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Understanding How Fear Secretly Controls Your Life: And How to Break Free With Rhonda Britten
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What if your deepest flaws aren't flaws at all, but simply fear responses in disguise? Emmy Award-winner Rhonda Britten takes us on a profound journey through the invisible ways fear controls our daily lives.
After witnessing her father murder her mother and commit suicide right before her eyes at age 14, Rhonda spent two decades battling alcoholism and suicidal thoughts while simultaneously seeking help. The transformation came when she realized she needed to apply knowledge rather than just collect it, starting with simple gold stars on a calendar for any positive action. This began her path to creating the Fearless Living Institute and helping others recognize their own patterns of fear.
Rhonda introduces us to her revolutionary concepts of the "Wheel of Fear" and "Wheel of Freedom" - personalized frameworks that explain how our core fears manifest as behaviors we typically beat ourselves up for. Those tendencies to procrastinate, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and overwhelm? They're not character flaws but fear responses stemming from deeper triggers. When we understand this, we can stop the self-punishment that actually keeps us stuck in fear.
The conversation takes fascinating turns through topics like perfectionism (only complete projects to 80% before releasing them), people-pleasing (are you prioritizing others' opinions over self-respect?), and how our values themselves can be filtered through either fear or freedom. Particularly powerful is Rhonda's insight about connection and belonging being our foundational human need, and how fear distorts our attempts to fulfill it.
Ready to break free from your wheel of fear? Rhonda leaves us with a powerful starting point: forgive yourself, recognize "it's not you, it's just fear," and remember you're here to live the life your soul intended, not your fear intended. Visit fearlessliving.org/risk for her free "Stretch, Risk or Die" class to begin your journey toward fearless living today.
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Chapters
1. Introduction (00:00:00)
2. Introducing Our Topic (00:04:37)
3. Introducing Rhonda Britten to The Killer Bee Studios (00:07:00)
4. Rhonda's Background and Qualifications (00:08:45)
5. How a Bartender Triggered a Change (00:15:09)
6. Changing Without Confrontation (00:20:13)
7. What Keeps You Stuck In This Rut? (00:21:22)
8. How To Get Out of Your Rut? (00:22:44)
9. Fear Responses and Core Triggers (00:23:48)
10. Perfectionism and People-Pleasing as Fear (00:25:22)
11. How To Be Free! (00:30:32)
12. Our Core Need Is To Connect (00:32:24)
13. COVID and Rethinking Our Values - LostVirtually's Q/A (00:34:22)
14. How Our Values Are Influenced By Our Community and State of Mind (00:37:00)
15. Express Your Uniqueness and Authenticity (00:41:24)
16. How This Applies In Social Situations (00:44:12)
17. Forgiveness and Getting Unstuck from Fear (00:45:35)
18. What Kept Rhonda Going? - Eli's Q/A (00:46:50)
19. Advice For Your Future Self - Yvonne's Q/A (00:48:26)
20. Fearless Living Vs. Reckless Living (00:50:44)
21. Resources and How To Connect With Rhonda Britten (00:52:58)
22. Closing Thoughts (00:55:24)
23. Post-Show Funny Moments (00:56:55)
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