Best Pleasure Mechanics Podcasts (2025)

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Integrating Toys Into Partnered Play 31:00

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12d ago31:00

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What pleasure and intimacy could you unlock if you integrated more toys into your partnered play? Many of us have surefire pleasure tools that we use solo and yet don’t bring into the bedroom with our lovers, leaving big parts of our erotic potential behind. In this episode, we invite you to begin integrating toys […]…

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Why Self-Soothing Feels So Hard When You Have Anxious Attachment 17:47

16h ago17:47

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If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you. Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack wh…

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What are the coping mechanisms for adults who have Childhood Trauma [Ep 31] 23:31

8d ago23:31

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☀️**Summer Offer** Single Session Attachment Reset. Limited availability, book your session with Lizandra here Even if you don’t think about your childhood often, the patterns it shaped can still be running the show. In this episode, I’m unpacking powerful and often overlooked ways that childhood trauma continues to affect you in adulthood. This on…

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Self Boundaries, Attachment and Burnout [Ep 30] 26:07

15d ago26:07

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In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key points How everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalised Why childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needs What everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think a…

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The Unspoken Childhood Trauma of Toxic Siblings [Ep 29] 28:05

22d ago28:05

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We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling. The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.” In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-w…

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The Myths and Magic of Masturbation 34:06

27d ago34:06

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Join us for a rousing and stimulating conversation about the magic and myths of masturbation! For this episode we are in conversation with psychologist and professor Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons and Danielle Bezalel, host of the podcast SexEdWithDb to talk about The Magic Wand Study. This study confirms what many of us know deep in […]…

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Is it Narcissism or Avoidant Attachment? [Ep 28] 23:30

29d ago23:30

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Ever wondered if someone’s avoidant or actually narcissistic? In this episode, I break down what sets avoidant attachment apart from narcissism, why they often get confused (especially in anxious-avoidant dynamics), and how understanding the difference can help you stop blaming yourself, start seeing patterns clearly, and move toward healthier rela…

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A Trauma Informed Approach to a Realistic Morning Routine [Ep 27] 19:45

1M ago19:45

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When you're anxious or highly stressed, starting your day with a healthy morning routine for better mental health can help to support your emotional wellbeing. Some routines can feel daunting or another to-do but when you approach it from a place of being trauma informed and realistic, you can work with what you have the time and means to do. This …

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Your Sexy Staycation 25:29

1M ago25:29

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Many people report having the best sexual experiences while on vacation – but you don’t have to wait for an expensive vacation to enjoy all the benefits of Vacation Sex! In this episode, we unpack the essential elements of VacationSex and propose a plan to bring the pleasures home by planning more sexy staycations! From […]…

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Unlearning Shame, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Conversation on Sex & Attachment with Certified Sex Coach Lucy Rowett [Ep 26] 1:02:50

1M ago1:02:50

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If you’ve ever felt disconnected during sex, struggled to enjoy pleasure, or found yourself shutting down emotionally or physically, this episode is for you. This week, psychotherapist Lizandra is joined by certified sexologist Lucy Rowett for a deeply honest and empowering conversation about the links between trauma, attachment wounds, and female …

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Adverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25] 20:29

2M ago20:29

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**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra In this episode, we’re diving into the science behind Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, and why your childhood experiences may still be impacting your mental, emotional, and even physical health today. If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing u…

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Primal Play 35:44

2M ago35:44

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Primal play is a realm many of us crave, but rarely talk about. What does it mean to “go primal” or “become primal” or “play primal” like so many of us say we want? What do we really crave when we talk about primal play? In this episode, we dive into the wild realm of […]By Pleasure Mechanics

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Narcissist Fathers: Perfectionism, Over-achieving and Attachment [Ep 24] 23:06

2M ago23:06

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Many children of narcissistic fathers tend to have a core feeling of never being good enough. Feeling invaluable or invisible unless they are over-performing or over-achieving. This episode looks at the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a narcissistic father and what steps you can take to start healing. Subscribe and watch the f…

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8 Ways you are living in your stress response [Ep 23] 14:14

2M ago14:14

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**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱 Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTok Connect on Instagram In this episode, we're talking about something that so many people are living with daily—often without realising it: being stuck in the stress response. From a trauma-informed perspective, this isn’t just about feeling busy or …

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Taboo And You 29:43

2M ago29:43

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What is Taboo to You? Where do Taboos come from and how do they function in your erotic imagination? Even the word “taboo” has a fascinating cultural history to explore! Join us on this free podcast episode to explore the thrills of transgressing taboos, discovering what happens when we speak the unspeakable, find connection rather […]…

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Taboo And You 23:30

2M ago23:30

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Breaking sexual taboos is so much fun - but sexual shame is toxic. Can we slay shame and still have naughty fun?By Pleasure Mechanics

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Here’s why you’re getting stuck in your healing journey [Ep 22] 15:49

2M ago15:49

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Have you been trying all of the things to move forward in your healing journey? Therapy, podcasts, reading, meditation but you still feel like you’re not getting anywhere? There are often reasons why you can plateau and feel like you are not making progress. This episode helps you to discover what they are so that you can stop being so hard on your…

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Why It’s So Hard to Communicate When You’re Triggered [Ep 21] 15:30

3M ago15:30

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🚨**LAST CHANCE TO BOOK YOUR SEAT Friday 17th May Midnight BST** 👉Click here for your ticket 👈 Ever found yourself freezing mid-conversation, overreacting to a small comment, or walking away from a talk thinking, “That didn’t come out how I meant it to”? You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore why communication feels impossible when you’re tri…

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Service Topping 33:05

3M ago33:05

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Service Topping is a verb – one we can ALL flex as a way to pleasure and lavish the people we care about! Service Topping is all about giving FOR the pleasure of the recipient, focusing all of the attention and intention on the needs, wants and desires of the recipient. Service Topping can include […]…

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The 3 Biggest Communication Mistakes you’re making if you have an Insecure Attachment Style [Ep 20] 11:45

3M ago11:45

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Let’s talk about the subtle ways we push people away - even when we don’t mean to. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 communication habits that can quietly damage connection, especially if you’ve learned to protect yourself by not being fully honest about what you need. Here’s what we cover: Why over-explaining isn’t clarity - it’s a nervous syst…

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5 Unhealthy Emotional Habits That Keep You Disconnected From Yourself [Ep 19] 24:03

3M ago24:03

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Healing Childhood trauma is back after a break! In this episode, I’m talking about five emotional habits that might seem harmless—or even polite—but are actually signs you’re disconnected from your emotional needs. These patterns are common if you grew up in a home where your emotions weren’t welcomed or validated, and they often show up in the way…

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The Anxious - Avoidant Trap in Relationships [Ep 18] 28:01

4M ago28:01

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In this episode of healing childhood trauma, the anxious and avoidant attachment style dynamic is explored. It’s why the relationships that seem to make sense in the beginning, often end up in frustration and dissatisfaction. In this episode you’ll understand where anxious and avoidant attachment begins How these patterns show up in the early stage…

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What to do when you feel Emotionally Overwhelmed [Ep 17] 17:20

4M ago17:20

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Lizandra is a trauma informed psychotherapist who works with relational trauma in adults. Healing Childhood Trauma is a mental health podcast about healing from the past, breaking unhealthy patterns and becoming secure, so you can have the best relationships. This podcast is for you if you find yourself asking questions such as How do I heal from T…

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Arousal: The Dual Control Model 25:07

5M ago25:07

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In this encore episode, we share the Dual Control Model of Arousal, an essential piece of erotic knowledge to understand the complexity of turn-ons, turn-offs, and how to manage your own arousal. Explore more at PleasureMechanics.com/arousal Spotify Playlist of the Best of Speaking Of Sex Episodes Get ready to rethink everything you know about gett…

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The Father Wound in Daughters [Ep 16] 23:25

5M ago23:25

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In this episode we explore the root cause of an insecure attachment and father wounds in daughters. Attachment is often related to romantic relationships but the patterns of abandonment and rejection are often much deeper. As a therapist that works with childhood relational trauma, psychotherapist Lizandra offers insights from clinical practice and…

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Red Flags in Unhealthy Relationships and Dating [Ep 15] 19:55

5M ago19:55

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Join psychotherapist and relationship therapist Lizandra for this real talk episode that unpacks red flags in relationships and dating. Do you ignore the early warning signs in relationships? Ever wish you could have spotted the signs of a toxic relationship early on? In this episode you'll discover how we repeat relationship patterns we've learned…

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How to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14] 17:49

5M ago17:49

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In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how chil…

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7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother [Ep 13] 28:02

5M ago28:02

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What do you do when the most toxic person you know is your mother? It’s hard dealing with a narcissist. It's even harder when that person is your mother. In this episode we explore the dynamic of mother daughter relationships and the traits that narcissist mothers have with their daughters. Find out the seven signs of a narcissistic mother What thi…

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An Integrative Approach to Managing Anxiety and Regulating your Nervous System [Ep 12] 21:21

6M ago21:21

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Do you get anxiety about having anxiety? In this episode we explore the mind and body approach to working with the physical and mental signs of anxiety. Experienced psychotherapist Lizandra discusses an integrative approach from clinical practice that helps clients to recognise their signs of overwhelm and stress to feel calmer. This episode also i…

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Recognising the Signs of Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: Key Traits and Behaviours [Ep 11] 22:13

6M ago22:13

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This episode is all about understanding the dismissive avoidant attachment style. This attachment style is often misunderstood so in this episode we unpack: Where dismissive avoidant attachment comes from What to look out for when identifying avoidant attachment How this attachment style can negatively impact your relationships if you don’t address…

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Co-Regulation and Female Friendships in Healing Attachment Trauma [Ep10] 18:00

6M ago18:00

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We have often been conditioned to focus on romantic love when healing from anxious attachment or avoidant attachment. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, prioritising your friendships and your own identity is the key to developing your sense of self and having healthy reciprocal relationships. This episode explores how female friendships an…

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Therapist Tips on Having Hard Conversations and Dealing with Conflict [Ep 9] 22:04

7M ago22:04

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In any relationship it’s impossible to avoid hard conversations. Many people think of conflict as a negative thing that destroys relationships. When you change how you approach conflict and how to have difficult conversations with someone you love, you can build a stronger connection. These tips apply to any kind of relationship with someone you ca…

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What is better for Trauma: Therapy vs Coaching [Ep 8] 24:25

7M ago24:25

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In this episode, we dive deep into the role of therapy and coaching in healing from childhood trauma. Whether you're new to therapy or exploring coaching options, we’ll break down what to expect from your first session and the therapeutic process. You’ll discover how therapy differs from simply talking to a friend and why many people struggle with …

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How To Have A Threesome Bonus Edition 31:21

7M ago31:21

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Considering having a threesome? Tune in here first! On this episode we share what we’ve learned about how to have a threesome from our recent threesome experiences, and share a classic resource from the Pleasure Mechanics archive – click here to download our book How To Have A Threesome, for free! Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor: […]…

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Bed Chem 24:39

7M ago24:39

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What does it mean to have really good bed chem? Is sexual chemistry something that happens to us, or can we learn to be erotic alchemists? What happens when good bed chem fizzles out? Join us in this episode for a provocative and engaging conversation about Bed Chem – and how we can all get […]By Pleasure Mechanics

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Developing Secure Attachment when you've Experienced Childhood Trauma [Ep 7] 12:57

7M ago12:57

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Are you stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationship dynamics? This episode is all about secure attachment and what it takes to have healthier relationships when you’ve experienced childhood trauma. Secure attachment is how we form stronger relationship patterns with ourselves but there is also one other relationship that significantly gets overloo…

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12 Practical Tips to Survive Christmas with a Dysfunctional Family [Ep 6] 22:55

8M ago22:55

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In this episode we discuss dysfunctional family and how it can be challenging to return to your family of origin at Christmas time. Christmas can be a stressful time when you've experienced childhood trauma. We can't always change family dynamics, but we can find ways that we can prepare and preserve our emotional wellbeing and mental health. You'l…

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Full Body Oral 28:27

8M ago28:27

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Full Body Oral is an invitation to start exploring more oral play – on EVERY part of the body! Full Body Oral is a reminder that we can create so many different sensations with our mouths, adding depth of stimulation, unlocking emotions and intimacy, and adding new dynamics to the kinds of play you already […]…

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What Causes People Pleasing Behaviour [Ep 5] 18:50

8M ago18:50

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Are you someone who says yes and then regrets it and feels resentful later? Do you find it hard to identify and ask for what you need? Are you constantly overthinking about whether people like you or worry if you say the wrong thing? People pleasers gather here. In this episode you’ll learn: The one thing that all people pleasers need How to recogn…

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How to begin your healing journey [Ep 1] 13:44

8M ago13:44

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Welcome to the very first episode of Healing Childhood Trauma. This episode is an introduction to the podcast and host therapist Lizandra Leigertwood and how to start your own personal journey of healing. Whether you've had therapy before or your just curious about what your next steps should be to heal and process the past, you'll get practical in…

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4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2] 22:12

8M ago22:12

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In this episode Lizandra explains attachment and the four main attachment styles in relationships. Learn why your relationships have challenges and how it relates to your attachment style and patterns from childhood. There's also a tip on taking the attachment quiz that most people don't know to get more accurate results. If your relationships have…

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Boundaries in Relationships [Ep 3] 18:10

8M ago18:10

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S1 Ep 3 This episode is all about boundaries in relationships. In this episode we cover: Why is it so difficult to set boundaries? The real meaning of what boundaries are How setting boundaries can transform your relationships What happens when you don’t set boundaries And so much more If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, it’s likely that you di…

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How to Heal from Anxious Attachment [Ep 4] 19:56

8M ago19:56

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Attachment is the blueprint for how we have relationships based on our earlier experiences in childhood. This episode explains what an anxious attachment is and where it comes from. You’ll learn: How anxious attachment impacts your romantic relationships, friendships and how you feel about yourself. A 14 point checklist on signs of anxious attachme…

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Trailer 1:39

8M ago1:39

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Healing Childhood Trauma for Millenial Women is the podcast helping you to understand yourself better, heal from the past and start unlearning the behaviours that keep you stuck. If you've been in a cycle of people pleasing, high functioning anxiety and trying to figure out what your next steps are for healing, this is for you. Together we'll look …

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Rethinking Refractory Myths 25:42

10M ago25:42

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Let’s bust the myths around the refractory period that self-limit so many of our erotic experiences. Join us for this myth-busting episode where we cover the basics and beyond of the refractory period and all the myths about it that get in our way. Learn how: Ejaculation and Orgasm are NOT the same physiological event, […]…

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Lasting Longer In Bed 28:57

10M ago28:57

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Want to last longer in bed so you can keep the pleasure going longer? Want to satisfy your partner and offer the kind of endurance they crave? You are not alone! We get a ton of emails from people wanting to make sex last longer and experience more satisfying intercourse. This Best Of Episode is […]By Pleasure Mechanics

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Building Stamina 25:48

10M ago25:48

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Here’s how to last longer, go harder and enjoy MORE of the pleasures you enjoy. Stamina is as much about sustained focus and managing distractions as it is an athletic feat, and the skills of stamina can be built with practice! This episode offers practical strategies for building your stamina for life’s greatest pleasures, in […]…

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Responsive Giving 37:40

10M ago37:40

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How we offer and give our time, gifts and attention matter in all of our relationships. And when we cultivate the skillset of becoming responsive givers of erotic pleasure we are able to offer our lovers more specifically what they want and enjoy and can then offer more sexually satisfying experiences to our lovers. In this […]…

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Tough and Tender 23:16

11M ago23:16

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How do you like it – Tough, or Tender? For many of us, what we truly crave is an exquisite blend of Tough & Tender, Rough & Romantic, Intense & Intimate. Tough & Tender don’t have to be opposite ends of a spectrum or mutually exclusive – we can revel in the delicious combinations of […]By Pleasure Mechanics

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Getting Real About STIs with Dr. Ina Park 35:54

11M ago35:54

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Join us in conversation with Dr. Ina Park, author of Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs In this essential episode we cover how to talk about sexual safety without stigma, the real risks and rewards we navigate as sexually active adults, and how we can all create a healthier, […]…