What if the person you loved most, your twin flame, your ex, your “healer,” was actually just wearing a mask? In this raw, poetic, and piercingly honest episode, Jillian Melissa dives into the manipulative tactics of narcissists, the emotional gymnastics of self-loathing men, and the soul work required to break free. From the psychological to the spiritual, this is an activation for anyone healing from toxic dynamics or excavating shadow parts to live in truth.
We explore the biggest lie narcissists need you to believe (that they’ve changed), and how hope can become a form of energetic addiction. Jillian also introduces powerful frameworks like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work—guiding listeners through naming and dialoguing with inner protectors like the “Inner Perfectionist,” “Inner Sick Girl,” and the “Clever One.”
This episode is a balm for empaths, a call-out for enablers, and a guiding light for anyone unraveling attachment, identity, and self-worth. If you’ve been feeling like it’s time to stop romanticizing pain and start returning to peace—this is your invitation.
Chapters
00:00 – Welcome to the Summer Transmission
01:04 – Your DMs Matter: The Triangle of Visibility
05:02 – The #1 Lie Narcissists Need You to Believe
09:20 – Regret vs. Remorse: The Narcissist’s Playbook
15:23 – Men Who Hate Themselves (and How They Punish Love)
21:49 – The Pain of Setting Them Free
24:22 – Why Strong Women Intimidate Weak Men
30:00 – Can Narcissists Change? (The Slow Thaw Theory)
33:00 – Parts Work 101: The Inner Critic, Perfectionist & More
44:00 – Dialogue with Your Shadow Parts
50:11 – The Inner Sick Girl & Inner Healer Dynamic
53:15 – The Clever One: Self-Deception & the Healing Trap
55:44 – Final Reflections & Your Invitation to Go Deeper
narcissist recovery, cluster B personality disorders, twin flame healing, internal family systems, parts work therapy, emotional blackmail, anxious attachment healing, toxic relationships, self-love journey, intuitive podcast, spiritual growth, shadow work, how to heal from narcissistic abuse
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