If the household is worthy, let your peace come upon it. But if it is not worthy, let your peace return to you. Matthew 10:13

“And indeed, if the house, it should be worthy, it came – your peace – upon it. And if not it should be worthy, your peace, it returns to you” (CG).

In the previous verse, Jesus said, “And entering into the house, you greet it.” He now continues, saying, “And indeed, if the house, it should be worthy.”

The order at first seems off. How can they greet a worthy house that is found later to be unworthy? The meaning is found in the greeting as stated by the Jews mentioned in the previous commentary, Shalom lekha, “Peace to you.”

This was not something that was stated after the household was determined worthy. It is what any person in the Middle East would do upon entering any house, meeting any stranger on the way, or even walking into a restaurant where someone is immediately greeted. It is as common as someone in America coming to a house and saying “Good afternoon.”

For example, in Arabic nations, when greeting another, it is standard to say, As-salamu alaikum, “Peace be upon you.” It is essentially the same thought as the Hebrew just mentioned. In other words, Jesus is telling His disciples to walk into a house with the standard greeting for peace. It is at this time that “if the house, it should be worthy” applies. Only after that, He says, “it came – your peace – upon it.”

Here, the word eiréné, peace, is introduced. It signifies peace both literally and figuratively, such as quietness, rest, restoration, etc. The word is derived from eiró, to join. Thus, one can get the sense that a state of harmony has been enjoined.

The apostles are to send forth their peace, looking for it to be enjoined with the household. However, only after explaining their intent and purpose for being in town would that peace actually be realized or denied. If so, their peace would truly rest upon the house. On the other hand, “And if not it should be worthy, your peace, it returns to you.”

Another new word is seen here, epistrephó, to turn, return, convert, etc. It is derived from epi, upon, and strephó, to turn or return. Thus, it bears much the same meaning as strephó, but it is accentuated.

Jesus’ meaning here is that the standard greeting for peace should always be extended, but it may not always apply. When it is extended and the house is one of peace towards their message, then their peace, meaning a state of harmony with the owners, will exist. However, if the opposite is true, those in the house have set themselves against the gospel, and there will be no peace between them. As such, they are to depart from that house.

Jesus will continue to explain just what this state of lacking harmony means for them in the coming verses.

Life application: The false teaching that Christians must forgive everybody all the time for all offenses against them has been so heavily pushed within the church that Christians face one of two general states in their existence for those who actually care about this particular doctrine.

The first is a group of neurotic people who stand frustrated at the fact that they are constantly abused by others with no foreseeable relief or remedy. Their state of salvation becomes one of works, ever attempting to merit what has already been given to them through accepting Jesus.

In other words, they are told they are saved by grace through faith in Christ. They accept this message and are saved. However, they are also told that if you don’t forgive others, you will not be forgiven. Thus, there are contradictory thoughts tearing at the soul of the poor believer.

The only possible escape is to follow a path of works to continue to be saved, to merit God’s favor, and to retain their salvation. It is an unhealthy, unbalanced, and unbiblical approach to one’s walk with the Lord. It is an impossible dilemma that ruins their joy in Christ.
The second state is a group of people who claim they forgive everyone, are at peace with all people, and are actually better than all other Christians because they are able to do what they know no one can actually do. The resulting arrogance in such people is, at times, astonishing.

The reason they can live in this state, knowing it is not true, is that they don’t actually care about discovering the truth of how to resolve the dilemma. Instead, like anyone who has the upper hand over others, they feel they have the right to other’s respect and adoration. They are the super Christians worthy of other’s emulation. They hold the secret and thus have implicit control over those who are inferior in their walk with the Lord, or so they think.

The words of Jesus in these verses clearly demonstrate that there are times when people are at odds with one another and that no peace exists between the two. There is no forgiveness of the offense against the gospel to be obtained. That will be seen in the next two verses.

It is important for saved believers to know and remember that forgiveness in Scripture is never unconditional. If it were, it would mean the believer has a higher standard to meet than God has set forth in Christ. Jesus’ sacrifice is offered to all. However, it is conditional upon belief in what the cross, burial, and resurrection mean.

Without belief, no person will be saved. Thus, there are conditions for forgiveness, even from God’s position. To teach that all believers must forgive all people all the time without meeting certain standards is completely unbiblical, it is opposed to the gospel message, and it produces insecure or arrogant attitudes that are damaging to a sound walk with the Lord.

Lord God, help us to take all things in their proper context and to apply them appropriately. Taking verses out of the intended context can only damage our doctrine and a proper walk with You. So, keep reminding us to carefully consider and apply Your wonderful word to our lives. Amen.