HERE LIES THE REMAINS OF THE BIG HORMONE ENNEAGRAM PODCAST, 2020-2025 RIPBy John Luckovich, Emeka Okorafor, David Gray, Alexandra Arroyo-Acevedo

Special episode with DG and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the instincts in chakras. Link for the Chakra/Instinct Correlation Diagram to follow along in our conversation: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RBqzLoZ5X0JEqE_LlVlYVqOkzg61bL-c/view?usp=sharing —(1:27) - The archetypal sexual instinct; destruction and creation —(6:05) - Self-Preservat…

Join us with libations and preferred substances as we look back on the beautiful dumpster fire that was 2024. —(1:27) 4-wings episode postpartum —(9:39) “This podcast used to be good” —(14:48) More Alexandra vs Emeka shit talk —(21:28) Welcome to our end of year 5 drunk pod —(24:10) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram —(29:30) Embodying real sp…

After an unfathomable delay we’ve returned to the wings series. **send in your questions and comments for episode #200 bonanza** —(1:27) Alexandra gaslighting us about why she gave up on the wing series —(12:25) 4-wings intro —(17:53) 9 vs 4 differences / 4’s off-putting emotional aggression —(23:17) The ambient emotional friction of 4 / frustrated…

Continuing where we left off with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars. **start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200** —(1:27) Couples that look like siblings —(5:50) The different splits in masculine/feminine psyche —(8:06) Social shadow work to understand sexual insti…

Special episode with John and Kristen of the Sinsomnia podcast on the archetypal feminine/masculine myths in Star Wars. **start sending in your questions and comments for episode #200** — (1:27) Plugs — (5:53) Salome & Star Wars intro — (7:00) Conditions of existence, Masculine/Feminine, and the third force — (10:38) John sets the Star Wars stage —…

Diving into the shadow sex scandal putting equatorial guinea on the map. — (1:27) New formats for the pod / send in questions for episode #200 — (5:15) The African gov’t official sex tapes scandal — (12:51) He’s a smooth criminal 9 — (27:09) Sexual blind conservatism in African culture — (36:26) Freakoffs is the douchiest DJ name / sexual narcissis…

— (1:27) The Big Hormone Self-Pres podcast — (3:37) Psychedelics as anti-depressants (correction: serotonin is a neurotransmitter not a hormone) — (11:26) COVID stories and launching the pod — (16:31) The great disillusionment — (19:51) Trump and elon dork — (21:52) Synflow vs contraflow in autonomy conflicts — (33:30) Getting back into the wing se…

— (1:27) the john stream from the void — (5:22) consciousness experiencing itself and letting go — (8:45) complicated relationship to brotherhood — (18:10) a zone is always happening — (22:08) energy around male connection — (35:10) self-pres nerd out — (40:52) bhe guide to crashing out / menendez brothers parent killing — (45:55) zone stem updates…

what it do babyyy: https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones — (1:27) We watched Bone Tomahawk — (5:06) Instinct Zone updates / Emeka’s 1-3 flame burnout — (10:09) The Play Zones and nailing down long term relationship — (15:23) Stackings within the stackings made a comeback / syn vs contra zone stems — (22:05) The weirdness of 3-1 fetish — (24:2…

Spilling more instinct zone insights: https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones — (1:27) souuuunddd check — (4:18) Instinct Zone updates and DG’s SX2-3 game — (9:43) SX2 game vs SX1 froth — (14:44) SX3-2 and John’s meats sexual bias — (19:08) Emeka SX3-1 feeding the fetish — (23:12) John’s autonomy conflicts and the zones — (27:08) Renewing the s…

New juice to wet your beaks. To follow along check out the intro blogs and videos here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/instinct-zones — (3:29) What are the instinct zone stems? — (9:51) Why Alexandra feels like others are doing social wrong / SO2-1 the gossip flake — (13:48) The Social Zones — (16:54) DG’s social zone 1 provocations — (27:22) John’s …

Valeria, our akashic channel, is here to talk about channeling. To get your akashic reading with Valeria DM her on IG: https://www.instagram.com/valeriakechichian — (7:55) Welcome Valeria — (12:34) What is channeling? — (17:22) Importance of channels being clean vessels / perceiving things with neutrality and no judgement — (32:59) The enneagram wa…

Full on mystical woo. To book your akashic reading with Valeria DM her on IG: https://www.instagram.com/valeriakechichian — (3:29) What are the akashic records? and what’s a reading like? — (11:49) DG’s a russian doll earth man — (20:35) Alexandra’s a forest fairy warrior — (37:45) John’s a player of dark entities — (53:45) Emeka’s a grounding fusi…

Got your head on a swivel. — (1:27) How major the Bermuda Overlays are — (4:23) No Diddy and creepy 3w2s — (8:16) Why do people hate Teal Swan so much? / BHE Suicide Hotline — (16:46) DG’s metallurgy analogy for how a wing transforms a fix — (23:22) Are the attachment wings harder to see? — (25:47) What if 9w8 is the most common 9? — (29:36) Gut is…

Psychedelic 7 frustration with Ikram. — (4:00) The overwhelming depths of 7 disappointment and self-hatred / giving yourself what you didn’t get in childhood — (9:50) The psychic aural fixation of 7 — (13:35) Frustration as the engine to go out into the world / constant bust-boom cycle — (17:03) 7s walking a tight wire with lines to competency and …

Continuing our series on frustration and type 4. — (2:23) 3w2 interpersonal availability / we’re reacting to 3w2 not bashing it — (9:17) Aesthetic preferences for 4 as an expression of hidden personal selfhood — (14:40) 4 staying in the realm where things can only be seen in the dark — (18:12) The role of 4 for the collective heart in giving voice …

it’s the spice of life. — (1:25) Frustration is the aesthetic of each center — (6:10) Frustration as the basis of human suffering and expression of personality — (7:56) Bermuda Overlays and frustration as personalized flavor / rejection as the elemental substrate of each center — (14:25) Frustration doesn’t give up on their needs but unwilling to w…

Alejohndra are back with tales of their Egypt trip. — (1:25) John and Alexandra recap their retreat to Egypt — (9:05) What about the aliens? / the construction of the pyramids had to be an exercise in presence and intention — (16:23) The femininity of Egypt — (21:04) Egypt peaked early and then fell off hard — (31:06) Special John the mystical guid…

In this episode of WILTBY Josh interviews Louis. — (4:50) Josh processing his 2-wing and meeting Louis at the zone / the team love vs team truth confrontation — (11:45) 3w2 facilitating and orchestrating connection vs 3w4 distant excellence — (16:35) The philosophy of truth vs love in psychotherapy — (20:49) Carl Rogers unconditional positive regar…

We watched Poor things right before recording our impressions and thoughts. Call the nota4 hotline at (323) 696-0647. — (2:40) Overview of Poor Things and its ode to the head center — (8:40) The surgeon is a 5 — (13:22) 6 reactivity leveling the playing field with negativity — (16:30) hexad vs attachment response to suffering in the world — (23:45)…

They don’t want you to know. — (3:10) Nines are everyone’s least favorite mud cattle — (6:38) Sixes are annoying cult maintainers — (11:13) Sevens are the slutty surprise suicide Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Josh Brolin, Frank Herbert, and the Bermuda Overlays and get type…

A must-watch for every 9 and 9-fixer. Watch Dogville and then come back to this. — (8:42) Why we’re talking about Dogville / Plot overview — (19:53) The hope of attachment vs the leverage of rejection — (24:30) How things went from bad to worse — (30:04) The arrogance of 9 — (37:32) Grace confronted by the Dogville principle — (47:14) Grace represe…

Live from Harlem tunneling thru the catacombs of the heart. Watch here: https://youtu.be/tnkHm0LCX_c — (2:18) Alright.. the heart center live — (6:45) The value of shame / heart-2nd impresisons — (13:15) Josh’s core 3 image and sensitivity to self-abandonment — (16:07) Decoupling emotion from the feeling of the heart center — (20:40) Shame shame sh…

New insights emerging on having your heart center last. — (4:22) Alexandra’s new insights about heart-last and image being a cultivated sense of identity — (12:27) Being a social-blind image type / reinforcing who you are to yourself — (16:28) Painting your self-portrait and updating how things reflect on you — (23:18) Aesthetic of personality and …

We’re back at it looking at reactive harmonics. — (3:22) Reactive vs frustration / harmonics is how we resolve a situation — (7:16) ‘Hopeful’ better describes what positive outlook is up to / reactive aims to uncover where the other is located under duress — (9:51) Katt Williams and 6 exposing the worst case scenario — (12:34) 4/6/8 testing to see …

Looking back on 2023 with libations. Happy new year you filthy animals. — (2:20) Our impressions of BHE year IV / shifts in the business of the enneagram — (8:31) Why interest in the enneagram is taking a dip — (14:27) Do people know about BHE or nah — (20:06) Enneagram reddit thinks Naranjo is the truth — (27:31) Highlights of 2023 episodes / the …

Chatting the enneagram in the movies. — (2:48) Non-romantic sexual instinct in Suspiria / sx-middle teases / Twin Peaks’ weird sp/sx — (10:32) Holy Mountain and Enter the Void as sexual instinct movies — (14:39) Paul Thomas Anderson and attachment stories — (16:38) How rare sexual is in the stacking / most movies are sp/so / Ari Aster makes derange…

Od’s with us this week to dive into the interesting world of astrocartography. — (10:12) What is astrocartography and how’d we get into this? — (16:08) Moving to significant areas on your astro map — (21:17) How to create your astrocartography map / what the circles on the map mean — (25:25) John’s lines confirm his love affair with Egypt — (29:04)…

Continuing where we left off with Ikram and the Objective Personality Social Types. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (6:16) The sp/so framing of the social roles concept makes it smaller / does social roles have any implications for the sexual instinct? — (8:40) Emeka vs John sx/sp with responsibility v…

We’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles — (14:18) What does flex mean? — (20:03) Flex vs friends — (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections w…

Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions. Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks — (2:32) How important is trifix order? — (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct? — (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes — (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake? — (30:13) How to rizz…

The wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details. — (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame — (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special — (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness — (15:…

The fuming and stewing gut types. — (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood — (9:05) David is very angry at the sun — (16:49) And the plague of bread people — (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem — (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over — (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / t…

Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types. — (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated — (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world — (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8 — (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice — (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues — (24:17) How Emeka and John exp…

— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency — (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for? — (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by — (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body — (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating so…

A sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar. — (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4 — (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity — (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity — (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression — (16:37) John…

A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends. — (7:55) Let the roasts begin — (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers — (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds — (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people — (20:21) Podcasting in …

We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct. — (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing — (16:44) Potential dangers in social space — (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game — (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up — (29:47) Social i…

Introducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh. — (12:36) Why do attachment types need support? — (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are — (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment — (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility —…

We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram. — (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people — (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself — (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot …

Watch the live pod on youtube: https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4 — (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group — (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group — (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns — (53:51) Courtney finding…

— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds — (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context — (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum — (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?! — (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly — (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixa…

— (6:30) Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection — (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon — (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community — (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher? — (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit o…

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off. — (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4 — (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection — (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s? — (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a c…

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last — (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts — (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood — (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like — (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable…

— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft? — (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫ — (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s? — (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief? — (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing — (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to h…

— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra — (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers — (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy — (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual? — (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / s…

Super spreader hormoan instinct talks. — (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want — (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk — (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawin…

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct — (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct — (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda — (15:03) Zooming out a…