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In this episode Sarah explores one of the most overlooked yet transformational leadership skills: self-compassion. So many ambitious women lead with empathy for others but are relentlessly hard on themselves. Sarah breaks down why self-compassion isn’t soft or indulgent - it’s a strategic leadership advantage.
If you’ve ever felt “not good enough,” replayed mistakes, or pushed yourself to burnout levels, this episode will help you shift into a kinder, more effective, and more sustainable leadership style.
What You’ll Learn
- What self-compassion really is (and isn’t)
- The three pillars of self-compassion
- How your inner critic gets in the way of leadership effectiveness
- Simple techniques to create a more compassionate internal dialogue
- How self-compassion improves team performance, resilience, and confidence
- A weekly practice to start becoming a more self-compassionate leader
Show Notes
01:00 – Why Feeling “Stuck” Happens at Every Level
Normalising self-doubt and imposter feelings — even for senior leaders.
02:00 – Today’s Topic: Are You a Self-Compassionate Leader?
Why self-compassion matters and how it affects leadership performance.
02:30 – How High-Achieving Women Talk to Themselves
Common phrases Sarah hears from clients and the toll this negative self-talk takes.
03:00 – A Client Story: The Compassionate Leader Who Was Brutal with Herself
A powerful example from a senior tech leader who created a safe, high-performing team — but silently battled her inner critic.
04:00 – Consequences of an Unmanaged Inner Critic
Burnout, indecision, perfectionism, and career self-sabotage.
04:45 – Why We Don’t Notice Our Inner Critic
Understanding how long-held thought patterns become automatic.
05:00 – Why We Don’t Need to “Eliminate” the Inner Critic
Its protective role — and why the goal is to develop an inner coach instead.
05:40 – Introducing a Self-Compassion Practice
How compassion builds the foundation for managing fear-based self-talk.
06:00 – The Research: Why Self-Compassion Is a Strength
Resilience, emotional intelligence, stress reduction — and why kindness is strategic.
06:40 – The Three Pillars of Self-Compassion
- Self-kindness over self-judgment
- Common humanity over isolation
- Mindfulness over over-identification
07:20 – How Over-Identification Fuels Rumination
Why noticing your thoughts is more powerful than believing them.
08:00 – Technique 1: Awareness & Noticing Your Inner Critic
How to identify triggers and write down the language you use with yourself.
09:00 – Technique 2: What Would You Say to a Friend?
Reframing your self-talk with compassion and perspective.
09:40 – Technique 3: Reframing Critical Thoughts
Turning “I failed” into “I’m learning” — without damaging your sense of self.
10:30 – Technique 4: A Micro Self-Compassion Check-In
A moment to breathe, acknowledge difficulty, and ask: What do I need right now?
11:00 – Using Tone & Touch to Soothe the Nervous System
How gentle tone, a self-hug, or hand-stroking can reduce stress.
12:00 – Bringing It All Together
A summary of the steps and how to blend them into daily leadership.
12:40 – Weekly Reflection Questions
Where does your inner critic show up? What triggers it? What’s one act of self-compassion you can choose this week?
13:00 – Closing Thoughts
Self-compassion as a leadership superpower and a way to role model healthier leadership.
Useful Links
Kristin Neff's Self Compassion Test
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Lead With Impact Group Coaching Programme
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