Picture this: You’ve been everything to everyone all day. You crushed it at work, made sure everything ran smoothly at home, handled a million things no one even noticed—then crawled into bed feeling like somehow, it still wasn’t enough. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and this episode is for you.

Today, I’m talking about the Good Girl Trap. You know, the one that teaches us to be polite, accommodating, hardworking, self-sacrificing... and ultimately invisible. For so many of us—especially Black women—this trap was set before we even knew who we were. And it’s exhausting.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what it means to be caught in the “Good Girl” archetype, how it shows up in our daily lives (and bodies), and why it’s costing us our peace, health, and authenticity. And most importantly, I’m sharing how we begin to unlearn this and come back home to ourselves.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• The invisible labor of being “good” and why it’s so deeply ingrained
• How the good girl conditioning shows up in our bodies as burnout, anxiety, and resentment
• The connection between people-pleasing and survival, especially for Black women
• Why saying “yes” when you mean “no” chips away at your peace
• The generational weight of watching our mothers, aunties, and grandmothers never sit down
• How childhood roles-especially for eldest daughters shape our adult identities
• That moment when I ignored my body and regretted it (a New Year’s Eve story I won’t forget)
• What it really means to reclaim yourself- and why rest isn’t a reward, it’s your right

The good girl doesn’t exist for your freedom, she exists for other people’s comfort. But here, we’re choosing something different. We’re choosing wholeness over performance, rest over burnout, and truth over politeness.

If you’re realizing you’ve been carrying way too much for way too long, I see you. You’re not broken. You’re conditioned. And the good news? You can unlearn it. So start small-say no when you mean it. Sit down when you’re tired. Ask yourself what you want, not what will make everyone else comfortable. Reclaim yourself, one brave choice at a time.