Trauma-informed relationships start with understanding moral injury, the stress that blindsides even the strongest first responders. In this episode, we break down how moral injury shows up in first responder work and why it impacts families long after the shift ends.

What you'll learn: • How "non-traumatic" calls can still create deep wounds • The difference between guilt, shame, burnout, and moral injury • Why first responder stress builds over time and spills into relationships • What partners can do to help and why peer support matters • Practical steps to rebuild connection and emotional stability

Cyndi Doyle is a licensed professional counselor supervisor, founder of Code4Couples®, author of Hold the Line, and a retired police spouse. She helps law enforcement and first responder couples stay connected, resilient, and grounded in their relationship.

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00:00 Welcome to Code4Couples 01:00 Meet Ashley: Paramedic to counselor 04:00 When your body says "no more" 07:00 The pressure to hide emotional struggle 10:00 The call that changed everything 14:00 When moral injury hits without warning 18:00 Guilt, shame, and the stories we create 22:00 How moral injury shows up like trauma 28:00 Cynicism, compassion fatigue, and burnout 32:00 What healing actually looks like 39:00 Stress in the body vs. stress in your mind 44:00 Supporting your first responder partner 47:00 Peer support as a lifeline 49:00 How to find Ashley + additional resources 51:00 Final thoughts and takeaway