offense is heavy. And if we’re not careful, we start carrying things we were never meant to hold. In this episode, we open up a raw, no-judgment conversation about what happens when we live offended—and how it affects our heart, our relationship with God, and our marriage. We talk about how bitterness doesn’t just isolate you—it sta…

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170. Trusting God … Not the episode we planned, but the one we needed 51:32

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This episode hit different—because as we were recording it, God was working on us. What started as a conversation about marriage and trust in dry seasons quickly became a moment of conviction. We had to face the truth: we weren’t trusting God as much as we thought we were. And most importantly we talk about how God uses the desert—yes, even the har…

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169. You’re Not Just ‘Mom’—You’re Called, Covered, and Chosen 1:01:43

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As moms, it’s far too easy to live under the weight of guilt, comparison, and the constant feeling that we’re not doing enough. In this episode, we’re breaking down the lie of failure that so many of us carry—and replacing it with the truth: this role matters deeply. You are seen by God. He has equipped you for this sacred work and the seeds you ar…

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168. Let Them Feel It: The Healing Power of Consequences 1:14:25

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What if the most loving thing you could do… was let someone face the full weight of their choices? In this episode, we unpack the hard truth that rescuing isn’t always love. We dive into why stepping in too soon can actually delay growth, how consequences can be the very tool God uses for transformation, and how to release the people we care about …

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167. The Warrior and the Helper: Reclaiming Biblical Roles in Marriage 1:05:10

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“Be strong and courageous.” (Joshua 1:9) God calls men to be protectors — not to dominate, but to defend with love. Women were created to strengthen, not diminish. In this episode, we break down God’s original design for marriage: where leadership is sacrificial, help is powerful, and true protection honors, covers, and brings life. We reclaim the …

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166. Quirks, Perks, and Love That Works 55:28

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Ever notice how the little quirks in your partner’s behavior can be endearing, amusing, and quickly shift to irritating? In this episode, we dive into the everyday idiosyncrasies that can sometimes drive us up the wall—like leaving cabinets open, repeating stories, or even being hilariously enthusiastic about dishwasher organization—and uncover how…

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165. Marked by Love : Loving and Serving Like Jesus — Especially When It’s Hard 1:00:01

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What does real love look like? In this episode, we explore the heart of Jesus’ love—the kind that washed Judas’ feet, embraced the outcast, and laid down everything for those who didn’t deserve it. Jesus said the world would know we are His followers by the way we love. That includes our spouses, especially when it’s difficult. Love isn’t just a fe…

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164. Silent or Explosive? How Shutting Down & Raging Both Hurt Your Marriage 56:35

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In this episode, we dive into the challenges many couples face when communication breaks down—particularly when reactions fall to extremes. Whether it's shutting down and withdrawing or explosive outbursts fueled by anger, both responses can cause long-term damage to your relationship. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, bu…

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163. Don't Skip Assessment: How This can Help Build Trust & Strengthen Your Marriage 45:51

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Trust and connection in marriage don’t just happen—they require regular reflection and assessment. In this episode, we discuss why honest self-assesement, and assessment of your marriage, is essential for both preventing issues and rebuilding trust after challenges. Join us as we discuss practical ways to assess communication, spiritual growth, and…

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162. Middle of the Miracle - Building faith to persevere 55:58

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of holding onto faith, even when the road gets tough, and why sometimes the greatest miracles happen in the middle of the mess. Whether you’re facing challenges in your marriage or looking to strengthen your relationship with your spouse, this episode offers biblical encouragement, practical advice, and po…

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161. The Empty Promise: Unmasking Infidelity’s Deception 46:11

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Infidelity often stems from deep-seated insecurities and unchecked pride, leading individuals to seek fulfillment outside their covenant with God and their spouse. The enemy cunningly offers half-truths, mixing a semblance of truth with poison, enticing hearts away from divine purpose. In this episode, we delve into the common threads underlying un…

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160. The Hidden Cost: Are you willing to sacrifice? 54:27

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What separates those who thrive in marriage from those who struggle? There’s a hidden factor—one that reveals who is truly willing to love sacrificially and who holds back. In this episode, we explore the biblical foundation of sacrifice in marriage, the unseen heart attitudes that define our willingness, and how embracing God’s design can transfor…

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159. Sacred & Set Apart: Protecting What Matters Most in Marriage 52:43

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In marriage, what you pursue is what you protect—so how are you safeguarding what matters most? In this episode of Unrelenting Pursuit, we’re diving into the sacredness of marriage—what it means to be set apart, held in high regard, and fiercely committed to honoring your covenant. We’ll explore how treating your marriage as holy and intentional cr…

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158. Stronger Together: Emotional Intimacy & Decision-Making in Marriage 50:41

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In this episode, we’re diving into two key areas that impact every marriage: emotional intimacy and decision-making. Many couples struggle to connect deeply, not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t always understand how men and women experience emotional intimacy differently. We’ll also unpack the OODA Loop (Observe, Orient, …

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157. Stand by Me : Who you choose to stand beside shapes who you are inside 1:03:51

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The people closest to you have a powerful influence on your character, growth, and life’s direction. Yet, many—especially men—often overlook the importance of investing in this critical area of life. In this episode, we dive into how the people standing beside you shape the person you are inside. We’ll discuss the necessity of building a strong, in…

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156. Rooted in Connection – Keeping what REALLY matters 54:27

1y ago54:27

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In this episode, we explore how to keep the true heart of connection alive in your marriage and family during the Thanksgiving season. With all the expectations and traditions that come with the holidays, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters: your connection with God and your spouse. Join us as we discuss how to prioritize love, grace, an…

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155. Recognizing Manipulation: The Hidden Harm 1:01:10

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Manipulation often disguises itself in subtle ways, yet it deeply damages relationships and undermines trust. In this episode, we expose common tactics of manipulation, including: • Emotional Blackmail • Gaslighting • Passive Aggression • Victimhood • Control • Withholding Affection Learn how to identify and address these harmful behaviors—whether …

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154. The Breaking Leads to Breakthrough: Don’t Compromise 54:54

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In this episode, we explore how true breakthrough often requires a process of breaking, as God calls us to let go of the things that no longer serve His purpose in our lives. This journey applies to marriage, too, where compromising on Godly standards can feel like a way to avoid discomfort but ultimately leads us toward temporary relief instead of…

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153. The Little Things That Hurt: How Micro-Rejections Show up in Marriage 1:00:31

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In this episode, we dive into the subtle, often unnoticed behaviors—micro-rejections—that can slowly create a chasm between you and your spouse. Join us as we explore what micro-rejections look like, why they’re easy to overlook, and how they can build up over time to erode trust and connection. Learn how to recognize and address these small hurts …

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152. Transforming Your Marriage: 3 Questions That Can Change Everything” 52:06

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In this episode, we explore three transformative questions from Gary Chapman that can change the course of your marriage: •What can I do to help you? •How can I make your life easier? •How can I be a better husband/wife? These questions, when asked with humility and selflessness, open the door to deeper communication and connection. When you choose…

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151. Love Languages: Unlocking Deeper Connection in Your Marriage 52:21

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In this episode, we dive into the connection between love languages, respect, and how you both give and receive love. Understanding your own love language, as well as your spouse’s, can radically impact the health of your marriage. We discuss how the way you express love ties into showing respect and how this directly influences your relationship w…

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150. Beyond Behavior: Living Out Genuine Transformation 48:58

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In this episode, we explore the crucial difference between behavior modification and true transformation. While behavior modification focuses on outward actions and temporary change, true transformation comes from Christ and leads to lasting growth. Repentance plays a key role in this process, allowing you to move beyond simply altering your behavi…

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149. Navigating the Aftermath: When, How, and IF to Talk to Your Kids About Your Marriage Struggles 48:42

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In this sensitive episode, we tackle the challenging topic of communicating and healing with your children after experiencing the fallout from an affair. We understand that this is a difficult conversation, filled with emotions and uncertainties. Join us as we explore: 1. Finding the Right Words– How to approach the conversation honestly and age-ap…

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148. Unlocking Her Heart: learning what really matters to your wife 51:14

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Men, respecting your wife means more than just making decisions—it’s about valuing her contributions, recognizing her wisdom, and praising her openly. Join us as we dive deeper into how these biblical principles can create a more balanced and fulfilling relationship. Go after strengthening your marriage by speaking your wife’s respect language. We …

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147. Unspoken Signals: Learning how to communicate what REALLY matters to your man 53:00

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In this episode, we explore 6 practical ways to build up and empower your husband through respect, trust, and unwavering support that is covered by "Through The Word: Marriage Talks". https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans 1. Let Him Lead– Trusting and following his leadership helps him feel strong and confident. 2. Communicate Trust– Affirm your b…

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146. UNBREAKABLE : The Strength of Not Letting Go in Your Marriage 36:43

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Join us as we discuss the importance of never letting go! In this episode we dive deep into the power of perseverance in relationships. Every marriage faces challenges, but what sets lasting unions apart is the decision to hold on when times get tough. We’ll explore how commitment, faith, and intentional effort can help you overcome obstacles and b…

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145. Distract, Deceive, Destroy - Paying attention to how these three tactics impact your marriage. 49:57

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The truth is that you make time for what you prioritize, and that plays out in your spiritual, emotional, and physical health, along with your marriage. You have to create space for connection because the distractions will always be there! The enemy uses the same playbook with all of us, and if he can't deceive us or destroy us, he will settle for …

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144. What You Tolerate Dominates - How what you tolerate impacts you, your marriage, and your walk with God. 54:30

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In the book, "Extreme Ownership," by Jock Willink he quotes, "It's not what you preach, it's what you tolerate." This caused us both to take a good hard look at ourselves, and areas in our life where this has had an impact. The reality is that what you tolerate...dominates. Challenge for this week is to look inward at what you are tolerating indivi…

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143. Facing Your Fears - How to gain confidence and let go of control 50:00

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So often, fear can take us down a road that leaves us crippled, trying to be prepared for all scenarios and in control. But that control is an illusion, and instead fear ends up robbing us of our present, and of our future. Stand in God's truth for your life and have confidence in who He is and what He can do. https://open.spotify.com/episode/0BMxs…

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142. Part 2 - Practical Steps to Protect Your Marriage 1:09:31

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The reality is that every marriage faces stress, and the first responder world has some additional stressors to navigate. HOW you navigate those, who you turn to, your relationship with Christ, how you listen, how you die to self, and how you handle the adrenaline rush will determine the direction of your marriage. Don't be a statistic. You are eas…

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141. How Your Job impacts Your Marriage - A look into the first responder world 1:10:17

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The first responder world is riddled with a high divorce rate, and constant variables that contribute to an unhealthy marriage. We dive into our own experience in this realm as both a team member and spouse, and offer some insight to help protect and bring hope to your marriage. Links: https://thinblue1st.org/mission-%26-vision https://digitalcommo…

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140. Saying Yes to God - What does it look like to take the next right step? 1:04:01

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We were so honored to have our daughter on this episode as she shares what saying yes to God has done in your life. There were so many truths that emerged throughout this conversation for your faith, life, and marriage. When God asks you to say yes to something, don't practice delayed obedience, and when He asks you to let go, don't hold on. Life i…

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139. A Year of Firsts - How to navigate through the anniversaries of the hard things in life 54:24

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This is a discussion we had never had before this episode. We openly wrestle through what it looks like to hold both joy and pain together at the same time, and allow you to hear the perspective of both of us and what it looked like to navigate through the first year after our breach in trust. Ultimately, we encourage you to lean into a perspective…

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138. Obstacles to Better Sex in Your Marriage 1:01:40

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There are many things that can create obstacles to great sex in your marriage. These include your memories, communication, past trauma, libido, age, changes, stressors, insecurities, and addiction. There are many obstacles, but there is such hope! God can redeem, heal, and restore this area. Don't let anything stop you from reclaiming ground in thi…

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137. Does God Have a Plan For Me and My Marriage..and can I mess it up? 59:41

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We navigated a lot of topics on this episode that impact your faith and marriage, including what it looks like to live when someone isn't willing or wanting to pursue Christ, and whether you have the ability to mess up God's plan. Here are some practical things discussed that you CAN do to stay in God's will and show Jesus to your spouse. Pray Seek…

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136. Navigating Grief and Infant Loss - Interview with Foreknown Ministries 1:08:08

1+ y ago1:08:08

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We loved getting to know Kelsi and Ryan and to have an opportunity to hear their hearts for helping others navigate through loss and grief. There are principles throughout their story that can be applied to any season of life. The Cole family is a beautiful trio in their photo, but behind the scenes, they hold a story of tremendous loss, resilience…

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135. Sacrifice Without Loss - No greater love 52:57

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John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. This verse talks about the physical aspect of laying down your life for someone else, and that's part of it, but Christ laid down His life sacrificially long before He did it physically. What does this mean for you and for your marriage? How could this shi…