Presence doesn’t show up on its own—we have to create it. That’s something Dr. Phyllis knows deeply, both personally and professionally. In this episode, she shares why making presence a daily priority is one of the most powerful shifts we can make in our lives.

For a long time, Dr. Phyllis was going through the motions. Life felt like a loop—autopilot routines, passive days, and that quiet question many of us ask: When do I actually start enjoying life? She knew she wanted more time with God. More focus on her health. More energy. But she hadn’t taken ownership of her presence—and that was the missing piece.

Presence is active. It doesn’t happen just because we want it. We have to choose it, daily. And when we don’t, it’s easy to fall into patterns of disconnection, wondering how we got so far away from what matters.

In this conversation, Dr. Phyllis introduces her signature PAUSE Method—a simple, powerful framework that helps you intentionally create moments of presence in your everyday life.

P — Prepare your mindset daily

A — Anchor in awareness

U — Use micro moments wisely

S — Surrender what you can’t control

E — Engage fully where your feet are

Presence is a daily yes. And it’s one you can start saying right now. What’s one trigger that pulls you out of presence? Start there. Because when you can name it, you can start creating the space to pause—on purpose.

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

"I was living a life on autopilot where I was just going through the motions, being so disconnected about from what was going on around me."

"Presence is not something others create for you.”

(00:00) Living on Autopilot, Unengaged

(04:00) "Capturing Moments, Missing Life"

(11:11) Harness Micro Moments Mindfully

(13:49) "Embrace Presence, Release Burdens"

(15:37) "Practicing Presence Intentionally

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