When Playing It Safe Almost Cost Her Everything (And the Breaking Point That Changed Her Life) with Tracy Goodwin
Congruent with Lisa Carpenter | The truth beneath success. Why it never feels like enough.
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Tracy Goodwin had a gift she couldn't deny. She could hear things in people's voices that no one else could hear, seven layers of sound that revealed scars, wounds, and the real person buried beneath years of conditioning. But instead of stepping into that power, she played it safe. She taught traditional voice coaching while her radical insights screamed to get out.
Then the hate came. International hate clubs. Requests to appear on national television to be humiliated on purpose. Daily emails telling her she was an "effing piece of" nothing, that she shouldn't exist, that she should be dead. Her life was literally threatened because she wouldn't accommodate someone's request, because she wouldn't conform to what others wanted her to be.
So she went into hiding. She refinished furniture for years, sanding away layers of old paint and varnish while God sanded away her excuses.
Until she heard the voice she'd been running from: "What are you doing? I didn't put you down there to finish furniture. I need you back in the game."
Within 24 hours, the concept of psychology of the voice became crystal clear.
In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Tracy reveals:
- The self-inflicted torture of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear and people-pleasing
- How childhood wounds of being silenced before age five show up in the way you communicate today
- The moment she realized furniture refinishing was a metaphor for her real work: sanding away the fabricated layers of who people think they're supposed to be
- Why staying safe in people-pleasing mode almost made her lose her mind
- The progression of redefining success from wanting to be a famous celebrity in her 20s, to chasing money in her 30s, to her mission at 50: touching every life that must hear from her before she's gone
- How she went from taking months to recover from conflict to catching herself in minutes
- The hardest practice of all: meeting yourself with compassion when you've spent a lifetime being as hard on yourself as the world has been on you
- Why your voice is the literal orchestra of your heart, and there is someone desperately waiting for your message
- The five core wounds that stop high performers from owning their greatness: fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, sense of belonging, and worthiness
This episode is for you if you've ever:
- Felt successful on the outside while quietly crumbling on the inside
- Known you had a gift but been too terrified to fully step into it
- Stayed small to keep others comfortable or avoid judgment
- Wondered "is this all there is?" while everyone else thinks you have it all figured out
- Struggled to give yourself the compassion you so freely give to others
- Been paralyzed by the gap between what you know you're capable of and what you're actually doing
Tracy Goodwin is a voice decoder, researcher, and voice behavioralist who works with the psychology of the voice. She helps high-performing leaders understand how their voice holds their scars, wounds, and power, ultimately getting them back to who they were put on this earth to be versus who the world told them to be.
Find Tracy at:
- Instagram/TikTok: @captivatetherroom
- Website: Home
- LinkedIn: Tracy A. Goodwin
Ready to stop playing it safe with your own life?
If Tracy's story hit you in the chest, if you recognized yourself in the pattern of knowing your truth but staying paralyzed by fear, it's time to stop hiding behind the version of success that's quietly killing you.
The congruency audit is where we look at the gap between the success you've built on the outside and what you're actually feeling on the inside. We'll identify the exact patterns keeping you stuck in the "never enough" cycle, the wounds driving your over-responsibility, and what it's going to take for you to finally create success that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
No more self-inflicted torture of knowing there's more but being too afraid to reach for it. No more settling for accomplishments that leave you empty.
Book your Congruency Audit: lisacarpenter.ca/audit
This isn't about optimizing the version of yourself you built to survive. It's about creating congruence so the life you've built doesn't just look good, it finally feels right.
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