What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused technology can turn chaos into clarity without compromising confidentiality or safety.

This raw, practical conversation breaks down why general chatbots aren’t safe or effective for domestic violence situations and how a vertical, survivor-centered A.I. truly helps: anonymous chats that auto-delete, strict no training on user data, and features that convert everyday conversations into organized timelines, documentation, and exportable legal-ready binders. From identifying patterns of manipulation to pulling “receipts” that challenge financial abuse claims, this tool does the paralegal-style heavy lifting survivors are often forced to manage alone.

We walk through real-world use cases—drafting safe messages, role-playing difficult conversations, preparing for court hearings, and organizing evidence—and outline where A.I. provides support and where therapists, attorneys, advocates, and DV professionals remain essential.

We also dig into the psychological traps that keep people stuck, including trauma bonding, distorted nostalgia, and the myths that allow abuse to continue. Plus, we spotlight harmful legal misconceptions, especially around custody. Exposure to domestic violence is an Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE)—not a neutral event—and we challenge the reflexive “equal time” narrative with research-backed nuance.

If you’ve ever been told to “prove it” while juggling fear, deadlines, and endless paperwork, this episode offers a way to regain control: document patterns, plan responses, strengthen your safety strategy, and align your support team—all with safety as the first principle.

If this conversation resonates, subscribe to the 1in3 Podcast, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more survivors and allies can find tools that genuinely help.

Anne’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/anne-wintemute/

https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home

https://www.instagram.com/aimeesaysdv/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552414454913

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wintemute-897077106/

https://www.tiktok.com/@aimeesaysabuse

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

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Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe