Firstly, thank you so much for the warm reception, support and encouragement for this new podcast chapter and business adventure. I appreciate all the feedback and reviews so much! In today's episode I am offering five ways to connect in grief, organised in an introvert-friendly way by amount of social energy required. Here is the link to send me a…

When self love feels out of reach, you have a wonderful opportunity. These two words are like magical french doors opening just when you think you have nowhere left to grow. Get your new favourite breakup book here: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact/ The post Love Yourself Any Amount appea…

This episode is a reflection on how grief moves through the body with a guided meditation practice at the end. All you need is a quiet space to sit or lie down. Enjoy! More episodes are over here: https://glimmerportal.com/ and you can send me a question over here: speakpipe.com/yarrowm Thank you for listening! Love, Yarrow…

I'm so happy to share my first interview in this new podcast chapter with you! I spoke to the wonderful Lynn of Full Circle of Love, who has also been touched by grief and shared lots of her insights & magic. Here is some of what we talked about: Navigating the depth of grief & letting it change us Building community in which we can fully be oursel…

Today is the new moon in Taurus, international grieving in public day and time to launch a new chapter on the podcast. This space is called Grief Glimmers now and I have a whole new website over at GlimmerPortal.com that you can check out. In this episode I am re-introducing myself, telling you more about how this project came to be and what to exp…

I am finally back with an interview for you! This was a real balm to my sore heart - lots of textile explorations, community arts magic and just true delight with Cordy of Transmissions Quilts. Tune in for encouragement, giggles and a gentle restoration of faith in humanity. Cordy says - I am a white trans quilter living in the East Bay. Alongside …

Why you might be breaking up right now, and how you can use language to soften the blow. Also – how do you flirt with self love from across the room? Get your new favourite breakup book here: www,crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact/ The post January Breakups and the Spark of Self Love appeared f…

Welcome back, I'm still here and still grieving, thank you for joining me in this weird and wonderful process. For this episode I had a beautiful listener question about finding balance and seeking simplicity when you're also kind of a maximalist in some areas of your life. You can send me a question over here: https://www.speakpipe.com/YarrowM And…

I received a really good question about how creativity can heal or harm from a listener and am answering the best I can! I talk about how being creative makes me feel, key creative experiences and also ways in which structural problems show up in creative practice. I would love to hear from you if you have a question for me too: https://www.speakpi…

If you’re looking for a phrase for 2025, this might be it. In this episode, Danette explores why people still seem to want to get married, what running from an imaginary bee can teach us about commitment, and invites you to consider what might be possible if you stopped casually dating yourself. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Dan…

In this episode I am talking about craving even more simplicity in my life, decluttering really hard and planning for a low buy year. I pulled everything out of my wardrobe again, sold a whole bunch and made a few well considered purchases. I feel peaceful in my commitment to buy very little next year and really hopeful to grow as a maker and learn…

Ever wonder what this Birthday Letter Ritual is all about? In this episode, Danette opens her Birthday Letter in real time and reflects on the richness in this wonderful self-love ritual that YOU can begin, today. The post Birthday Letter Un-Enveloping appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.By Danette Relic

In this episode I am catching up with you, fellow grievers or curious podcast listeners, about entering a new phase of grief, preparing for the holidays and imagining a new kind of future. I hope that it makes you feel gotten, even if not everyone gets it. You're welcome to join our Spark sessions here: https://yarrow.substack.com/ Love, Yarrow…

When you’re not a total mess, but also not quite okay, it can be unsettling to find ourselves swimming in uncertainty when our broken heart begins to heal. It doesn’t mean you’re not doing it right. There is no correct “speed” for moving forward. Listen if you’ve been healing from a loss and moving forward doesn’t feel as grounding as you thought i…

Twinkle lights, gingerbread and…dread? The holiday season can be complicated for those of us who are approaching the first Christmas without a loved one – by death or by breakup. When we share our lives so closely with someone, it can be startling to imagine special days of the year without them. How do you love yourself through these times where g…

I'm so happy to bring you a new interview episode in amongst all these recent solo grief journals. My wonderful guest is Danette Relic, who was also on episodes 116 and 48 (back in 2018, the before times!). Danette is sadly a fellow griever who also lost a parent this year, so in this episode we're chatting about keeping our magic safe, what we lea…

Thank you so much to Becky for asking about my quilting & making practice! In this grief journal episode I am talking you through what I love about making small improv quilts, what my practice looks like, how it helps with grief and what I am sewing next. I'd love it if you want to send me a question too: https://www.speakpipe.com/YarrowM Thanks fo…

In this grief journal episode I am talking about yesterday's birthday, dealing with big and small anniversaries as well as my current daydreams. You're also welcome to send me questions via Speakpipe here: https://www.speakpipe.com/YarrowM Love, Yarrow

Today I am talking about the value and magic of anger, about how I am trying to be intentional with where I am directing it and about how I am trying to get comfortable with this feeling. Feel free to send me questions here: https://www.speakpipe.com/YarrowM Sending blessings and love to your day, Yarrow…

Hello my fellow grievers and soft folks, here is another chapter for you - this one is about building your whole life around your nervous system and what that looks like for me at the moment. Also, feel free to send me a little voice note if you want to say hi and/or wish to request a topic for the podcast: https://www.speakpipe.com/YarrowM Love, Y…

Do you ever have a personal epiphany more than once? It might be tempting to feel like you failed to hear it the first time. But what if it was by design? What if there are some “aha!” moments that require time to release, like a vitamin? Listen to this episode if you are judging yourself for not yet making the changes you know you need to make. Ge…

Welcome to a new format on here - little weekly check ins about grief, process and slow seasons. I promise it wont all be sad, it will also be weird, expansive and sometimes wonderful. I know a lot of people who lost really significant loved ones this year and I know that we all need to feel less alone in that strange adventure. I hope these episod…

After an unplanned pause, Danette returns to the Soft Shoulder with reflections on what it means to tend to your grief in a self loving way, the importance of language in this process and the tenderness of loss. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: http://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post Grief Tending appeared…

In this episode I am chatting about a few simple ways in which I am staying connected with creativity while my brain is adjusting to the loss of my mum. In short, it's about lowering the bar, being realistic and appreciating a wider net of expression. I hope it feels helpful! Love, Yarrow

This episode is dedicated to my mum Marina, who passed away suddenly at the end of July. She was incredible - resilient, creative, full of life and hands down the most loving person I know. She taught me how to live a good life full of pleasure and connection even in late stage capitalism. I had 38 years with her and am so proud to call her my mum.…

The world is a lot, but then what's new? In this episode I wanted to share a few ways in which I am staying grounded this summer, including excellent book selection, gentle rituals and activism that is doable and kind on my nervous system. I hope it's a helpful space for you to think about your own summer and orient towards the pleasure & joy that …

Patient and appreciated listeners, I am bring you another wonderful conversation with Lara Irene Vesta. I hope this find you well, with a bit of sunshine on your face and a quiet moment to dive in. Here is some of what we talked about: Writing beautiful books from bed Growing wild gardens that tend to themselves Rites of passage and spiritual sinkh…

This episode is such a heartfelt deep dive into grief, creativity & enchantment with the wonderful Narinder Bazen. Here is some of what we talked about: The space that death awareness inhabits in our lives Making simplicity & minimalism our own Thresholds & finding a place in the world Meaning making and ritual through hard times Narinder Bazen is …

I've been such a fan of Christi's work and especially her book Mystical Stitches for ages and so it's a real joy to bring this beautiful interview to you! Here is what we talked about: Finding one's own voice with shapes, colours and composition Rituals and creative process Writing books and sharing skills The beauty, magic and resilience of textil…

In this episode I am sharing five sweet & simple things I'll be doing to make the month ahead more beautiful. Think home spa, love letters, self-commitment and flowers. I hope you'll feel inspired! You can join my monthly Spark Sessions for extra ritual support via my Substack here: https://yarrow.substack.com/ and here is more info about the upcom…

No music? No problem! Danette embraces imperfection by recording this personal message for you while cooking pasta in her kitchen. If you are in a fog and having a hard time finding your way out, listen in. May this episode be a tiny flashlight helping you move closer to your own light. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get on the waitlist for The A…

Hey Hey Paula! You’re an awesome human deserving of love, romance and respect no matter what. This podcast is to help you reflect on what you want from relationships, while kindly inquiring where you got that desire from in the first place. What changes when you make yourself your primary partner? Are you a rebel when it comes to love? Get the book…

After over 20 years of self marriage, Danette can tell you how deciding to be in a conscious, committed relationship with herself helped her move through breakups and become more of herself in the process. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the…

This episode is a dream come true for my nerdy heart - I had a chance to talk to Dr. Isabella Rosner, whose podcast Sew What? I've been a fan of for years. We talked about how she got into textile histories, her PhD research and work at the Royal School of Needlework, about what textiles can teach us about what it means to be human and making time …

Whether you like it or not, you’re already in a lifelong relationship with yourself. Literally, till death do you part. If you look at your relationship with yourself as a marriage, how would you say it is going? This episode is a guided reflection on what your #couplegoals could be for yourself. Yours is a marriage that can be saved – it can even …

At least, not as complicated as we might be making it seem. At least, just as complicated as loving anyone at all. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact …

This episode is my first interview with a guest in about eight months and I could not feel more excited & honoured to speak to Chaney Williams. There was so much in this conversation that was a balm to my soul - we talked about life-changing moments and accidents, listening to the whispers of your ancestors and our bodies, quiet spaces to create an…

In celebration of Danette’s new book Crash Bloom: a creative guide for growing through your breakup (just in time for Valentine’s Day) this episode offers a reminder that sometimes we all need a little cocoon time in our lives. Not just when healing from a breakup. If you need a little hope that your wings are coming soon and they just might be glo…

In this episode I'm sharing more about an oral history project I'll be running this year - I want to find out how people with disabilities, like myself, used needlework to explore a sense of place and heritage during lockdown. I'm excited to explore topics like resilience in isolation, material and making vs consumption, connection with family stor…

Happy new year! In this episode I'm talking about how I am centring mental health & wellbeing in my creative practice this year - removing barriers, creating space for accessible participation & dreams, finding the sweet spot of gentle accountability and indulging wildly in flow states! More info about my web design work is here: https://pinkwellst…

Finally ready to face that decluttering project that has been looming in your subconscious? Feeling the new-year-new-energy feels and have the urge to make some changes in your living space? BUT – you aren’t sure where to start and you don’t have time to read the (maybe?) hundreds of books Danette has read on this topic? This is your episode for ke…

Perhaps an odd day to publish a new episode, but I thought this might be nice to share today for anyone who also feels a little overwhelmed with the festivities at a time of so much uncertainty and upheaval. Finding and exploring one's creative voice is something I have been thinking about a lot this year - I explored stripping back the media overw…

It’s been a minute! Danette emerges from her unexpected and unannounced break to share where she’s at and let things get a little weird. This is the last episode of 2023 – may you remember how loved you are as you bring this year to a close. Thank you so much for listening and allowing the Soft Shoulder Podcast to be a part of your listening life. …

If you're like me, having gentle accountability to slow down & be creative makes it much more likely for you to do things that bring you joy. Maybe you too feel that you need it more than ever. After a bit of a break I am bringing my Patreon back, because I miss our creative time together and also because I am excited to share my research on radica…

In this episode I am talking about what slowness means to me in my practice right now and how I've learned to still appreciate the process when chronic illness and disabilities slow me down. I'm taking a longer view on things, thinking about how slowness makes space for observations and stories to be woven into my work and how stitching and carving…

In this episode I am talking about taking a specific question into the darker time of the year, thinking about what spiritual practices I want to commit to this season, trying something new & gathering tools that are meaningful to me. You can join my Substack here if you like: https://yarrow.substack.com/ Love, Yarrow…

In the second instalment of my Getting Ready for Winter series I am sharing things that have helped me pay more attention to what I love - making, cooking, wandering and having conversations. As the days grow shorter many of us feel we want more of those things, but it can be so so hard to make time. If you feel the same I hope this episode will of…

Hey friends, I'm so excited to be back here with a little series on getting ready for winter, seasonal rituals & living a soft & creative life. In this first episode you'll hear more about how I inhabit my home and make it a place of easy, playful and accessible creative expression. You can join my Substack & the Spark sessions I mentioned over her…

Feel like you don’t remember who you are? How long has it been since you’ve really touched base with that most loving and wise part of you? Just like a marriage that has gone stale, your relationship with yourself can sometimes seem to fade without you realizing it. Even if you’ve been married to yourself for 22 years! Join Danette for a 5-day expe…

All that wonderful advanced reading you’ve been doing about dating and relationships and compatibility…could it be working against you? Sometimes all that personal growth wisdom can suck us into scrutiny as we try to “not waste our time”. But do you even like this person? Listen in as Danette helps you zoom way out and get an optimistic perspective…