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Have you ever caught yourself saying, "Just one more thing to do, then I can relax"? That sneaky mental trap might be stealing your joy right now.
This week, I'm diving into the dangerous "if only then" cycle that keeps so many of us chasing an ever-moving finish line. You know how it goes—if only I can clean the kitchen, then I'll enjoy making dinner. If only I finish the laundry, then I can play with my kids. If only I lose five more pounds, then I'll feel good about myself. Sound familiar?
What I've discovered is that there's a profound disconnect between our time and our values. We say we value rest, connection, and joy, but our to-do lists take priority. Last Thursday, after a week of postponing fun, I had my wake-up call. The house would never be perfectly done, so why keep waiting? That impromptu pool day with my kids taught me more than a week of productivity ever could.
Instead of letting your to-do list run your life, what if you build your schedule around what you value most? I'll share my game-changing "connection calendars" system and four practical steps to break free from the endless cycle: identify your values, schedule value-based time first, reframe your tasks from obligations to choices, and learn to declare "enough." Because peace isn't waiting at the end of your to-do list—it's available right now, in the middle of the mess.
Are you ready to stop postponing joy? What have you been putting off that you could give yourself permission to enjoy today? Share this episode with a friend who might need this reminder, and join me next week for more ways to stay confidently beautiful.
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Chapters
1. Welcome to Confidently Beautiful (00:00:00)
2. If Only Then Trap (00:01:22)
3. Values vs To-Do Lists (00:04:43)
4. Four Steps to Break the Cycle (00:08:56)
5. Finding Peace in the Middle (00:12:07)
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