Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and expert at turning Fear into Freedom. Helping people all over the world face their fears, get unstuck from the past, move past their limiting beliefs, and start living the lives they desire. This show is for anyone who wants to learn more about practical psychology, achieving personal freedom, self-improvement, meditation, mindfulness practices, harnessing the power of intention, and real-life strategies for personal transfor ...
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711 Upending Silence, Stigma, and Shame with Dr. Jessica Zucker
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38:43I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement, on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives. We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going int…
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710 The Power of Ritual and Celebration With Amber Salisbury
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44:15I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand! Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee. She…
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709 How Manipulators + Narcissists Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Control You
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22:31How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you’ve never heard of FOG, you’re in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I’m breaking dow…
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708 Curb Your People Pleasing with Amy Wilson
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35:20I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too. We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern pro…
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707 What Are You Tolerating? How to Identify What’s Draining You
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20:17Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you’re tolerating in life? Whether it’s a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you’re putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.…
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Today I’m so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choi…
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705 Reignite Your Curiosity For A More Satisfying Life - Here's How!
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23:14How curious are you? Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often? Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it? It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who en…
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I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving. Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand. We talk about upper limit problems (self-sa…
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703 The Difference Between Being A Victim + Having a Victim Mentality
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24:21Do you get offended if a date doesn’t immediately get back to you? How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don’t? When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you? Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally? In this…
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I am so excited to have my pal, award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, Tamsen Fadal, back on the show to celebrate her new book How To Menopause, which I had the honor of contributing to! It has been amazing to watch Tamsen step into being a midlife mentor. She is truly leading the menopause movement we desperately need and I am here for …
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701 Managing Fear of Loss with Breeshia Wade
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38:11I am so excited to have Breeshia Wade, author of Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow, on the show to talk about fear of future loss and Elemental Grief™. She explains some ideas from the book: The way that fear of future loss has shaped society, and the responsibility that majority groups have to attend to their own fe…
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700 Little Treats: A Science-Backed Motivational Boost When You're Tired of the Grind
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22:48Does it often feel like life is a grind of checking off endless to-do lists, where you barely have a moment for yourself? The emphasis on hustle culture in society has conditioned many of us to believe that rest and reward must be earned through hard work. It’s no wonder "little treat culture," a trend on social media that encourages us to use smal…
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699 Manifest Your Dream Life with Sabrina Soto
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37:34I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes 🙌) This is an inspiring and feel-good episode you don't want to miss. You’re a fly on the wall for this girlfriend jam– We share …
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698 5 Steps to Having End-of-Life Conversations With Loved Ones
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24:02Have you ever lost someone close to you? Or do you worry about the people you love dying? Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying. Whether you’re actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sha…
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697 Love, Life, and the Power of Meditation with Yung Pueblo
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33:14On today’s episode, I’ve invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than…
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696 What I Learned About Erotic Intelligence From Esther Perel
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24:45Have you heard the term erotic intelligence before? If you haven’t, does it sound like it’s all about sex? Before attending a transformative retreat with Esther Perel and Paul Browde, that’s kind of what I thought. Talk about confronting! I had agreed to attend with a friend after her husband dropped out, without knowing the details, because it was…
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695 Manage Your Energy (Not Time) with Heather Chauvin
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41:04Becoming a mother at 18 turned Heather from a self-described under-achiever into a high-functioning codependent. Receiving a stage 4 cancer diagnosis at 28 was the wake-up call that reminded her to live for herself. Heather shares her story, tells how she learned the role of internal resistance in positive change, and gives you tips that will help …
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694 Protect Your Peace: 7 Techniques to Soothe Your Nervous System in 2025
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25:08How are you actually doing in this turbulent world we're living in right now? If you're feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or ungrounded, you're not alone. The constant barrage of negative news, social media alerts, and global uncertainty can take a serious toll on our mental and emotional well-being. The good news? You are more resilient than you think…
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693 Better Mental Health with Karena Dawn
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29:35Today I’m sharing a chat with Karena Dawn, a second-time guest on the show! Since we spoke last, she’s been hard at work writing as well as continuing to develop a platform around wellness and mental health awareness. We chat about her new memoir The Big Silence, in which she shares the story of how she and her family coped with her mother’s schizo…
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692 Navigating Codependent Relationships When You're in Recovery + They're Not
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23:57Are you in a relationship with a high-functioning codependent (HFC)? Are both you and your partner HFCs? In my experience, HFCs tend to flock together. Many of my friends identify as HFCs, and my husband is also an HFC. Some of you have asked how to navigate relationships with fellow HFCs, especially as you get into recovery and become more aware o…
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691 Tap into Optimism to Create a Better Life with Meaghan B Murphy
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35:07Today’s guest has brought optimism and mindfulness to the interior design and DIY space like nobody else I know! I chat with Meaghan about how she got into decorating, writing, and editing– and how she maintains the pragmatic, positive mindset that helps her navigate her success. Plus: How parenting can offer special challenges and lessons for high…
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690 Is Flaking the New Self-Care...or Selfish? A Therapist's Take
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25:42Is flaking - canceling at the last second - the new self-care? It seems to be on the rise and according to an article in The Guardian, the answer for some people is yes. I disagree. Flaking is avoidable with healthy boundaries and self-knowledge, and there are many self-care practices we can do that don’t involve regularly canceling on others. In t…
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689 Building Your 'Unicorn Team' with Jen Kem
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35:13Jen Kem has spent her career marketing for some of the biggest corporate and personal brands–and today, she’s sharing some tips to help you launch your next big idea! We chat about how Jen’s leadership types model can help you construct the team that will help you reach your goals, how structure can help you let go of team members when they no long…
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688 From Burnout to Balance: How to Redefine Success + Feel Fulfilled
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22:53Are you considered “successful” by societal standards, but can’t enjoy your success because you’re busy moving on to whatever’s next? Or do you constantly feel behind, like you could be doing more? Have you checked all the ‘big’ boxes in life (degree, career, love, stuff), but still feel unfulfilled or uninspired by what you’ve achieved? If you ans…
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687 Healing Your Relationships with Dr. Thema Bryant
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32:56I first found Dr. Bryant on Instagram, where her approachable wisdom about partnerships reeled me in. Today, I’m sharing it with all of you! This conversation is a real talk about why we sometimes seek relationships where people need us instead of want us and overcoming the urge to control everything instead of co-creating with a partner. Plus, we …
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686 The Best Way to Celebrate Valentine's Day (Single or Partnered!)
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24:51How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? Do you often find yourself disappointed? Does it make you feel alone and down? Does your partner forget about it, even though you ask to make plans? Do they give you gifts that feel hollow? Whether you’re single or partnered, I invite you to put a self-consideration spin on Valentine’s Day with my favorite thr…
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685 Lessons from the Mystic Jesus with Marianne Williamson
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37:25Some say you should never talk about politics, religion, or money in polite company – But today’s guest doesn’t agree! On today’s episode, Marianne Williamson contextualizes Christianity and Christ to offer insight into modern challenges: Personal hardships, disconnection from others, and even the growing polarization of the political climate. She …
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684 Stop Letting Fear of Rejection Drive Your Life With These Simple Steps
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21:32Is setting boundaries intimidating because you worry that people will get mad or abandon you if you do? Do you avoid telling the truth or setting limits out of fear? Or do you people-please to keep the peace and avoid rejection? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about how fear of rejection is the common root o…
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683 Attracting Real Love into Your Life with Christine Hassler
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31:57Today I have the pleasure of sharing a chat with my long-time friend and repeat guest Christine Hassler. She shares the incredible story of how she pursued a healthy, mature partnership– And how you can also call that love into your life if you want to be partnered and you’re not. We also chat about ways to self-regulate and soothe your immune syst…
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682: Less Assuming, More Speaking Up - For People-Pleasers, Codependents + Empaths
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21:00Do you reluctantly agree to things you’d rather not do because you don’t know how to say no? When you’re annoyed about something, do you say everything is FINE rather than saying what’s bothering you? Do you also tend to judge someone if they don’t pick up on how you really feel? In these situations, there’s an expectation that people will intuit o…
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681 Lasting Love Tips with Jillian Turecki
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37:12Today I’m chatting with Jillian Turecki about her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life. She shares how acceptance and shared vision for the future can help you create a lasting love, how to tell if your partner isn’t right for you, and some hard truths that will help you get unstuck in love and life.…
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680 10 Boundary Practices to Go From Self-Abandoning to Empowered
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22:34Are you overly invested in the feeling states, situations, careers, circumstances, and relationships of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own internal peace? So invested, that setting and maintaining boundaries feels selfish or impossible? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you. I’m looking at the Boundary Boss Bill of…
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679 Break Up On Purpose with The Angry Therapist, John Kim
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36:53Today John and I are doing something new for the show– We’re both interviewing each other for our own podcasts, at the same time! We jam on how breakups create the perfect conditions for reflection, how high-functioning codependency interferes with healthy relationships, and the ultimate purpose of love. Plus, I share some details about how I turne…
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678 Stop Over-Functioning + Create Balance in Your Relationships
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22:07Are you tired of being the one doing all the things for all the people? Are you the point person for everything in your family life? Does it feel like you’re the only one who can reliably get things done? Then this episode is for you because I am talking about a common relational dynamic I see in high-functioning codependents (HFCs): how one person…
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677 How to Feel Lighter with Katie Bramlett
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32:46Today, I’m sharing a chat with Katie Bramlett about her perfectionism, self-acceptance, and rejecting messages from society that harm our mental wellness. She tells us how questioning the toxic nature of the fitness industry led her to co-found WeShape, a fitness app focused on emotional safety and self-acceptance. Plus, how listening to and reconn…
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676 Always Late or Early? Why How You Relate to Time Matters in Relationships
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22:38How do you relate to time? Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others? If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become di…
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675 How to Live a Kick-Ass Life with Andrea Owen
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32:59On today’s episode, I’m chatting with Andrea Owen to explore the journey of self-discovery, the nuances of personal growth, and the vital role of vulnerability in relationships. Andrea shares how the re-release of her book, 52 Ways to Life a Kick-Ass Life, addresses personal growth, toxic positivity, and the role of shame in our unwanted behavior p…
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674 How Childhood Neglect Shapes Your Relationships + Identity in Adulthood
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22:07Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine wh…
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673 The Autoimmune Cure with Dr. Sara Gottfried
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41:44On today’s episode, I’m so stoked to talk to Dr. Sara Gottfried, a medical doctor and hormone expert whose work I really connect with. We talk about one of my favorite subjects: The gender gap in healthcare and how we can help women navigate big hormonal changes like menopause. She also shares a more holistic and effective perspective on treatment …
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672 Helpful or Codependent? The Patterns in Your Relationships to Watch For
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24:37Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life. In this episode I will guide you through the sign…
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Today, I’m sharing a chat with my new-old friend Britt Frank– We met so recently, but it feels like we’ve known each other forever! We talk about getting unstuck, the importance of mind-body connection in personal growth, and how anxiety can act as a map for navigating stuckness. Plus, Britt shares some tips and tools for overcoming fear and doubt …
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670 Are You Self-Soothing or Self-Numbing? (How to Tell + Why It's Important!)
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22:44When you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news, what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing. In t…
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668 Feeling Anxious? Small Changes That Can Make a Big Impact
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20:09How much anxiety and fear are you walking around with on a daily basis? If you struggle with worry, fear, or anxiety consistently thrumming in the backdrop of your mind, it is worth it for you to take a look at where the roots of these thought patterns lie. In this episode, you’ll learn simple shifts you can make to better manage anxiety so you can…
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669 More Prosperity + Ease with Cathy Heller
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37:05I am thrilled to welcome my pal, author, podcaster, and teacher, Cathy Heller, to the show to talk about her new book, Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease, because who doesn't want that?! We talk about creating what you want and the resistance we feel toward that, abundance, being afraid and putting things out in t…
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667 Sex, Lies and Mental Health with Cheryl Burke
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46:14I am so excited to have my new pal, Cheryl Burke, on the show to talk all about why she's passionate about mental health and what got her here. You might be familiar with Cheryl if you're a Dancing With the Stars fan, as she appeared on 26 seasons of the show and retired two years ago. In this conversation, she shares beautifully and candidly about…
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666 4 Simple Gratitude Practices to Find Joy Even When Life Feels Heavy
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20:23Do you find yourself doomscrolling more than ever? Does the news of what’s happening in the world negatively impact your mental state? Do you focus more on what’s wrong, making you feel like nothing is right? Whether you’re looking at the whole world or your corner of it, if the answer is yes, this episode is for you. I’m talking all about the tran…
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665 How to Beat Toxic Productivity with Israa Nasir
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35:41I am so excited to welcome psychotherapist and author Israa Nasir to the show to talk about her new book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More. If you're a high-functioning codependent, tune in, because I think we tend to struggle with this! Israa shares practical strategies we can use to st…
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664 Problematic Friendships? Why We Stay + What to Change
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22:05Do your friendships feel unbalanced? Are certain friendships draining? Do your friends disrespect or trample on your boundaries? Or do your friends bring you down rather than lift you up? If the answer is yes, this episode is for you because it’s all about assessing friendships: why we stay in unhealthy dynamics, what unhealthy friendships look lik…
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663 Buy What You Want Without Going Broke with Jill Sirianni
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35:00Have financial boundaries been hard for you? Do you tend to spend more than you make? Does "budgeting" sound unappealing? Then you're in the right place, because I am talking with Jill Sirianni, co-author of Buy What You Love Without Going Broke: Transform Your Spending and Get More of What Money Can’t Buy and co-host of the @FrugalFriends podcast.…
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662 Overcome Imposter Syndrome With These Confidence-Boosting Strategies
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20:34When something good happens for you, do you ever think, “Wow, I hope I don't get found out!” or, “I don’t deserve this”? Do you start doubting yourself? Do you think it must have been a mistake? If you’re nodding your head, this episode is for you because I’m talking about imposter syndrome, how to navigate it, and how to boost your confidence. Imp…
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