In this candid and compassionate episode, hosts John and Jackie explore how couples in consensual non-monogamous relationships can navigate major fights and moments of emotional turbulence. They answer a viewer’s heartfelt question about whether a serious fight means the lifestyle “isn’t right” for them — and reveal why the opposite is often true.

Drawing from over two decades of experience, John and Jackie explain that conflict is a normal part of any relationship, not just open ones. They share how fear, unfamiliarity, and emotional overwhelm can spark arguments — and how learning to communicate calmly and empathetically can turn those same moments into opportunities for growth and deeper connection.

They also discuss how to “baby step” through difficult moments by adjusting boundaries and pacing, creating space for healing and rebuilding trust. This episode reminds viewers that consensual non-monogamy isn’t simply about sexual exploration — it’s about cultivating safety, self-worth, and authentic partnership through honesty and emotional awareness.

🔑 Key Insights:

Fights happen in all relationships — they don’t mean you’re failing in non-monogamy

Fear often underlies conflict; naming it builds empathy

Approach fights as a team instead of adversaries

Emotional reactions can differ from intellectual acceptance

Baby-stepping through boundaries rebuilds safety and trust

Keep discussions focused to prevent escalation

Conflict can be a catalyst for growth and deeper intimacy

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast

00:32 – Overcoming fights in consensual non-monogamous relationships

01:36 – Fear as a common root of conflict

03:19 – Approaching disagreements as a team

05:45 – When emotions clash with logic

07:31 – Rebuilding trust with baby steps

08:55 – Keeping conversations concise and constructive

10:36 – Growth and self-esteem through consensual non-monogamy