Episode Overview

In this episode of The Future-Ready Advisor, host Sam Sivarajan sits down with Doug Gray, a business psychologist and executive coach with over 30 years of experience helping leaders navigate complex organizational and family dynamics. Doug is the founder of Action Learning Associates and author of "Objectives Plus Key Results Leadership."

They explore the critical intersection of psychology and wealth management, discussing how advisors can better serve multi-generational families through team-based approaches, emotional intelligence, and curiosity-driven engagement. Doug shares his AdFit framework for outcome-based solutions and dispels common myths about generational wealth transfer, offering practical strategies for building the social and emotional capital essential for successful succession planning.

Key Quote

"Curiosity is the currency of learning. When advisors encourage clients to practice their curiosity, amazing things are going to happen." — Doug Gray

Key Takeaways

• Team-based advisory approaches are essential for complex family wealth situations, similar to healthcare teams solving medical problems
• The AdFit framework (Assess, Define, Focus, Interventions, Takeaways) provides structure for outcome-based client engagements
• Social and emotional capital is a bigger driver of succession success than written plans or legal documentation
• The "three generations" wealth loss myth is overstated—proactive planning and learning mindsets enable multi-generational success
• Curiosity and open-ended questioning are powerful tools for engaging next-generation leaders and improving advisor effectiveness

• "Leaders often require guidance from mentors to grow—we all need those sherpas in our professional journeys."
• "Don't we bring teams of advisors just like we do in healthcare to solve the most complex problems?"
• "Social and emotional capital is a bigger driver of succession success than any written plan."
• "The three generations myth is not a reality—it's a mythology that we need to move beyond."
• "When we practice curiosity and we're comfortable with silence, amazing conversations happen."

• 01:06 — Doug's journey from educator to business psychologist and executive coach
• 07:15 — The AdFit framework for outcome-based client solutions
• 13:27 — Navigating confidentiality and family dynamics in wealth management
• 20:35 — Debunking the "three generations" wealth transfer mythology
• 29:29 — Applying positive psychology principles to financial advisory
• 38:15 — Engaging next-generation leaders through curiosity and mentorship
• 45:46 — Practical tips for advisors: The power of open-ended questions

• Learn more about Doug Gray and Action Learning Associates: action-learning.com
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