Whitney interviews Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, author of the new book "You, Your Husband, and His Mother” about navigating mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships. They discuss why this dynamic is so challenging, the scapegoating of daughters-in-law, triangulation of husbands/partners, the difference between setting boundaries and being controlling, and a few practical strategies for surviving the holidays together.

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00:00 Why the Mother-in-Law Dynamic Is So Common

04:44 The Abandonment Wound

07:04 The Scapegoating of Daughters-in-Law

12:01 Abusive Daughter-In-Laws?

18:54 The Husband's Critical Role in the Triangle

24:09 Death by a Thousand Paper Cuts

28:24 Psychological Conflict Between Women

32:25 Practical Boundaries and Mindset Shifts for the Holidays

Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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