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Regulate Your Emotions: How to Pause Before You React and Save Your Relationships

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The uncomfortable truth is that when we can't regulate ourselves, our relationships spiral. Practicing "the pause" when we're triggered is not only the most important relationship skill, it is the most important life skill. In this long waited episode, Jillian teaches how to practice the pause and regulate your emotions.

Pre-order Jillian's book "It Begins with You" at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book

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The uncomfortable truth is that when we can't regulate ourselves, our relationships spiral. Practicing "the pause" when we're triggered is not only the most important relationship skill, it is the most important life skill. In this long waited episode, Jillian teaches how to practice the pause and regulate your emotions.

Pre-order Jillian's book "It Begins with You" at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book

~~

Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove

Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com

Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon

Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations

Follow Jillian Turecki on

Instagram: @jillianturecki

TikTok: @jillian.turecki

X: @JillianTurecki

Visit her website at jillianturecki.com

~~

Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE.

To advertise on the show, contact us!

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Jillian opens up about five things she wishes she’d known before getting married—things that could’ve saved her a lot of pain. She talks about the pressure to rush into commitment, the importance of knowing your non-negotiables, and why avoiding hard conversations can cost you more than you think. If you’ve ever felt unsure in a relationship or afraid to speak up about what you really need, this episode will hit home. Join The Conscious Woman Waitlist Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
We’ve all heard it: you have to forgive to move on. But what if that’s not true? In this episode, Jillian challenges one of the most commonly held beliefs in the self-help and spiritual world: that forgiveness is required for healing. She unpacks what it really means to let go, move on, and find peace—without having to forgive someone who hurt you. Join The Conscious Woman Waitlist Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
Trying to convince someone to love you is one of the most painful patterns to get stuck in—and it can quietly destroy your mental health. In this episode, Jillian goes deep on the emotional toll of chasing love that isn’t mutual. She breaks down why connection isn’t enough, what real commitment looks like, and why settling for someone who’s one foot in and one foot out is a form of self-abandonment. Join The Conscious Woman Waitlist Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
Jillian sits down with Mel Robbins to unpack the Let Them Theory — a mindset shift that helps you stop trying to control others and start focusing on your own emotional wellbeing. They explore how the urge to control often stems from stress and fear, and how letting go can actually lead to deeper healing, stronger boundaries, and more self-trust. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or stuck in relationship patterns that drain you, this conversation offers a path back to clarity and inner strength. Buy Mel’s book, The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's NEW book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
As part of Mental Health Awareness Month, this episode explores one of the most destabilizing relationship dynamics: when a partner shuts down during conflict. Jillian coaches a listener through the emotional toll of being avoided and unpacks how this behavior impacts your mental health, sense of safety, and self-worth. With guidance on emotional regulation, accountability, and what it really takes to break unhealthy cycles, this conversation is a powerful reminder that protecting your peace starts from within. Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman . Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's NEW book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
Your relationship with money is one of the most emotionally intimate relationships you have—and it’s time to start treating it that way. In this episode, Jillian welcomes bestselling author and host of The School of Greatness, Lewis Howes, to dive deep into what our financial habits, fears, and beliefs really say about us. Inspired by his new book, Make Money Easy, this conversation is about so much more than dollars and cents—it's about self-worth, safety, and the emotional wiring behind our financial behaviors. Buy Lewis’s new book, Make Money Easy Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's NEW book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
We all have patterns in relationships—some helpful, some destructive. In this solo episode, Jillian breaks down the unconscious behaviors we fall into when we feel out of control—like fighting, fixing, or fleeing—and how they keep us stuck in cycles of disconnection. Whether you're single, dating, or deep in partnership, this episode will help you take ownership of your reactions and shift the dynamic (without waiting for your partner to change first). Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's NEW book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
Today, Jillian dives into a topic that’s quietly damaging relationships everywhere: micro cheating. What counts as cheating in the digital age? Is following an ex on Instagram a red flag—or just harmless history? If you've ever questioned whether your partner's behavior is crossing the line—or if you've caught yourself doing something you'd never do with your partner watching—this conversation will open your eyes. It's not about playing morality police; it's about understanding the values you bring to a relationship and being honest with yourself about your actions. Plus, Jillian answers two powerful listener questions—one from someone holding onto hope after a breakup with a struggling partner, and another from someone who's been ghosted after a promising connection. Record and submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://askjillian.com/ Order Jillian's NEW book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at hello@jillianonlove.com Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
 
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