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The radio call comes in. A student’s refusing to move, and suddenly, everyone’s looking at you to fix it.
Here’s what nobody ever told us in grad school: defiance and dysregulation can look the same from the outside, but they require completely different responses.
This episode gives you a clear, evidence-based way to figure out the difference, match the right tool to the right circumstance, and keep your cool when the pressure’s on.
Join for the masterclass Oct 19: schoolforschoolcounselors.com/mastermind
References
Corrigan, F. M., Fisher, J. J., & Nutt, D. J. (2011). Autonomic dysregulation and the window of tolerance model of the effects of complex emotional trauma. Journal of Psychopharmacology, 25(1), 17-25.
Lebowitz, E. R., Panza, K. E., & Bloch, M. H. (2016). Family accommodation in obsessive-compulsive and anxiety disorders: A five-year update. Expert Review of Neurotherapeutics, 16(1), 45-53.
Shahan, T. A. (2022). Explaining extinction and relapse. Journal of the Experimental Analysis of Behavior, 117(3), 360-375.
Siegel, D. J. (2012). The developing mind: How relationships and the brain interact to shape who we are (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.
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All names, stories, and case studies in this episode are fictionalized composites drawn from real-world circumstances. Any resemblance to actual students, families, or school personnel is coincidental. Details have been altered to protect privacy.
Chapters
1. Defiance vs. Dysregulation: The Split-Second Call That Changes Everything (00:00:00)
2. The Call From The Cafeteria (00:00:12)
3. Stakes Of The First Move (00:00:24)
4. Walking Into The Room (00:01:16)
5. Why Getting It Wrong Hurts Kids (00:02:47)
6. Marcus: When Anxiety Is Avoidance (00:05:32)
7. A Field Framework: Reading Cues (00:08:27)
8. Jordan: True Shutdown And Co‑Regulation (00:11:59)
9. Mia: Boundaries That Build Tolerance (00:14:28)
10. Confirmation Questions That Clarify (00:16:17)
11. Four Costly Mistakes Counselors Make (00:20:27)
12. Applying The Read In Real Time (00:25:58)
13. Gray Zones, Scripts, And Campus Buy‑In (00:27:29)
14. Masterclass Invite And Next Steps (00:28:29)
15. Tomorrow’s Plan And Closing (00:29:50)
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