You’ve heard it all when it comes to self-care: grab a coffee, get a massage, sip some tea. But Dr. Phyllis realized something important—real self-care isn’t something you schedule. It’s something you reclaim.

For a long time, self-care felt impossible to fit in. She was running from one thing to the next, barely catching her breath. And when she did squeeze in a moment for herself, it often felt like just another task. The activity might have been labeled “self-care,” but it wasn’t actually reaching her soul.

That’s when everything shifted. She began to see that self-care isn’t a temporary escape. It’s a daily realignment. Unless it addresses your depletion, it’s just surface-level maintenance. True care goes deeper.

It required asking a different question: What is your soul actually striving for?

Here are three myths Dr. Phyllis believes keep people stuck:

1. Self-care is a reward you get when everything’s done. In truth, it should be a rhythm, not a reward.
2. Self-care is a moment. Soul care is a mindset—it shapes how you move through life, not just how you pause.
3. Self-care is selfish. It's not. When done from a soul-centered place, it’s necessary and deeply sustaining.

Quotes from Todays’ Episode:

“True self care isn't about as much a temporary escape, it's about a daily realignment.”

"But when you come at it from the soul care perspective, it is a necessity. God wants you to be your very best, your very best."

(00:00 )The Self-Care Myth

(04:18) Stressful Rush to Relaxation

(07:56) Redefining Self-Care Boundaries

(10:27) True Self-Care is Daily Realignment

(13:51) Soul Care vs. Surface Care

(17:45) Holistic Self-Care Responsibility

(23:13) Soul Care: Essential Self Renewal

(25:07) Shift Focus: Soul Care Essentials

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