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🗣️ Take a breath, see the mirror, it's only trying to help you get what you "really" want.
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It's wild how often we look at relationship drama and think the other person is the problem. We believe that what we're searching for is held by someone else, or that they're somehow withholding what we want most. This assumption paints a world that is not a very nice place.But what if all your external relationships—from your partner to a tree you pass on the street—are fundamentally in service to helping you heal the relationship you have with yourself?In this deeply honest sharing, Tiger Singleton breaks down the Illusion of Seeking and shows you the vital, painful, and often beautiful mechanism of the mirror.Relationships are not the prize, they are the road map. They show you yourself. If you see something ugly or feel hatred toward someone, you are experiencing the conflict you have within. The pain of conflict is an alarm that tells you: the way you’re seeing is not to see what is.The goal isn't to change what's in the mirror; the goal is to see something different—to see something with more love. This requires courageous self-honesty, vulnerability, and letting the truth be the truth.Stop trying to find a human being to rescue you. You can't have a deeply beautiful relationship with anyone else until you have a deeply beautiful relationship with yourself.
VIDEO CHAPTERS/Topics
00:00 | Introduction: Why Relationships Are Here to Heal You
00:46 | The Illusion of Seeking in the World
04:09 | The World as a Mirror of Self
06:14 | The Tree Analogy (Seeing Your Own Conflict)
09:56 | Giving to Another is Giving to Yourself
13:29 | Relationships Are For Healing Your Inner Conflict
17:21 | The Desire to Be Rescued (The Trap)
19:39 | The Mirror Cannot Be Wrong
21:39 | How to Heal What You See (Seeing with Love)
24:11 | Life is 100% in Support of You
26:05 | The Opportunity for Deep Honesty
28:43 | The Cost of Avoiding Vulnerability
32:25 | Conclusion: Be Still, Open Up, Love More
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