The power-over / power-under / power-with dynamic isn’t just something we have with other people, it often resides inside us.

When we override our emotions, suppress our sensations, and try to outmaneuver our discomfort, we manifest that dynamic.

We see it when we push past our sadness, armor over vulnerability, or try to exert power in ways that are loud and forceful instead of connected and quiet.

Maybe it’s thinking we need to toughen up and act like a badass in reaction to our sadness.

That’s what we think being powerful looks like.

But what if the real path to personal power was learning to stay? To breathe. To notice. To be with what’s actually happening in our body.

Most of us are in a constant, unconscious tug-of-war with ourselves. Trying to control, suppress, or outperform our inner experience. But emotional triggers are a huge opportunity many waste.

They are an invitation to move old pain through and reclaim our presence. This is what true, embodied power looks like.

In this episode, we’re joined by Julie Colwell, PhD, a psychologist, teacher, and author who’s spent decades training coaches and therapists in conscious relationship skills.

She takes us through her heart-centered S.E.W. practice to guide people back to alignment in moments that would otherwise spiral into self-judgment, shutdown, or struggle.

You’ll also witness us work through a real-time moment of sadness and regret using Julie’s process.

Things You’ll Learn In This Episode

-Feel to Flow Body awareness is the key to emotional freedom. Can connecting to our physical sensations shift us out of self-judgment and into grace?

-Power Over vs. Power With

What if our instinct to control others (or ourselves) is actually a fear response? How does hierarchy creep in during reactive states, and how do we choose co-creation over control?

-From Shame to Self-Compassion

Honoring our emotional truths creates space for transformation. Is there a way to meet our inner child with kindness instead of critique?

-What You Really Want Under every reaction is a deeper longing. How do we uncover our truest desires once we’ve moved the emotion through?

Guest Bio

Julie Colwell is a Psychologist, speaker, author, and guide for relationship transformation and the Founder of the Evolutionary Power Institute. Julie catalyzes relationships out of old, stuck patterns and onto the road of their innate creative potential. Her proven methodology can be applied by any willing person and embodied over time with the support of the dynamic Evolutionary Power Institute community she founded, as well as the vast library of books, videos, audios, and blogs that she’s authored. Julie teaches her powerful, immediately applicable practices to large and small groups through interactive presentations and workshops, as well as training practitioners in my approach. She works with a small number of couples and individuals to support them in unlocking the energy that will jettison their lives and relationships onto the paths of true possibility. To learn more about her work, visit https://juliacolwell.com/

About Your Hosts

Katie Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT, is a pioneer in body intelligence and conscious loving with over 40 years of experience. Known internationally as a presenter and seminar leader, she focuses on authenticity, responsibility, and appreciation in conscious living. She co-authored 12 books, including best-sellers Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, and she has appeared on over 500 radio and TV programs.

Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has worked with thousands of individuals and teams globally. With a focus on helping people live fully expressed lives, she guides clients and facilitates group sessions to remove obstacles and design meaningful lives. Sophie has developed unique methods, mindset shifts, and healing modalities to create lasting change.

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