In this deeply moving episode of M.E.S.H., host Pamela Brewer sits down with acclaimed author, musician, and poet Bruce A. Jacobs to discuss his forthcoming book, "Fishing While Black." Together, they explore vulnerability, masculinity, and the healing power of the natural world—especially as those themes intersect with trauma, race, and family history. Bruce shares personal stories about his relationship with his emotionally wounded father, reflecting on love, pain, and how time in the wild became a transformative space of connection and growth. The conversation invites listeners to question societal norms about expressing emotion, especially for Black men, and encourages embracing both the complexities of our parents and the restorative possibilities of nature.

Topics Covered:

• Bruce A. Jacobs’ upcoming book, "Fishing While Black"
• The importance of the outdoors as a space for healing and connection
• Navigating complex relationships with parents (love and loathing simultaneously)
• Emotional vulnerability as a Black man
• Breaking generational cycles of trauma and understanding mental illness
• The role of nature in grounding and self-discovery
• Societal attitudes towards mental health and stigma ("loony bin" language)
• The process and compulsion behind writing personal stories

Key Takeaways:

• True healing and connection often happen in places or moments away from societal noise—nature can be medicinal.
• Being vulnerable about personal and familial pain is courageous and necessary, especially in communities where such openness is discouraged.
• Our parents teach us what they know—recognizing their humanity allows for a more compassionate understanding.
• The motivations behind creative expression can be deeply personal and sometimes inescapable.
• Expressing emotion, especially as a Black man, is not a weakness but a powerful act of self-affirmation and relational honesty.
• The language we use to talk about mental health matters and reflects broader societal attitudes.

Top 6 Quotes:

1. "My bonding with my father began and sustained itself in the wild, in the outdoors, next to rivers, in the gorge and in the woods, where he treated me as tenderly as he would have treated a fledgling in his own arms."
2. "He would weep openly in public at something that possessed him to the point where that's the only response he had...the openness itself was a real gift to me, and it remains one."
3. "I loved him as much as, at times, I loathed him. He always loved me and he always let me know."
4. "Our parents learned something, and that's what they taught us, not necessarily out of a place of maliciousness, but that's what they knew."

Connect with Bruce A. Jacobs:

• Literary Journal (for excerpt "The Gorge"): Shenandoah, Spring 2025 (link will be available when published)
• Bluesky: bajacobs.bluesky.social

Resources List:

• "Fishing While Black" (forthcoming book by Bruce A. Jacobs)
• “The Gorge” excerpt by Bruce A. Jacobs: to be published in Shenandoah, Spring 2025 (https://shenandoahliterary.org)

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