How You Teach People to Treat You (and How to Take Your Power Back)
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Hey Ambitchious Tribe!
It's Katie Boyd, the original HBIC, and Iâm here with a quick but powerful recap of this weekâs Ambitchious Podcast episode:
Letâs get real: Lately, it feels like peopleâs audacity is at an all-time high, am I right? Whether itâs out at dinner, traveling, or just interacting day-to-day, boundaries are getting tested everywhere. Todayâs episode goes deep on how youâyes, YOUâteach others how to treat you, and how radical responsibility is everything when it comes to setting the standard for your relationships, work, and self-respect.
Key Takeaways:1. Radical Responsibility Is Queen
Stop wondering, âWhy did they treat me this way?â and start asking, âWhere did I give permission for this?â Accepting that you have the power to shape how others behave toward you is LIFE-CHANGING.
2. Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries
Strong, pristine boundaries arenât just self-careâtheyâre an absolute necessity. If you accept mistreatment or disregard, youâre inadvertently telling people thatâs okay with you. If you need a boundaries refresher, check out previous podcasts or my book (thereâs a whole chapter on boundaries!). https://kbmfc.com/products/ambitchious-book
3. Respond to MistreatmentâImmediately
When someone crosses a line, donât let it slide and hope for the best. Address it right then and there. The more consistent and direct you are, the faster people will adapt to the new standard youâre setting.
4. Flex that Self-Awareness Muscle
Ask yourself: âWhy am I letting this happen?â Address your own triggers and patternsâwhether rooted in past trauma or old people-pleaser tendenciesâso you can show up as your most powerful, intentional self.
5. Clear Communication: No One is a Mind-Reader
Donât expect others to magically know your needs and limits. Say what you mean, mean what you say, and donât apologize for it. It may feel uncomfortable, but resentment is a way worse feeling to carry.
6. Consistency is Everything
Boundaries mean nothing without consistency. Be vigilantâdonât make exceptions because youâre tired, guilty, or just not in the mood to deal. If you waver, people will test those boundaries again and again.
7. Self-Respect (With a Side of Respect for Others)
Remember: Upholding your standards isnât just a favor to yourselfâitâs also respectful to the other person. No one can meet your needs if youâre not clear about what they are.
Letâs Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life
If this episode resonated with you, please share it with your soul circle! And if youâre ready to take things deeper, check out the Ambitchious app or book a complimentary discovery call with me. Letâs get you living life at the next levelâwith zero apologies. https://kbmfc.com/pages/business-coaching
Stay Ambitchious, Queen. And as always, see you next Tuesday.
With love (and pristine boundaries), Katie MF Boyd
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