Best Consensual Nonmonogamy Podcasts (2025)

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Why speaking up changes everything! 44:58

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2d ago44:58

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com When you finally find your voice in the lifestyle, everything changes. In this episode, Ed and Phoebe explore one of the most transformational shifts couples make in ethical non-monogamy: moving from "going along to keep the peace" to confidently advocating for w…

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Consent in the Swinger Lifestyle: Why It Always Matters 9:14

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Being in the lifestyle doesn't mean consent is automatic. In this important video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive deep into the vital role of consent within the swinging community—especially in environments like swinger clubs and parties. They address common misconceptions, share real experiences, and emphasize that clear communication, …

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10 Surprising Misconceptions About Nonmonogamy PT.1 12:04

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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi from openlove101.com as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy and the stigmas they face as a swinger couple. In this enlightening conversation, they address the funny and sometimes frustrating questions they receive from "vanilla" friends, from concerns about hitting on partners to fears o…

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Meet Our Girlfriend, Olivia 1:00:09

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What happens when a married, polyamorous couple goes on a first date with artificial intelligence? In this episode we introduce our new “girlfriend” — Olivia, an AI companion built through ChatGPT’s voice mode — and take her on a virtual first date.We talk attraction, jealousy, and boundaries as Olivia flirts, sets limits, and asks tough questions …

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Dirty Vanillas Are Ruining Swinging (Or Are They?) 35:22

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com There's a real debate happening in the lifestyle community: Are "dirty vanillas" (people showing up to swinger events but not actually swinging) ruining the experience? Or is the real problem something we've completely misunderstood? In this episode, Ed and Phoeb…

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Love & Swinging Lifestyle: Not Always Traditional 9:04

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Can emotional connections exist without threatening your primary relationship? In this thought-provoking video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com explore the emotional side of swinging—and how trust, communication, and an open mindset can make all the difference. They share personal experiences, debunk common fears, and discuss how societal norm…

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Lily Allen & Our P**sy Palace 1:05:18

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Lily Allen has dropped her new album West End Girl. This record is a brutally honest breakup album about her open marriage with actor David Harbour, and has put non-monogamy back into the cultural Zeitgeist. In this episode, we discuss * Is Lily Allen’s “p*^sy palace” anthem empowering or exploitative? * What are the ethics of writing about your ex…

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Fantasy Roleplay in Consensual Non-Monogamy Relationships 9:08

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In this playful and eye-opening episode, John and Jackie dive into the world of fantasy roleplay — a powerful tool for connection, communication, and confidence within relationships. Whether you're new to consensual non-monogamy or simply looking to spice up your intimacy, roleplay offers a safe, creative space to explore fantasies together. From c…

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Abbey Gets Envious, NRE Music & AI Doomsday 1:05:16

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This week, Abbey and Liam unpack the difference between jealousy and envy — and how those feelings show up even in the most secure relationships. What starts as a story about a paddle boarding invitation turns into an honest look at FOMO, friendship, and the desire to keep creating “firsts” together after more than a decade of marriage. Evolving Lo…

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Swingers Lifestyle & Consent - What Does It Really Means? 7:04

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Consent isn't one-size-fits-all. In this eye-opening discussion, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com unpack the many ways couples define and navigate consent—highlighting how mutual respect, trust, and open communication are the keys to maintaining freedom without slipping into control. They share their own experiences, caution against turning con…

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A Racoon Named Desire - Mickey & Mallory's Romantic Wildlife Expedition 1:19:46

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Welcome to another wild ride with Mallory and Mickey on the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this episode, "A Raccoon Named Desire," your favorite hosts take you on their first-ever trip to Desire Riviera Maya, sharing honest, hilarious, and insightful stories from their lifestyle vacation in Mexico. Episode Highlights: Desire Riviera Maya Review: Get th…

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You're Asking The WRONG Question About Sex Frequency (Here's What Actually Matters) 1:05:19

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com How often are you really supposed to be having sex? Spoiler alert: You've been asking the wrong question. Society pushes a "magic number" for sexual frequency that's causing more harm than good. The truth? There is no normal. We're diving deep into why the three-…

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When Fights Test Your Relationship: Handling Conflict in Consensual Non-Monogamy 12:57

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In this candid and compassionate episode, hosts John and Jackie explore how couples in consensual non-monogamous relationships can navigate major fights and moments of emotional turbulence. They answer a viewer's heartfelt question about whether a serious fight means the lifestyle "isn't right" for them — and reveal why the opposite is often true. …

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"Shame Dissolves In Safe Spaces" with Dabaco Sunset 53:36

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Dabaco Sunset is a queer-affirming psychotherapist and embodiment facilitator in Sydney, specializing in Gestalt Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Embodied Counselling to help LGBTQ+ individuals and clients with alternative relating styles like ethical non-monogamy. Dabaco practices In the inner-west in Sydney at Sunset Psychotherapy. In th…

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How to Create a Great Profile on Adult Social Sites 7:13

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How to Create a Great Profile on Adult Social Sites | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Looking to connect with like-minded people in the open or swinging lifestyle? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share their top tips for creating an honest, attractive, and successful profile on adult social sites like SDC, SLS, and Cassidy. They cov…

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The One Chemical Behind Chocolate, Swinging, and Addiction 1:03:55

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Why does a piece of chocolate trigger the same brain chemical as meeting someone new at a swinger party? This episode reveals the surprising neuroscience behind New Relationship Energy, dopamine addiction, and why the swinging lifestyle can feel impossible to wal…

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Breaking Stereotypes in Open Relationships 🌍 44:18

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Breaking stereotypes and redefining what relationships can be! 🌍 Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Let's explore it together 🙂! In this exciting and eye-opening discussion, we dive into the world of swinging, polyamory, and non-monogamous lifestyles. Ever thought about how trust, communication, and intimacy play a key role in build…

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Are Female Friendships A Threat To Marriage? 55:36

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“Why do you need a female friend if you’re married?” In this episode, Abbey and Liam unpack the space where friendship, attraction, romantic relationships and trust collide. From jealousy to risk-taking they explore whether cross-gender friendships are threats to marriage, what happens when you forbid them, and how non-monogamous couples navigate t…

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How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship 9:52

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How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Think swinging ruins relationships? Think again. In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share how embracing the swinger lifestyle has enhanced their communication, intimacy, and emotional connection. They dive into how exploring fantasies without guilt, talking…

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Does My Hobby Offend Your Lifestyle? 26:49

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Is swinging just a lighthearted hobby… or a defining lifestyle choice? In this episode of our swinger lifestyle podcast, we dive into the hobby vs lifestyle debate that’s sparking conversations across the swinger community and beyond. We explore why some couples …

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Husband vs. Wife - Open Marriage Debate 55:30

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In todays episode we play Devil’s Advocate. Can you argue a position you don’t truly believe in? Does switching sides test our own beliefs and sharpen our perspectives? We go head-to-head on: * Should happy couples risk opening their relationship? * Is non-monogamy a solution for struggling couples? * The infamous One Penis Policy — protection or p…

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The Truth About Cheating in Open Relationships 17:53

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In this eye-opening discussion, hosts John and Jackie Melfi tackle the intriguing question: "Do lifestyle couples cheat less than monogamous couples?" Drawing from their extensive experience in open relationships and as owners of Colette Swingers Clubs, they explore the nuances of infidelity, trust, and boundaries within consensual non-monogamy. Jo…

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Swinging as a Threesome 8:31

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Can swinging ever be truly "equal"? In this honest and insightful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the emotional dynamics of open relationships—especially around gender, jealousy, and fairness. Sparked by a viewer email, they dive into what happens when one partner is more actively exploring than the other, and how communication a…

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Will AI Kill Intimacy? w. Evolutionary Biologist Dr. Rob Brooks 1:23:46

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Abbey and Liam are joined by evolutionary biologist Dr. Rob Brooks to explore the rise of AI companions, sex robots, and whether love with machines can ever be “real.” They discuss jealousy over chatbots, the naturalist fallacy, and the deep question of whether humans are naturally monogamous or non-monogamous. Drawing from Rob’s book Artificial In…

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One Size Fits All? 1:32:25

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One Size Fits All? Navigating Lifestyle Events, House Parties, Clubs & Takeovers – with Wanderlust Swinger's own Cate! Description: Welcome to Season 6, Episode 5 of the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this candid and entertaining episode, hosts Mickey and Mallory are joined by the ever-popular Wanderlust Cate for a deep dive into the world of lifestyle…

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Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships 16:55

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In this insightful episode, hosts John and Jackie Melfi dive into the important distinction between boundaries and rules in relationships, especially within consensual non-monogamy. They share their personal experiences and wisdom from over 20 years in open relationships to help couples navigate these concepts effectively. The Melfis explore how bo…

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Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs? 6:24

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Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Curious about visiting a swinger club as a single woman—but feeling unsure? In this empowering video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the common fears and societal judgments that often hold women back from exploring their sexuality in safe, respectful envi…

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Fantasy vs. Reality - Secrets & Exhibitionism 57:14

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In this episode of Evolving Love 2.0, Abbey and Liam explore where they sit on the spectrum between swinging and polyamory. From loud neighbours and exhibitionist fantasies to navigating crushes, labels, and compersion, they dive into the playful, messy, and honest realities of non-monogamy after more than a decade together. They also share why “re…

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The Controversy of Reclaiming: Hot Ritual or Problematic Possession in Swinging 35:55

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Is "reclaiming" in the swinging lifestyle sexy ritual or possessive play? Ed and Phoebe unpack this controversial term, sharing their real experiences and perspectives from within the community. In this episode, we cover: The origins and controversy around the te…

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The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type 7:36

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Do Opposite Personalities Work in Non-Monogamy? | Open Love 101 Podcast Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the dynamics of opposite personalities in consensual non-monogamy and swinging relationships. In this candid discussion, the couple explores how their own introvert-extrovert dynamic plays out in their relationship and at their…

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Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle 6:45

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Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Is swinging just cheating in disguise? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com bust common myths about the swinging lifestyle—starting with one of the biggest misconceptions: that swinging equals infidelity. They explain how transparency, trust, and emotional conn…

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STI Myths Busted The Naked Truth About STI Testing & Safer Sex 42:06

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Get real answers to burning questions about STI safety in the swinging lifestyle. Ed and Phoebe break down common myths, honest risks, and practical tips for safer sex at parties, events, and orgies. Why standard STI tests and "full panels" don't cover everything…

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Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging 21:07

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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the often-overlooked non-sexual benefits of being in an open relationship. With over 20 years of combined experience and as owners of the Colette Swingers Clubs, the couple shares their personal insights on how consensual non-monogamy has transformed their relationship beyond the bedroom. In this e…

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Pickleball, Therapy & Sex Swings 58:32

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In today’s episode we bounce from pickleball courts to cold plunges, breathwork breakthroughs, and even DIY sex swings. We discuss our experiences with therapy, and Liam’s recent experience in a men’s breathwork circle. 🧵 Topics Covered 🎾 Pickleball Obsession: Why Liam has pivoted from bouldering to pickleball, and how it's becoming the new social …

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Adults Only - The AVS Legislation You Should Care About! 1:02:23

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Podcast Title: Casual Swinger Season 6 Episode 4 – Adults Only: The AVS Legislation You Should Care About SEO-Optimized Description: Join hosts Mallory and Mickey Gordon for a candid, entertaining, and insightful episode of the Casual Swinger Podcast! In this adults-only show, the duo dives deep into the controversial Age Verification Service (AVS)…

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How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship 7:25

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How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 In this candid conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about how embracing the swinger lifestyle has reshaped their views on sex, love, and connection. Jackie shares her personal journey from monogamy to empowerment through sexual exploration, wh…

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Breaking Stereotypes: Age, Body Type, and Preferences in the Swinger Community 57:52

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Curious about what diversity really means in the swinger lifestyle? In this episode, Ed and Phoebe break down the surprising variety you’ll find—and why it’s not what you might expect. The wide range of body types, ages, and preferences within swinger communities…

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When Affairs Go Public - Clinton to Coldplaygate 56:22

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In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny. Topics Covered * Coldplaygate: The viral moment that exposed Astrono…

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Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney 37:35

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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they welcome their marketing guru Courtney on camera for the first time to discuss common misconceptions about swingers clubs. With Courtney providing a monogamous perspective on the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights for both newcomers and those curious about what really happens at Colette Swingers…

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Letting Partners In: Overcoming Hyperindependence & Codependence in Polyamory 56:52

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This episode of Poly Pathways tackles the complex challenge of letting partners truly show up for you, especially when past relationship trauma has built walls of hyper-independence. Hosts Kat and Doc dive deep into how polyamory culture can sometimes reinforce the harmful idea that needing help equals weakness or codependency. They explore persona…

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Is Liam Controlling? You Decide. 57:17

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In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article. Evolving Love Links: Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat 🌿 Upcoming Event Women's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvinglove…

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How We Talk to Our Kids About Open Relationships 6:26

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How do you explain non-traditional relationships to your children? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about parenting while living an open lifestyle. With eight kids between them, they share how they've approached honest, age-appropriate conversations about love, trust, and relationship diversity—without overshar…

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Top Signs You Might Be With the Wrong Couple! 40:48

5M ago40:48

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com Ever wondered what red flags you should watch for in the swinging lifestyle? In this episode of Swinger University, Ed and Phoebe dive deep into real-life stories of dates gone wrong, rude behavior, mismatched expectations, and questionable consent. From couples …

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This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy 25:21

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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging. In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about ful…

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Hinge Diaries: Enjoying, Managing, and Flourishing When You're Dating Multiple Partners 1:11:42

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Ever wondered what it's like being the center point of multiple romantic relationships? In this eye-opening episode of Poly Pathways, hosts Kat and Doc dive deep into the world of "hinging" – that crucial role where you're romantically involved with two or more partners who aren't involved with each other. It sounds simple, but wow, is it complex! …

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Swingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at Jealousy 6:01

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Jealousy in Open Relationships: Fix It or Ignore It? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 What do jealousy and a broken refrigerator have in common? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com use a clever analogy to explore how people handle jealousy—whether they choose to fix it, ignore it, or live with it. Through personal stories an…

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Protect Your Children - Former Detective Senior Constable Kristi McVee 1:07:36

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Today we are having a difficult conversation on Evolving Love. A conversation that puts the safety of our children in the spotlight. To help us navigate this conversation, we have invited on child safety expert - Kristi McVee. Kristy was a Specialist Child Interviewer and Detective Senior Constable for 10 years in the Western Australian Police forc…

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5 Tips That Made Swinging Work For Us 25:18

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Send us a fun message...But if you want a response contact us at SwingerUniversity.com 00:00 - Start 01:01 - Tip 1: Pace It Out 03:31 - Tip 2: Fears and Expectations 06:17 - Tip 3: Get Uncomfortable 09:05 - Tip 4: Grow and Change 12:40 - Tip 5: Trust 21:34 - Lets talk about cheating... 22:47 - Wrap Up! Support the show Want More? 👀 Watch on YouTube…

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"Ask Me How It Works" with Deepa Paul 54:40

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Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time. This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by Deepa This conversation is raw and wide ranging and we were so str…

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The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist 40:43

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Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog openlove101.com, as they dive deep into relationship psychology with licensed professional counselor Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune. This enlightening conversation explores various relationship models, from traditional monogamy to swinging and polyamory. Dr…