Best Expectation V Reality Podcasts (2025)

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Retaliation in Child Custody Court 26:42

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Retaliation in Child Custody Court - Episode 339 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When Narcissists win in Court, they often become emboldened and when they lose, they want a rematch. Often, that means retaliation against you that results in constant court hearings and chaos. Does the Court even care about retaliatory motives? Listen now to…

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Were You the One Doing Everything 24:54

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In Episode 338 "Were You the One Doing Everything?" we will discuss how I often hear clients say they “did everything” in their relationship. What you may not realize is that doing everything is a trauma response. People who “do everything” also frequently over-commit , struggle to delegate, mistrust others, are perfectionists, and are reluctant to…

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What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court) 31:58

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What You Say V. How You Say It (In Court) – Episode 337 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most people get very focused on the “what” part of the information they want the court to know. Much of my work as a coach is teaching people “how” to say the things they need to in a way that will resonate with the court. I’m going to give you 5 examp…

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Trauma Bond with a Narcissist 30:27

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Trauma Bond with a Narcissist – Episode 336 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Trauma bonds are created through a biochemical reaction in your body similar to addiction. So, it’s no wonder we have trouble breaking free, long after the relationship has ended. We often continue on the emotional rollercoaster that is a relationship with a narci…

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5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist 27:34

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5 Common Legal Traps with a Narcissist – Episode 335 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I’ll discuss five of the most common traps we see narcissists use to try to gain the upper hand in Court. Understanding how the narcissists weaponize these traps and what steps you can take to prevent them is crucial to your success again…

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Exposing the Narcissist’s Abuse 27:40

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Exposing the Narcissist’s Abuse – Episode 334 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Parents are often concerned about being able to expose narcissistic abuse from the other parent. In this episode, I’ll share tips to help you gather the information you need to help you expose the behaviors. I’ll also talk about how to present the information in…

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Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships 26:48

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Self Love is Key to Ending Toxic Relationships– Episode 333 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The toxic patterns of a narcissist-codependent relationship don’t magically end just because the relationship ends, especially if we have to co-parent with the narcissist. The same unhealthy dynamics continue t until we do the internal work that is…

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Presenting Your Child Custody Case 27:55

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Presenting Your Child Custody Case – Episode 332 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Whether presenting your case to the court or another expert, one of the big mistakes people make is they talk about their case using words that are open to interpretation or by using feeling words such as angry, upset, etc. There is a very simple technique yo…

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Introducing: Levittown 3:10

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When dozens of young women discover manipulated photos of themselves have been posted on a porn site, they fight back – joining up with a global band of investigators and hackers to battle the AI-fueled rise of deepfakes. Listen to episodes starting March 21. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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Coercive Control by Narcissists 27:05

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Coercive Control by Narcissists – Episode 331 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim. Several states have recognized coercive control as a form of domestic violence. Narcissists u…

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Narcissists Want a Rematch 26:15

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Narcissists Want a Rematch – Episode 330 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. So, you finally made it through your court process and have your orders. Now, you’ll have some peace, right? If you’re dealing with a narcissistic or high-conflict person, that’s not the likely scenario. They frequently want to appeal or want a rematch at the next po…

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Court-Ordered Custody Mediation Against a Narcissist 27:50

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Court-Ordered Custody Mediation Against a Narcissist – Episode 329 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Mediation is required in most states prior to going to court on custody issues. But, mediation can look very different depending on where you are located. In this episode, I’ll break down the different types of mediation to help you know wha…

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Narcissists Jumble Your Brain 28:31

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Narcissists Jumble Your Brain – Episode 328 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Being clear headed to make good decisions is critical in child custody cases, especially in the early stages. Ironically, this is when most people experience the most brain fog and emotional disruption due to the breakdown of the relationship. In this episode, I’l…

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When Life Gives You Lemons 27:45

5M ago27:45

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When Life Gives You Lemons – Episode 327 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We all know the phrase When Life Gives You Lemons……….Make Lemonade. But when you lose your primary relationship, are away from your kids, are financially destroyed, or just stuck in a pit of grief it can feel nearly impossible to pull yourself out of that hole. In th…

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Parenting Plan Blueprint 35:06

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Parenting Plan Blueprint – Episode 326 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. If you have a narcissistic or high-conflict co-parent then the components of your parenting plan and the level of detail becomes critical. In this episode, I’ll break down the major components of a parenting plan and share some of the details that are most commonly add…

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Navigating a Broken Court System 28:11

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Navigating a Broken Court System – Episode 325 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many parents feel like our Court system is broken. The system is definitely overloaded and is run by humans, so it doesn’t always get things right. In this episode, I’ll talk about the weaknesses in the system, why they exist, and how best to navigate them. To …

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5 Types of Court Hearings in Child Custody 27:07

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5 Types of Court Hearings in Child Custody – Episode 324 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I’ll talk about some of the common court hearings we see in child custody cases. Different hearings have different agendas, sometimes there is live testimony, sometimes not and sometimes it’s just to “check in” with the court about va…

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5 Strategies to Stay Centered with a Narcissist 28:03

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5 Strategies to Stay Centered with a Narcissist – Episode 323 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. A narcissist will do all they can to keep you “off center” emotionally. It makes you easier to manipulate. One of the first steps in regaining your power after this kind of toxic relationship is to learn to keep your emotional center no matter wh…

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5 Red Flags of a Narcissistic Co-Parent 30:46

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5 Red Flags of a Narcissistic Co-Parent – Episode 322 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In this episode, I’ll give you five common red flags in child custody that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissistic or high-conflict co-parent. Understanding what you are dealing with is the first step to solving the problem. I’ll also share 3 tip…

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3 Ways Narcissists Condition You 27:53

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3 Ways Narcissists Condition You – Episode 321 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We have unknowingly spent our entire relationship with the narcissist being conditioned. This conditioning results in continued behaviors even once the relationship is over. They become the same tools the narcissist uses to manipulate you in co-parenting your c…

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5 Common Ways Narcissistic Co-Parents Manipulate 29:25

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5 Common Ways Narcissistic Co-Parents Manipulate – Episode 320 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. There are patterns of behavior narcissists use to manipulate people. We’ll talk about 5 of the most common ones seen, particularly in co-parenting and one simple technique you can use to greatly reduce the effectiveness of the narcissist’s manip…

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Change of Circumstances in Child Custody 25:37

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Change of Circumstances in Child Custody – Episode 319 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Most states require a “change of circumstances” for a parent to apply for a change in the current custody orders. Some states also have a minimum timeline to file for a modification unless there is some danger to the child. Change of circumstances can v…

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7 Strategies to Level Up Your Custody Game 29:02

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Episode 318 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Learning to successfully navigate custody is similar to learning to play chess. You need to understand strategy and learn basic tactics before you can advance your skills. In this episode, I’ll give you seven strategies to help you level up your custody game, regardless of what stage of the game…

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Listen Now: Beak Capitalism from Odd Lots 1:00

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In this limited series, Odd Lots explains some of the thorniest issues facing the US economy through the medium of … chicken. Chicken occupies a unique position in the US diet, but issues facing the poultry industry illustrate wider points about the development of the US economy and the decisions being made about how it's structured and who benefit…

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Does it Help Your Case When the Other Parent Lies 28:29

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Does it Help Your Case When the Other Parent Lies – Episode 317 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The vast majority of clients complain about the other parent lying. Many times we feel like this should be an obvious key to our success if we can prove it. But, like everything else in the child custody system, it isn’t always that simple. In …

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Fighting a Corrupt Child Custody System 25:14

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Fighting a Corrupt Child Custody System – Episode 316 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you walk out of Court over and over and are not happy with the outcome, it can start to feel like the system is rigged or that you’re dealing with bias. And, that may be true. But, whether it’s true or not, in order to succeed, you need to know how …

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Child Custody Is Never Fair 27:43

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Child Custody Is Never Fair – Episode 315 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Fairness is our inherent expectation from the justice system. Anyone new to the child custody process quickly becomes disillusioned when they realize that fairness is nowhere in the equation. And how you conduct yourself in light of this realization can make or brea…

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Your Attorney’s Agenda in Child Custody 27:27

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Your Attorney’s Agenda in Child Custody – Episode 314 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Complaints about attorney’s frequently come up in conversations about child custody. Some of this is because attorneys are inherently bad at explaining things in simple easy to understand language for clients. And some of it is because clients are so uni…

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The Power of Poise 25:08

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The Power of Poise – Episode 313 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Maintaining poise is an overlooked advantage in child custody. The ability to maintain poise can give you credibility with the Court, help you to gain a mental advantage over your ex, and help you feel more empowered in the process. You never get a second chance to make a go…

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Pacing When Communicating with a Narcissist 27:06

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Pacing When Communicating with a Narcissist – Episode 312 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Pacing is a great technique that I rarely hear talked about in communicating with a narcissist. It can slow their attacks, stop the incessant arguing and best of all, put you back in control of the conversation. Pacing can also bring peace to the cha…

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Should I or Shouldn’t I 24:45

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Should I or Shouldn’t I – Episode 311 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I often get asked by clients if they should or shouldn’t bring up a concern or something they are worried about regarding their coparent. Does it make them look difficult? Does it matter? Will the Court care? In this episode, I’ll give you some criteria to help you know…

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When the Narcissist Texts You: The Anxiety and Chaos Inside 26:21

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When the Narcissist Texts You: The Anxiety and Chaos Inside – Episode 310 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We all know that feeling, when you see your narcissist’s name pop up on your phone or when you get a message notice and you are immediately triggered. Your emotional world starts spinning out of control and you haven’t even opened the…

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My Ex Is the Problem 25:17

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My Ex Is the Problem – Episode 309 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I get it, I have an ex too and yes, many times our ex causes all kinds of drama and problems that effect the kids. But, if you go into Court trying to convince your Judge that your ex is the problem, things probably will not go well for you. Often, after about five minutes…

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Legal Custody Disagreements 28:31

10M ago28:31

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Legal Custody Disagreements – Episode 308 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, legal custody issues are often difficult to navigate. If you are unable to reach agreement then filing in Court becomes the necessary step to resolve issues. But, that obviously gets very expensive and very stressf…

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It Takes A Village 24:05

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It Takes A Village – Episode 307 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We’ve all heard this expression especially when it comes to the physical labor of raising children. But your village is just as important to the emotional support of both you and your children. So, who should be part of your village? And how can you ensure that you are lever…

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What Is Your Priority? 25:26

10M ago25:26

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What Is Your Priority? – Episode 306 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is your priority your ex or your kids? Now, I think any parent would say, the kids of course. But we often, unintentionally, communicate to the court and other experts that our ex is the priority. This happens through the behaviors we exhibit and the language we use not …

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It's the Little Things 26:23

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It's the Little Things – Episode 305 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are dealing with a high-conflict co-parent, it’s often the little things that become the most frustrating. I’ve seen many clients who come out of Court and realize many of the details of their situation did not get addressed. And even when they do get addressed,…

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When Your Child Refuses To Go 28:49

11M ago28:49

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When Your Child Refuses to Go – Episode 304 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Children refusing to transition to the other parent can become a very problematic issue in child custody. We tend to see this more frequently in the teenage years but I have seen it happen even with young children. Sometimes, it can be so severe that a child will …

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#100: Faith Over Fear 30:56

11M ago30:56

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In this milestone episode, I’m catching you up on the journey I’ve been on—one marked by struggle, resilience, and a deepening faith in Jesus. Over the past year, I’ve faced some of the toughest moments in my life, but through it all, my faith has been my rock, guiding me and shaping me into who I’m meant to be.We dive into how reading the Bible an…

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How to Feel Certain in Child Custody 24:45

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How to Feel Certain in Child Custody – Episode 303 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We tend to feel certain about things that are familiar. But the entire child custody process is full of unfamiliar things. And, to boot, if you’re coming out of a narcissistic relationship, you’ve probably been stripped of the ability to trust yourself, whi…

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Misconception: Great Expectations 18:42

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At long last, it's the day of Kristen’s retrieval. As she waits to find out her results, she investigates why so many people are freezing their eggs now — and whether there is any science on the horizon that could make things easier for future generations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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The Enormity of the Tedium 25:48

11M ago25:48

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The Enormity of the Tedium – Episode 302 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. How do you eat an elephant? One bit at a time. I’m sure you’ve heard that joke before but it’s no joke when you are dealing with the overwhelm that comes from the family court process. In this episode, I’ll help you understand some of the tedious aspects of court and…

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Misconception: Big Baby 24:08

11M ago24:08

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Kristen is trying to figure out where to freeze. While trying to pick a clinic, she uncovers how an influx of private equity and other funding hasn’t actually made things better for fertility patients. She learns about fertility mishaps, mistakes and how labs and clinics are really run. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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Determining What Is Important in Child Custody 29:04

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Determining What Is Important in Child Custody – Episode 301 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. One of the biggest struggles I see for parents is understanding what is and isn’t important to the Court in your child custody case. What seems logical to us is not always what is important to the Court. Parents often focus on whether they are a b…

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Misconception: Money Money Money 26:52

11M ago26:52

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As Kristen stresses about how to pay for fertility treatment, she meets people who had to go extreme lengths to afford the services in a system where insurance coverage is spotty. And she travels to Oklahoma to check out one company that’s trying to make the treatment accessible for all. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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The Narcissist is the Key 26:45

12M ago26:45

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The Narcissist is the Key – Episode 300 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I know, you’re thinking the key to what? We often think of all the negatives that come from having been in a narcissistic relationship: the trauma, the frustration, the ongoing parenting conflict, and the list goes on. But like any trial in life, there are also positi…

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Misconception: The Baby Boom 23:53

12M ago23:53

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Reporter Kristen V. Brown visits a fertility clinic to find out whether she can still have kids. And she explores the moment the fertility industry really exploded: when doctors realized they could sell egg freezing as a preventative service, not just as a medical treatment. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…

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Introducing: Misconception 1:00

12M ago1:00

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Reality TV stars are freezing their eggs on camera. Lawmakers in DC are debating federal protection for IVF. Hundreds of millions of dollars are being invested in slick startups that market fertility treatments for all. But this rapid growth has revealed cracks in the system. Misconception, a new series from Bloomberg’s Prognosis, follows reporter …

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Custody is a Marathon, Not a Sprint 26:06

12M ago26:06

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Custody is a Marathon, Not a Sprint – Episode 299 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The Courts have both short-term and long-term issues to resolve in custody cases. When cases start of with a “bang” like a domestic violence filing or emergency orders, the Court is looking at short-term issues. When the outcome is unfavorable to us, we ofte…

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You Are In Charge of Your Child Custody Case 32:10

12M ago32:10

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You Are In Charge of Your Child Custody Case – Episode 298 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you’re in Court it’s easy to feel like everyone else is in control, your attorney, the judge, the experts and that you have no say. You actually have the option to advocate for yourself, even if you have an attorney, if you know how to navigate…