‍🔥WTF Is A 'Relationship Retro' & Do YOU need it?

💛In this week's episode we explore if having a monthly relationship check in could make, great or benefit your relationship? Josiah and Renee speak about whether it is something they do or benefit from and break down what it is?

Do you think your relationship would benefit from a monthly check in? Or even your friendship dynamic? Josiah calls his wife LIVE on the podcast to pitch the idea!

A relationship retro (short for relationship retrospective) is a practice often used by couples or partners to reflect on their relationship, similar to how teams conduct retrospectives in agile project management. The goal is to review the past period or experience, discuss what worked well, what could be improved, and set intentions for the future.

Resources:

Here is the website it was inspired from and below we shareRenee's monthly check in checklist: https://medium.com/@glovguy/relationship-retros-625ee5a27d5f

Renee's format (from a non professional):

STARTING:
Put it in the calendar same time every month. Don’t avoid it and make sure you are in a safe space. Get a journal out or a book you write in and put on a 30 min timer - you don’t want these dragging out. You may go over a little, but try not to.
THE SHARING:
SHARE
Admire
Desire
Appreciate
THE CHORES:
A space for you to share your thoughts on the day-to-day dynamic and splitting the load. Remember your job here is to listen and validate the other persons experience. Use “I” not “You” Dialogue
THE PHYSICAL STUFF (For romantic partners or sometimes friends) Where are youat? Are your needs, desires and wants being met?
PLAN:
Something fun! A date! Something New? A trip away? A no phone day together?
THE CHALLENGES:
Not your fav part but the most important part. Take turns at sharing or writing down the things that have bothered you or concerned you about yourself or the other persons behaviour.
It’s hard not to get defensive - but its important to remember words such as “thank you for sharing your truth, i hear you”. If you are defending yourself or getting angry - does this make it a safe space for the other peson to share?
SUPPORT:Over the next month - how can I best support you with one thing you may be facing right now? You can check in on this the next time you do the retro.
DO SOMETHING FUN: You may feel ICKY after sharing so openly and vulnerably - this is so normal. So try and do something fun together. Dance! Put on a tune

ALWAYS REMEMBER...

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