What does that mean? Resilience says: you got through it, amazing, keep going.

• Accountability says: you shouldn’t have had to “get through it” like that in the first place.

Resilience puts the work on the survivor.
Accountability puts the work on the relationship / family / community / system.

So when people call you strong and stop there, they are choosing resilience over accountability. They’re saying, “Your capacity is the solution,” instead of, “Our repair is the solution.”

IT MEANS: Please keep performing resilience so I can keep avoiding accountability.

That’s why Ana keeps saying:
“You don’t have to heal alone.”
Because being the strong one is healing alone. It’s the glorified version of healing alone.

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Resilience Without Rest Is Violence

Resilience has been over-celebrated.
Accountability has been ignored.

Resilience says: You got through it. Amazing.
Accountability says: You shouldn’t have had to get through it like that at all.

When people call you strong but never ask who failed you, they’re choosing resilience over repair.
They’re saying, “Your capacity is the solution,” instead of, “Our care is the solution.”

Ana Mael doesn’t just talk about trauma as psychology, but as an issue of ethics, human rights, and collective dignity. She talks about moral values, personal and collective rights, and why accountability is essential for healing and human dignity.

This episode continues Ana Mael’s exploration from Strength Is Not Consent.
If that first conversation exposed how the “strong one” label hides collective avoidance, this one asks the harder question:

What do we owe one another after harm has occurred?
And what does accountability look like — not as punishment, but as restoration of dignity and truth?

In this follow-up to Strength Is Not Consent, Ana Mael expands her critique of resilience culture by introducing a radical concept: healing as a moral and human rights issue.

Speaking as a Somatic Experiencing Therapist, war survivor, and moral thinker, Ana argues that resilience without accountability perpetuates injustice — both personally and collectively.

She examines how Western therapy often privatizes pain, turning survival into an individual performance, while ignoring the political, cultural, and ethical systems that caused it.
Through body-based reflection and social commentary, she explores how true healing requires moral recognition, repair, and the restoration of dignity.

This episode bridges psychology, philosophy, and human rights — asking listeners to rethink what justice means in the aftermath of harm.

“Resilience is survival.

Accountability is the return of humanity.”