In this rich and relatable episode, Chase and Carly dive deep into one of the most universal parts of being human—relationships. From the way we load the dishwasher to the way we handle hurt, this conversation unpacks the invisible rules and shoulds that quietly run our homes, marriages, and friendships.

If you’ve ever wondered why the smallest things trigger big emotions...

If you feel like you’re constantly managing how others feel...

If you’re ready to experience connection without losing yourself—

this episode will hit home.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “rules” like how to roll toothpaste can quietly sabotage relationships
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• The 3 foundational principles that bring freedom back into connection
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• How your nervous system shapes the way you love and react
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• What “interdependence” really means (and why enmeshment feels like love—but isn’t)
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• How to build relationships where both people stay whole
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• Why curiosity is biologically incompatible with fight or flight
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• The surprising power of “want matching” and emotional ownership
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🎧 Listen and learn how to reclaim ownership of your emotions, your wants, and your relationships—without needing anyone else to change first.

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