Ever have that feeling after a win that you’re still losing somewhere?

Crush your numbers at work, but you’re disconnected to your family

Train hard and eat clean, but you missed out on the social time with friends. Say yes to one thing, and it feels like you’re saying no to something that matters more.

That tension? That constant low-key guilt and pressure?

It’s not a scheduling issue. It’s not a discipline problem. It’s a mindset issue.

That’s why I brought Dr. Nick Holton back on the Coming Up Clutch with J.R.™ show. Nick’s one of the leading experts on human flourishing and anti-fragility, and he breaks down the real reason why high performers feel so pulled and so stuck (Hint: We’re wired for either/or thinking in a world that demands both/and leadership).

In this episode, you will hear:

• The trap of either/or thinking — and how to break free from it
• Why your biggest limitations are likely self-imposed
• The burnout–values connection no one’s talking about
• The 4% rule for building next-level resilience
• How to move through discomfort without tapping out

Key Quotes

• “Where do we do our dot connecting? We do it when our mind is wandering. How do you get your mind to wander? Turn it the hell off.” - Dr. Nick Holton

Connect with Dr. Nick Holton

• The Antifragile Athlete: https://theantifragileacademy.com
• FlourishFM Podcast: flourishfmpodcast.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.nickholton/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/dr_nickholton
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nick-holton-maed-phd-8233a215/

Connect with J.R.

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamesJRreid
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamesjrreid/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamesjrreid/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jamesJRreid
• Website: jamesreid.com
• Check out The Clutch Club™️: jamesreid.com/club (For Men Only)

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