Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship.

If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again.

Part 1: The Absurdity of Relationships & Why Fun Disappears

• Why long-term relationships naturally become too serious—and how that kills connection.
• The big mistake couples make when they try to fix a stale relationship with logic.
• The Absurdity Principle: Why embracing the ridiculousness of lifelong commitment is the key to making it work.
• Rate your relationship’s fun level—if it’s below a 7, you need this episode.

Part 2: 3 Ways to Bring Back Fun & Playfulness

1. The Surrender Date – Letting go of control leads to the best experiences.

• One partner plans everything—location, outfits, food, activities. The other just goes along for the ride.
• Why it works: Builds trust, creates surprise and excitement, and shakes up the usual relationship dynamic.
• Ideas to try: Blindfolded Outfit Challenge, Trying a Completely New Activity, or Over-the-Top Themed Date Night.

• Inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway?, this game-based approach adds humor, novelty, and unpredictability into your relationship.
• Game options:
• Questions Only – Every response must be a question!
• Scenes From a Hat – Act out funny, flirty, or ridiculous scenarios.
• Props – Grab an object and invent as many crazy uses for it as possible.
• Want more scenes? Download the free list of 25 Couples Scenes From a Hat! [https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/]

• Ideas include: Couples dance classes, roller skating, sexy partner workouts, or even body painting.
• Why it works: Moving together builds chemistry in ways that words can’t.

Key Takeaways:

People may not stop loving each other—but they often stop having fun together.

You don’t just fall into playfulness—you have to create it.

Trying something new together shakes up routines and reintroduces attraction.

Call to Action:

Pick one approach and try it this week. DM Ellen or tag her in the P3 Insider's Community with your best moment!

Want more fun ideas? Grab the free Scenes From a Hat download at [YourLandingPage.com]!

Need help making this work? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com

Closing Thoughts:

"We all want fun, exciting, and playful relationships, but fun doesn’t just happen. You have to make space for it. You have to create it. And yeah, sometimes that takes effort. But wasn’t planning fun dates exciting when you first started dating? It was work, but it was high-reward work."

Start small – Pick just one playful thing this week.

Schedule it if you have to – Spontaneity is a myth; even early dating was planned.

Push through the awkwardness – Fun feels weird at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.

Support & Resources:

Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.

All links can be found below.

"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen Dorian

Disclaimer:

The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.

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