In this candid conversation, guest Bill Hulseman—a ritual designer, former educator, and author of Six to Carry the Casket and One to Say the Mass—unpacks how thoughtfully designed ceremonies can reflect a couple’s identities, values, and love story without relying on the “dusty playbook.” Drawing on graduate study in ritual and years of practice, Bill explains how to audit traditions (e.g., “giving away,” entrances/exits, ceremony layout) and rebuild them to be feminist, inclusive, interfaith/intercultural, and authentically queer.

Bill also shares a grounded path through grief and burnout toward purpose; reimagines Pride beyond corporate branding via a personal daily practice of honoring influences; and outlines an “allyship arc” (from speaking for, to sharing the platform, to getting out of the way). A thoughtful detour into his Madonna symposia illustrates how pop culture can meaningfully move the needle on community and belonging.

Why it’s trustworthy: Bill’s credentials and field experience anchor the guidance; the episode offers transparent context, practical frameworks couples can apply immediately, and clear references to his book and work for further verification.

Bill's book is available on Amazon.com: https://a.co/d/gWkZaeB

Bill's Website: https://www.billhulseman.com/

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