Trauma shapes our intimate relationships far more than most of us realize. In this revealing conversation, Darci and Brandon explore how the wounds we carry from childhood create unconscious patterns in our adult relationships.
What if the key to deep connection isn't understanding your partner's love language, but rather their trauma language? As Darci explains, true intimacy means being "deeply seen and known without having to perform," yet our unresolved wounds often make this vulnerability feel impossible. Each time we're triggered, we're essentially teleported back to a younger version of ourselves—responding not to the present situation, but to what our nervous system remembers from the past.
The good news? Through understanding the body's language and creating compassionate relationships with these younger parts of ourselves, healing is possible. Brandon's moving poem about reconnecting with "little Brandon" demonstrates how we can offer ourselves the safety, protection and love we always deserved.
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[00:00:00] Intro and welcome
[00:08:00] How Marriage Affects Self-Discovery
[00:17:00] Understanding Trauma in Relationships
[00:29:00] The Science of the Nervous System
[00:38:00] Parts Work and Inner Child Healing
[00:55:00] Creating Relationship with Younger Self
[01:10:00] Brandon's Poem to Little Brandon