Did you know that once a month we are doing a mentor episode? What does that mean? I have come across a lot of moms that desperately want a mentor, but don’t have time to read a book. So! Each month, there will be a podcast topic and your only job is to:

1) listen to the episode

2) talk about it with a mentor or friend that is a season ahead of you

If you’re just getting started - don’t miss the first couple episodes:

• My Virtual Mentor: Why Mentorship Matters
• My Virtual Mentor: Intimacy with God

When I was mentored as a young mom, the topic of "personalities" was one of the most impactful lessons. I learned to study myself, my spouse and my kids and the benefits have been huge in my life. I am still learning all of us!

On today’s episode, we get to hear from author, speaker and podcaster Karen Stubbs. Karen is the founder of Birds On A Wire Moms and has ministers to thousands of moms all over the world. She is passionate about challenging moms to experience motherhood in the way God designed it.

Karen gets practical about how to learn temperaments and personalities for ourselves, our spouses and each of our kids. She also reminds us that we can partner with the Holy Spirit to refine us and grow us - so that we look more and more like Him.

If you’d like to dive deeper into this topic, you will find discussion questions, book referrals, personality tests, scripture verses and more below.

Enjoy!

Courtney

MY VIRTUAL MENTOR GUIDE (INTIMACY WITH GOD)

Scripture to memorize:

I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Psalm 139:14-15

Scriptures for prayer and study:

Galatians 5:16, 22-23

Isaiah 64:8

Ephesians 2:10

Books for further study:

Wired That Way - Marita Littauer

A Grown-Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring by Kathleen Edelman

Personality Plus for Couples by Florence Littauer

Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer

Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Road Back to You – Ian Cron, Suzanne Stabile

Discussion questions:

What are some of your strengths and weaknesses? And your husband’s?

How can you balance each other out as a couple?

How did God wire each of your kids? Strengths and weaknesses?

What temperaments do you need to be aware of in each kid - as you parent them?

(02:48) Understanding Personalities and Temperaments

(05:38) The Importance of Knowing Yourself

(08:26) Navigating Love Languages in Relationships

(11:09) The Role of Awareness in Personal Growth

(14:05) Integrating Faith with Personality Insights

(15:07) Understanding Personality Types in Parenting

(17:59) Navigating Different Personalities in Children

(24:18) The Importance of Personality Awareness in Parenting

(29:48) Embracing the Journey of Motherhood and Grandmotherhood

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Resources from today’s show:

My Virtual Mentor: Why Mentorship Matters

My Virtual Mentor: Intimacy with God

Connect with Karen

Birds On A Wire

FREE personality quiz from Karen

Enneagram Assessment

Spiritual Gift Assessment

Raising Boys & Girls Personality Series - start HERE

Wired That Way - Marita Littauer

A Grown-Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring by Kathleen Edelman

Personality Plus for Couples by Florence Littauer

Personality Plus for Parents by Florence Littauer

Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Road Back to You – Ian Cron, Suzanne Stabile

Christian Parenting Christmas Gift Guide

Father Yourself First

NIV Application Bible

The Biggest Story Holy Bible for Kids

Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube!

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