What exactly is the mental load? It’s the often-unseen cognitive work of planning, organizing, remembering, and managing daily life, tasks that disproportionately fall on women, especially moms. From coordinating appointments to keeping the pantry stocked, this invisible labor can feel endless.

Because it is mostly unrecognized, the mental load is difficult to explain, hard to delegate, and rarely appreciated. It quietly consumes mental space, leaving less room for creativity, presence, or rest.

When unbalanced, the mental load can drain energy, build resentment, and create emotional distance in relationships. It can also affect intimacy and lower sexual desire.

In this episode, host Lalaina Rabary talks with relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip to explore the real impact of the mental load. They discuss how imbalance affects connection, why desire often fades under pressure, and share practical conversation starters to help partners better understand and divide responsibilities.

Episode Highlights

• 00:58 What is the Mental Load?
• 01:38 How Motherhood Changed Dr. Morgan’s Experience
• 03:19 How Resentment Builds
• 07:15 What Dr. Morgan Changed in Her Relationship
• 09:14 Motherhood and Becoming “Needless”
• 11:56 Changing Relationship Dynamics
• 18:24 The Mental Load’s Effect on Intimacy
• 21:14 Why Women Often Carry the Mental Load
• 23:55 Dr. Morgan’s New Book, A Better Share
• 25:35 A Positive Outlook on Progress
• 29:01 Mantras and Affirmations for Those with a Heavy Mental Load

About the Guest: Dr. Morgan Cutlip

Dr. Morgan Cutlip is a psychologist, author, and relationship expert known for her relatable and research-based guidance. She helps people navigate emotional and intimate challenges with practical tools and grounded advice.

She holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and a master’s in human development and family science. Through her books, courses, podcast, and blog at MyLoveThinks.com, she offers fresh insights that are both actionable and compassionate. Dr. Morgan is the author of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself and A Better Share, and she is a mom of two.

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Dr. Morgan Cutlip
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About the Podcast: Momcozy Village – Together We Grow
Momcozy Village: Together We Grow is a podcast where moms gather to learn, share, and support each other. Hosted by Lalaina Rabary, each episode features inspiring conversations on motherhood—from career transitions to mental health and beyond.

Backed by Momcozy, makers of innovative wearable breast pumps and cozy nursing bras, the podcast is part of a movement to empower moms through every phase of early motherhood.

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