Series 5: Borderline in Wonderland - Emotions like storms. Love like fire. A heart that’s too big for this tiny teacup world.

E81: The Cheshire Fade: When People Pull Away and You Spiral

In this episode of Borderline in Wonderland, we follow the slow, confusing disappearance of connection — the Cheshire Fade. One moment, someone is close. Smiling. Present.

The next, they’re pulling away — or at least it feels that way — and suddenly, your thoughts start spiraling.

For those living with Borderline Personality Disorder, even the slightest shift in tone, timing, or presence can trigger a flood of fear, doubt, and desperation.

Did I do something wrong? Are they leaving? Are they mad? Am I too much?

The fade doesn’t have to be loud — that’s what makes it hurt more. It’s the unread message, the changed vibe, the silence that wasn’t there yesterday.

And in true Wonderland fashion, it can make you question everything, even your own worth.

In this episode, we dive into the emotional chaos that happens when connection feels like it’s slipping away.

We’ll explore abandonment triggers, perception vs. reality, and what it means to stay grounded when people become ghosts — even temporarily.

If you’ve ever felt shattered by silence or terrified by space, this one’s for you.