“It was the most darkest moments of my life, I was in a deep depression, suicidal thoughts to the point where I had to get some psychological help...#forward I can’t stand still anymore” find out how my dad battled & grew through this🎙YOU GUYS, THE NEW EPISODE IS HERE & it features none other than the man, the myth, the legend, the birthday dude (yes , today is his birthday) - PAPA LAPA aka DAD aka GIL LAPASTORA 👨🏽🕴🏼Real talk with pops on my parent's divorce, forgiveness, growing up in the inner city of Detroit, lessons he learned from his marriage that can be applied to your relationship, fatherhood, depression, battling pornography, how to man up... ALSO - Duck embryos, garlic mashed potatoes, all the genres of music, bouncing eyes, the Detroit Lions winning the Super Bowl, and Mother Theresa?! You’re gonna want to listen to this.0:00 Papa Lapa’s walkout song / the intro of gil lapastora1:29 Congrats on the podcast / hoping to help some of the dads out there, sons, men2:24 why I started this AUTHENTICALLY podcast2:44 example of how pops has been there for me in the ups and downs of life,4:30 leveling up, growing through seasons of life, not just getting through it5:50 what drives you? When you wake up in the morning, what drives you to keep going?7:13 #2 enneagram personality traits .. “my propensity is to help”7:52 “that’s my mojo…before I act and think about something I would go to prayer about it..that would help give me focus as to how to approach the situation...selfishly I want to do my own thing…when I do that things go sideways”8:44 Fatherhood…“Especially my children…I want to be a part of their lives” .. the joys and challenges of fatherhood, wanting us to follow in Christ’s footstepsLife’s challenges:10:30 moving from the Philippines to America when dad was 8 years old…the challenges of growing up in the inner city of Detroit as an immigrant…having low self-esteem, not feeling value from his dad and as a member of society15:34 Divorce…a real conversation about mom and dad’s divorce..why the divorce happened16:30 Losing his job during the COVID-19 pandemic in Michigan…Lola’s and Grandpa’s passing…”for me, it draws me back to the cross”17:48 appreciating our family dynamic of authenticity, keeping it real, and not being afraid to talk about our feelings18:02 “that would’ve been a great reality show” - Father’s Day trip turned into drama and how that turned out23:50 Timing of finding a bathroom w/ no running water on Belle Isle26:28 Divorce - one of the worst days of my life yet how dad and mom were still THERE AND PRESENT for me and my siblings throughout our lives…putting aside each other’s differences to support and cheer us on…Dad: “It was the most darkest moments of my life"31:34 What dad learned from his marriage—the positive traits to apply in your own marriage and the lessons learned to not repeat in your own marriage/family36:32 Pornography - the previous struggles/addiction to it…how to combat it…THIS is a topic not talked about, people shy away from it…well here we tackle it head on41:00 THE ARE YOU 4 REAL?! SEGMENT - where I ask guests 4 questions that could range from deep to ridiculous48:00 When we met Barry Sanders in the hospital after I got surgery as a kid50:50 what’s your dream right now?HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD 🎉🎉🎉it’s crazy , because we recorded this podcast on Father’s Day weekend and it just so happened that the timing to publish worked out for DAD’S BIRTHDAY 🎂 TODAY!! crazy how God works.So, dad, here’s to you! Celebrating you and the man you are: Selfless, fun, supportive, PRESENT, creative, wise, & most importantly a follower of Jesus.