This episode dives into one of the most overlooked truths about love, dating, and emotional patterns: the pull you feel toward the wrong men—especially in December—is rarely about desire. It’s often unhealed trauma doing the choosing.

In this teaching, Coach Vee breaks down why loneliness feels louder during the holidays, how emotional wounds shape attraction, and why familiar dysfunction can feel so comforting when you’re triggered. You’ll learn the psychological patterns behind trauma-driven attraction, the spiritual warfare that clouds discernment, and the real reason so many Christian women repeat the same relationship cycles every year.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I miss him even though he wasn’t good for me?”
Or, “Why does December make me want to go back?”
Or, “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?”
This episode will show you exactly what’s happening beneath the surface—and how to break the cycle for good.

If you’re ready to stop choosing from wounds and start choosing from wisdom, this episode is your turning point.

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