Best It S Not Supposed To Be Easy Podcasts (2025)

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Grinding And Hustling Is Not The "Work", Our Self-Care Is, So That's What I'm About To Do. 35:37

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5d ago35:37

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This episode, what I'm doing for the next 30 days is going to sound crazy. I get it. It needs to be done though because I'm locking in on how I'm blooming versus worrying about laboring to earn money. In our culture 9-5'ing/grinding is where our energy primarily goes and if there is anything left we do a little tending to ourselves. I'm flipping th…

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Dear Black Women: Life Won't Start "Lifing" Until You Do 35:30

12d ago35:30

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Dear Black women, especially those of us over 40 years old, now is your time (and mine) to get "unstuck." Let's stop waiting around for something magical to happen in order for us to do WHATEVER it is we want to do in this season. This episode is straight from my Youtube Live. Be sure to subscribe there so you can see my beautiful face :). Here is …

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In My 50s, No 9-5 In Six Years, And Rebuilding My LIfe (Spicy Language!) 48:41

19d ago48:41

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There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up. I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like. I talk about: Why I quit my job and what led up to it How I kept myself afloat throug…

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Centering Sisterhood Because Nobody Cares About Black Women But Us 35:19

25d ago35:19

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I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own life. The point of the share is to not only say her name, but to reinforc…

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Black Women Aren't Supposed to Do These Extreme Self-Care Acts 45:44

1M ago45:44

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I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t. #2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkable, because Black women are socialized to endure instead of disrupt. …

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5 Easy Beauty Practices To Remind You Of Your Worth And Who You Are 40:45

1M ago40:45

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I want to preface this episode with a couple of things: #1 - You don't owe the world "your pretty" #2 - The self-care in this episode is less about performance and more about affirming your worth, reminding yourself of who you are and feeling great about yourself, FOR YOU In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I'm giving you five simp…

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My Sleep Has Been Wrecked. Here’s How I’m Starting Over 39:00

2M ago39:00

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My sleep has been wrecked since I moved. Last year I had the perfect setup: a bed that supported me, a routine that worked, and deep, consistent rest. Now? I’m on a futon, waking up at 4 a.m. to take my daughter to work, and dragging through the day. n this episode I'm sharing: Why fall naturally shifts your body’s sleep rhythm (and how to work wit…

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5 for 50: The Truths I’m Carrying Into This New Decade 41:19

2M ago41:19

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This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life. If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yo…

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Daily Boundaries That Save Your Sanity 48:03

2M ago48:03

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Boundaries don’t always look like cutting people off or quitting jobs. The ones that actually keep you from burning out are the daily boundaries — the small choices that say: my time, my body, and my energy belong to me. In this episode, I’m breaking down five daily boundaries that protect your sanity: Not answering texts right away Saying “I can’t…

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ETCF - Flexin' Your $$ One Month Then Broke The Next While Business Building 35:19

2M ago35:19

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We are out here building businesses, doing side gigs, dreaming about walking in our purpose, right? Yes! As we do this, there may be a pull for you to get out there and showboat just how well you are doing by flaunting your income while encouraging others to quit their job and "get like you." This episode is a reminder that this isn't the way to gr…

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Trust, Transformation and No Longer Constantly Bracing For The Worst Case Scenario 39:09

3M ago39:09

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I’m sharing what it looked like to move from bracing for the worst to making space for the best. This shift didn’t happen overnight, but it’s changed how I move through life, how I feel in my body, and how I trust myself. We talk about: The moment I realized my trust was starting to change How my nervous system used to feel vs. how it feels now Why…

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The Superwoman Contract We Never Agreed To 39:31

3M ago39:31

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So many of us are walking around with an invisible contract we never agreed to—but we’re still out here living by it. It's the Superwoman Contract. In this episode, I’m naming what it is, where it comes from, how it keeps us stuck, and what it costs us to keep performing strength. We talk about: What the Superwoman Contract actually is Why we feel …

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Black Women Over 40, Gather Here! 38:42

3M ago38:42

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I'm turning 50 soon, and that shift is showing up everywhere. That includes Brown Girl Self-Care. In this episode, I’m sharing why Brown Girl Self-Care is now centering Black women in our 40s, 50s, 60s, and 70s. There needs to be wellness and self-care conversations for Black women who have entered middle-age. That is what this is. We talk about: W…

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ETCF - This Is Why You Won't Make It 34:41

3M ago34:41

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Hey, hey! Back with an Eff The Cubicle Friday episode! Can we keep it real today? Straight without the chaser? Some of you listening to this episode will stay at that job you hate, not because you can't rock your gift but because you refuse to believe in yourself. Hit play and let's talk. Also, as mentioned, if you have been doing way too much and …

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Spaciousness Can Be Uncomfortable. No One Told Me That. 32:11

3M ago32:11

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We romanticize the idea of creating space—clearing our calendars, releasing relationships, cutting ties with the noise. But what happens when you finally get the space you’ve been asking for... and it doesn’t feel good? In this episode, I talk about the raw, often ignored reality of what spaciousness brings up: the discomfort, the second-guessing, …

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(Replay) 4 Ways You Aren't Being A Safe Space For Other Black Women 35:55

3M ago35:55

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Hey, hey!! This is a replay episode from 2022 and I'm being very, very real about ways "I" was not a safe space for other Black women when I was younger. This is an eye-opening episode because we never intend to harm but if there is unresolved trauma, it's very possible that at some point we will. Recording this episode humbled me but I 'm sharing …

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Replay: What We NOT Gonna Do is Normalize Our Needs Being Unmet 38:53

4M ago38:53

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*This episode is a little cussy so nsfw* Hey, hey! In this episode of the pod I'm sharing some thing you need to hear about having your needs met. At the end I also provide a quick affirmation/reminder to carry with you this week. Also, here is the information for the self-care guidance I mention in this episode. Every woman that books this month w…

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What One Year of No Contact w/ My Mother Taught Me 48:56

4M ago48:56

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**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse**** It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being s…

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ETCF - You Are Training People To Not Value Your Labor When You Don't Charge 41:09

4M ago41:09

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This is an "Eff The Cubicle Friday" episode Real talk—when you don’t charge, you train people to treat your work like it’s free and like they have access to you at any and all times. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happened when I asked for support and got silence... and how I realized I helped create that pattern. We’re talking about why s…

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Can You Be in Community With Yourself? Are You Your Best Friend? 34:21

4M ago34:21

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We talk about wanting community. Wanting softness. Craving care and to be seen. The thing is though, how are you gonna ask for that from other people, or give it to other people, when you don’t even give it to yourself? In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means to be in community with yourself. You’re out here showing up for everybody…

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Rebuilding Trust With Yourself When You’ve Spent Years Self-Abandoning 51:44

4M ago51:44

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In this episode, I’m talking about what it actually looks like to rebuild trust with yourself — especially when you’ve spent a lifetime ignoring your needs, second-guessing your voice, and shrinking to keep the peace. If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns of self-abandonment, this one’s for you. I share the 4 daily practices I’ve been using to come…

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ETCF - Why I Started Eff The Cubicle 37:21

4M ago37:21

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Eff the Cubicle Fridays: A New Chapter Begins In this episode, I’m introducing a brand new series called Eff the Cubicle Fridays. This series was born from my desire to break free from the 9-to-5 grind that was draining the life out of me. I share the story of how I launched this podcast while working in a high-pressure corporate job, terrified my …

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Black Women Are Not Stepping Off The Sidewalk Anymore 35:41

5M ago35:41

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Listen to the episode from 2020 Link to the free mini quide In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional. And I didn’t apologize. This story became a refl…

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Black Women Deserve Tenderness + An Exciting Update For This Podcast 34:26

5M ago34:26

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Have you lived your entire life knowing that you deserved to receive tenderness as well as be tender? I lacked that for a long while and unfortunately it cost me two solid relationships. In honor of our humanity I decided to take a year exploring tenderness as a form of liberation and am sharing my thoughts with those of you signed up for the newsl…

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(Rewind) My Self-Love Was At A Deficit. How About You? 53:02

5M ago53:02

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In this heartfelt rewind episode, I take you inside a quiet moment of reflection at a solo retreat where I finally let the tears come. I talk about what it means to give so much to others while constantly putting ourselves last, and why so many Black women — myself included — struggle to give the same love, softness, and support to ourselves. I sha…

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What Black Women Need To Hear About Rest, Money and Doing Less in 2025 52:15

5M ago52:15

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. In th…

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If Mother's Day Left You Feeling Heavy 32:03

6M ago32:03

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. If yo…

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Don't Let Others Shame You Into Thinking Your Life Is "Boring." 36:10

6M ago36:10

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Let’s take this journey together—we are worthy of this care. First…

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From Fear to Worth: Navigating the Path to Self-Trust 35:26

6M ago35:26

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. First things first! I want to invite you to join me on May 14th at…

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Give Yourself Your Pretty and Your Best 32:32

6M ago32:32

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode I want to remind Black women of the importance of …

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2025 Is The Year To Consume Less and Lead More 36:33

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. Overconsumption can be tearing down your self-identity and self-wo…

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I'm tired of laboring without purpose so the only choice is to believe in myself 48:00

7M ago48:00

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. 2025 is a pivotal year for me and for many other Black women who a…

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Listener Question - "How Are You Handling IRS Debt + Financial Struggle?" 49:59

7M ago49:59

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. I've got a listener question today that came from my Instagram dm'…

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Nourishing Your "Soil" Will Help You Reclaim Your Identity 45:52

7M ago45:52

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. This episode is specifically for those of us who grew up believing…

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In 2025 I Want To Talk About Breaking My Cycle of Financial Struggle 45:28

7M ago45:28

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode I'm getting real about my financial struggles, per…

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Needing Grace Is Not A Failure On Your Part 31:05

8M ago31:05

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t Sometimes we need to ask for grace, and there is no shame in that. …

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Everything Doesn't Have To Be "Big" This Season (And That's Ok) 33:33

8M ago33:33

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t I had big plans for this season—new episodes, a bold rebrand, comin…

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5 Things To Remember When Taking Unplanned Breaks From The Grind 32:13

8M ago32:13

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m opening u…

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Moving, Starting Over and Letting Go of 95% Of All My Stuff Because I Can't Afford To Take It With Me 40:28

9M ago40:28

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our humanity. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become sacred acts of justice, powerful ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care podcast, I’m sharing a…

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(Replay) Black Women Must Forever Have Their Faces "Fixed" vs Our Humanity Honored 31:42

9M ago31:42

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Brown Girl Self-Care is a space where Black women come to honor our humanity and reclaim our power in a world that takes us for granted. Here, choosing ourselves—our healing, our joy, and our rest—is an act of radical resistance and deep self-love. In this episode, we’re exploring the emotional toll that masking takes on Black women. We’ll start wi…

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(Replay) 4 Things To Think About If It's Hard For You To Receive 28:20

9M ago28:20

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our worth. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become radical acts of love and justice, profound ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode, we unpack the discomfort and stigma that B…

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(Replay) Boundaries + Your Body IS The Biggest Truth Teller 35:44

10M ago35:44

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Brown Girl Self-Care is where Black women reclaim our wholeness and power in a world that demands our labor but denies our worth. Here, the care of ourselves—and the care for each other—become radical acts of love and justice, profound ways of honoring our humanity in a world that doesn’t. In this episode, we explore what it means to listen deeply …

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(Replay) Giving Yourself GRACE Is The Way, Not Legalism. 19:23

10M ago19:23

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In this quick episode, let's talk about the idea of breaking free from legalism and embracing grace as a foundation for personal growth in this new season. Legalism is the strict adherence to moral codes that kept me stuck for years until I realized how important it was for me to unlearn the harm of this kind of mindset. If you are moving towards m…

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(Replay from 2021) Embracing Change In The New Year 26:56

10M ago26:56

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In honor of the new year ahead, let's talk about being in a place where we want to allow change into our lives to align with personal growth and abundance. You weren't put here to live, struggle and die so, prepare yourself for the changes ahead. In this episode I'm giving you a few simple steps to get you started. Our Sponsors: * Check out Bilt: h…

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(Replay from 2023) "I Choose Peace Instead Of This" 19:54

10M ago19:54

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This year has had some amazing things come to fruition, but it was also hard in some ways. too. When you are the one in your family or circle breaking generational cycles, or if you are blooming into some life changes right now, it's easy for our minds to feel like it's always going to stay hard or that you will struggle forever. Choosing peace as …

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(Replay From 2022) Silence, Solitude, Surrender and Stillness. Which One Do You Need Right Now? 25:09

10M ago25:09

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Hey, hey! In this episode I'm talking about 4 things we all need, even if on occassion: silence, stillness, solitude, and surrender. These elements are essential for holistic self-care, especially for us, Black women who deserve to prioritize well-being as we resist cycles of stress and dysfunction. If you are thinking about tuning into your intuit…

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(Replay from 2023) 3 Ways You Can Elevate Your Life in 2025 34:37

11M ago34:37

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In this episode of the Brown Girls Self Care Podcast, I'm sharing three critical actions Black women can take in 2025 to transform their lives with more healing and joy. The episode emphasizes the importance of dating oneself regularly, undertaking solo trips to foster self-reliance and personal growth, and implementing 'think weeks' or days for de…

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I'm Taking A Sabbatical And So Should You 31:14

11M ago31:14

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Hey y’all, it’s Bre, and I’ve got something important to share with you today. After reflecting on the constant hustle culture we’re all caught up in and seeing a powerful confirmation in an unexpected place—a video of Macy Gray, no less—I’ve decided to take a sabbatical for the month of December. In this episode, I’m sharing: Why rest is a necessa…

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The Reminder You Need This Week: The Work Is Working, Sis! 33:38

11M ago33:38

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Hey, sis. Let this episode be your reminder that the work you’re doing—yes, even the small stuff—is working. Whether it’s pausing to take a deep breath, setting a boundary, or speaking to yourself with more kindness, these small shifts are creating big changes. Today, I’m sharing personal reflections and encouragement to remind you that you are mak…

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No Compromises: Building a Platform Rooted in Liberation, Not Capitalism 35:49

11M ago35:49

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In this very transparent episode, I share the challenges of staying true to the mission of Brown Girl Self-Care while navigating the harsh realities of capitalism. As a one-woman operation, I discuss how sponsorships have helped sustain this platform but also created inner conflict when values clash with business opportunities. You'll hear: Why I’m…