Leaving the house, turning off the tablet, starting homework—why does something so small spark such big meltdowns? If you’re exhausted from what feels like Groundhog’s Day every morning, afternoon, and bedtime, you’re not alone.

Here’s the truth: it’s not bad parenting—it’s a dysregulated brain. And once you understand the real reason transitions are so hard for your child, you can begin shifting from constant battles to calmer, smoother days.

In this episode, I explain the brain science behind transition struggles, why many children fight tooth and nail against even non-preferred activities, and practical steps you can use to make transitions easier at home, school, or even heading to dance class.

Why does my child melt down during transition time?

Many parents are shocked by how strongly their kids react when asked to switch from one activity to another. But the root cause isn’t stubbornness—it’s biology.

During transition time, the brain has to “shift gears.” For a dysregulated child, this is exhausting and overwhelming.

• The brain’s CEO (prefrontal cortex) goes offline under stress, making switching tasks harder.
• Kids with ADHD, anxiety, or sensory sensitivities struggle more because flexibility takes extra energy.
• Triggers like hunger, fatigue, and sensory overload often go unnoticed but make transitions harder.

What are the hidden triggers that make transitions harder?

One mom reported that mornings before school felt like a war zone. Her son ended up in tears on the floor while the family scrambled to get him out the door. Sound familiar?

Here are the triggers many parents miss:

• Unpredictable routines – Sudden schedule shifts cause anxiety.
• Demands that feel rushed or critical – Even a few minutes earlier than expected can trigger stress.
• Overstimulation from screens – Coming off the computer or tablet without a reset makes kids crash.
• Emotional load – Stress at home (like divorce or conflict) amplifies reactivity.

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How can I make transitions easier for my child?

Good news: with a few practical steps, you can shift from chaos to calm. These small adjustments work whether it’s bedtime, leaving the house, or starting a non-preferred activity like homework.

• Preview and prepare – Give 5-minute warnings with visual timers. Kids need predictability.
• Co-regulate first – Let’s calm the brain first. Sit together, breathe, squeeze a hand, or offer water. Your calmness teaches their nervous system safety.
• Build in micro resets – A stretch, a sip of water, or movement helps kids reset between activities.
• Offer limited choices – “Do you want to walk or skip to the car?” reduces resistance while giving healthy control.
• Practice when calm – Rehearse routines during low-stress moments. Like a learning curve in gymnastics class, repetition builds new brain pathways.

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Why do transitions feel overwhelming for so many families?

Parents often tell me, “It feels like my child fights me on everything.” Whether it’s time playing on the computer, shifting from bed to school, or getting to a friend’s house, transitions can leave families frustrated and drained.

But here’s what I want you to remember:

• Most cases aren’t about defiance. Your child’s brain is overwhelmed.
• Every transition is a chance to teach regulation. Small shifts add up over time.
• You’re not alone. Many parents struggle with the exact same battles.

When you shift from reacting to supporting regulation, everything changes. So next time your child resists moving from one activity to the next, remember—it’s not bad parenting, it’s a dysregulated brain. And with the right tools, you can make transitions easier for both of you.

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FAQs

Why does my child fight me every morning before school?

Mornings are stacked with stress—waking up, getting dressed, leaving the house. For a dysregulated brain, it’s simply too many demands at once. Preview routines and add calming resets to reduce the overwhelm.

How do I stop tablet or computer battles?

Screens flood the brain with dopamine, so shifting feels uncomfortable. Always build in movement or water breaks after screen time before asking your child to start a new task.

Why does my child struggle more than their sibling?

Every child’s nervous system is unique. Some kids need extra support with transitions, even if their brother, sister, or friend seems to breeze through them. It’s not willpower—it’s regulation.

Can practice really make transitions easier?

Yes. Practicing routines during calm moments—like a dress rehearsal—teaches the brain what to expect. Over time, repetition builds confidence and smoother transitions.