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You know the drill: you plan the family vacation like a spreadsheet-wielding wizard, but you still haven’t scheduled that doctor’s appointment. You can hyperfocus on a creative project for hours, but your laundry is now a sentient being. You never miss game night—but you forgot your kid’s permission slip again.
Cue the judgment:
- “If you really wanted to do it, you would.”
- “If it really mattered to you, you’d remember.”
And yeah… that sounds reasonable. But it’s also not the whole story.
In this episode, we’re digging into one of the most damaging struggles with ADHD — the idea that your inconsistent follow-through means you don’t care enough, or you’re not trying hard enough.
Here’s what we’re unpacking:
- What situational variability really means (and why your brain can’t “just do it” on command)
- The deeper story behind the interest-based nervous system—and why interest alone isn’t enough
- How dopamine, emotion, and working memory mess with motivation
- The shame spiral this myth creates, and why it’s so hard to escape it
- How to reframe the problem, repair relationships, and start building consistency with ADHD-friendly tools and support
✨ Whether you're the ADHDer struggling to show up consistently — or the person on the other side of the hurt — this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on, and what you can do about it.
💬 Listener Reflection Prompt:
Where have you confused inconsistency with not caring? What kind of support — or conversation — could help bridge that gap?
🎧 If this hit home for you, share it with someone who needs to hear it: a partner, a parent, a friend, a coworker. Understanding is the first step to healing the disconnect.
Resources
- https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-motivation-problems-getting-started-on-tough-projects/?srsltid=AfmBOorYiX5S2OCrzCVSMd986hO5cLep0S6bJeQ9uu2cVlvfeLT5bJ0c
- https://chadd.org/adhd-news/adhd-news-adults/how-to-deal-with-situational-variability/
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