Welcome to the show! If you're over 40 and finding yourself chasing unavailable guys while searching for Mr. Right, this episode is for you. I’m sharing the final part of my three-part series on the Let Love In framework. This is the exact process that transformed my love life from “hot mess express” to happily married in my 40s—and it’s the same framework I’ve been teaching as a dating coach for over 15 years.

In this episode, we’re diving into the third and final part: "In"—Trusting in Your Heart and Connecting to Your True Self.

Why Connecting to Your True Self Matters

When you’re disconnected from your true self, it’s easy to fall into unhealthy patterns—chasing unavailable partners, ignoring red flags, or trusting others over your own intuition. But when you’re deeply connected to your true self, everything changes. You recognize what you truly want, trust your intuition, and naturally attract the love you deserve.

I shared stories of two clients who experienced this transformation:

Client #1: She went from seeking validation from emotionally unavailable men to meeting someone who truly saw her and loved her for who she was.

Client #2: Despite severe anxiety about dating apps due to childhood trauma, she used this process to build confidence, find joy in dating, and enjoy meaningful connections.

The Impact of Disconnection

If you’re not connected to your true self, you might find yourself:

• Chasing romantic fantasies rather than reality.
• Trusting others over your intuition, ignoring actions that don’t match their words.
• Dating people you don’t truly like—or who don’t like you back.

Sound familiar? These patterns keep you stuck in a cycle of heartbreak and self-doubt.

How to Connect to Your True Self

Here are three steps to help you trust in your heart and connect deeply with yourself:

Celebrate and Express Yourself- Pick a creative outlet—cooking, painting, dancing, writing (even badly!). Regular self-expression allows you to feel at home in your own skin and lets your unique essence shine.

Manifest Your Desires- Get clear on what you truly want in a partner and a relationship. Create a vision board, write a list, or even draw it out. Speak these desires aloud and feel them in your heart.

Live Your Truth in Love- Stop trying to cater to others’ expectations. When you show up authentically and fully yourself, you’ll naturally attract the kind of partner who loves and values the real you.

Letting Go of Control

Yes, letting go of control is hard—especially if you’re a planner like me. But when you allow the universe to surprise and delight you, incredible things can happen.

So, ask yourself: Are you willing to stop wasting time and energy on the wrong people and start trusting your heart to lead you to the love you deserve?

If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to reflect:

Are you truly connected to your heart and your desires? How can you start expressing yourself and living your truth today?

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