Episode Overview:

In this heartfelt episode, we sit down with Jaymen Chang, founder of The Breakup Journal and author of the bestselling book, I Love This Version of Myself That You Brought Out. Jaymen opens up about his journey through personal heartbreak and the healing practices he developed, offering a self-focused, compassionate approach to navigating breakups. From finding closure to re-entering the dating world, Jaymen’s perspective redefines the path to emotional recovery, focusing on personal growth, self-compassion, and intentionality.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-Focused Healing: Jaymen’s approach is rooted in self-love and personal growth. He advocates for validating your emotions without rushing to “fix” things, encouraging a patient, compassionate outlook on healing.

• Closure as a Commitment: Rather than seeking closure through a conversation, Jaymen redefines it as a commitment to move forward. He shares how intentional rituals can provide solace and create a sense of personal closure.

• Growth Through Discomfort: True self-kindness isn’t about always feeling good. Sometimes, it involves facing challenging emotions for the sake of growth.

• Healing is a Journey: Jaymen reminds us that healing isn’t a finite goal. It’s natural to experience ongoing emotions, and being “fully healed” is not a necessary milestone before moving on.

• Reconnecting After Heartbreak: We discuss the process of rediscovering discarded parts of yourself, dating with intention, and why rebounds aren’t always the answer. Jaymen highlights the importance of self-discovery and authenticity on the path to finding new love.

Topics Covered:

Jaymen’s Background and The Breakup Journal

• How personal heartbreak and disconnection from existing advice led Jaymen to create The Breakup Journal as a space for compassionate guidance.

• The unexpected journey from private journaling to a bestselling book, reaching thousands seeking support in their healing process.

A Compassionate Approach to Breakup Recovery

• Self-focus over fixation on the past relationship: Jaymen discusses the importance of embracing self-compassion instead of bitterness.

• Techniques for processing emotions, including journaling, meditation, and breathing exercises, as well as how simple rituals can help you move forward.

Redefining Closure and Moving Forward

• Closure as a commitment, not a one-time conversation. Jaymen’s unique view on creating meaningful rituals and assignments to symbolise progress.

• The role of support systems and deep connections in finding a renewed sense of self post-breakup.

Dating After a Big Breakup

• Jaymen’s insights into dating again, from reconnecting with who you truly are to the importance of timing and intention.

• His advice on handling rebounds and facing discomfort as part of authentic self-kindness.

Listen to discover:

• How to embrace vulnerability as part of the healing journey

• Why facing discomfort can be a powerful act of self-compassion

• How to view heartbreak as an opportunity for personal growth and self-rediscovery

Connect with Jaymen Chang:

🌐 The Breakup Journal

📸 Instagram: @thebreakupjournal.pdf / @wordswithjaymen

📘 Facebook: The Breakup Journal

🌐 Twitter: http://twitter.com/tbj_tweets

🎥 YouTube: https://youtube.com/@thebreakupjournal

🎞️ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thebreakupjournal.mov

📚 Book: I love this version of myself that you brought out: a memoir of a broken heart - by Jaymen Chang

Let’s keep thriving and shining together! 🎧✨